what does it mean?

I like a friend who is at uni now. He comes back to visit sometimes. When we are alone, we get a little touchy. + We were holding hands before he left last time (and we hug a lot too). Its not exactly how I'd behave with a friend who is just a friend.
I heard that he was doing the same stuff with a girl he liked in uni for a while..

So I'm kinda confused now.. is he just fooling around with me? or is he just being friends? or does he actually have feelings for me?

Reply 1

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3

Er, has it ever gone further than friendship? ie kissing, fondling, sex?

Reply 2

A Y A Z

11

YOU have feelings for him. He's just your friend. Holding hands or being 'touchy' doesn't mean that he likes you as something other than a friend.

Forget about it and just have fun with your friend.

Reply 3

username47781

20

Either he fancies you or just wants to get in your underwear, but if he was doing the same stuff at uni to another girl it would suggest he is fooling around, if your not comfortable tell him not to do it.

Reply 4

A Y A Z

11

That would work you. Why don't you ask him why he gets 'touchy' next time he DOES? Or ask him if he thinks of you as 'more than a friend'.

Reply 5

A Y A Z

11

False alarm. She HEARD. Stories tend to be exaggerated.

(edited 4 years ago)

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

OP

i mean touching or stroking my face, leg, hair or hand... apart from the hugs... somehow i dont feel like he's just fooling around.. but that girl at uni thing makes me wonder..

Reply 7

Tonka2

maybe u should talk to him about how he feels.

Reply 8

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3

Well, if it hasnt gone to sexual touching, maybe he just views you as a really close friend? And if so, its not really cheating, hes just close friends with someone else.

Reply 9

A Y A Z

11

Well you don't want to be used do you? Tell him to stop it the next time he does it. Explain it to him that you feel he is using you as he does the same thing else where. If he likes you, he won't see that Uni girl again.

Reply 10

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3

Er, why cant he see the other girl? You two dont seem to be in a relationship. Admittedly the stroking thing is probably confusing, but if after being so close to you and stroking you he hasnt made a move, he's probably not going to.

Reply 11

Anonymous #1

OP

well actually this hasnt been going on a very long time.. the last time we met we got closer than before.. :redface:

Reply 12

Greenmile

9

It seems to me that he likes you, and he's trying to see if you like him in the same way.
If he has been like this with a girl at uni then maybe he likes her too! Get in there before she does if you like him.

If he's not been like this before, then it looks like he's testing the water because he wants it to go further.
I had a situation similar to this in my younger days. Used to hold hands a lot and hug, but never did anything about it. When I told him recently I used to fancy him, he said he used to fancy me too. We are both now settled with families, and it's way in the past, but I sort of regret not doing anything at the time.

You should talk to him.

Reply 13

Anonymous #1

OP

Greenmile

It seems to me that he likes you, and he's trying to see if you like him in the same way.
If he has been like this with a girl at uni then maybe he likes her too! Get in there before she does if you like him.

If he's not been like this before, then it looks like he's testing the water because he wants it to go further.
I had a situation similar to this in my younger days. Used to hold hands a lot and hug, but never did anything about it. When I told him recently I used to fancy him, he said he used to fancy me too. We are both now settled with families, and it's way in the past, but I sort of regret not doing anything at the time.

You should talk to him.

oh. thanks :smile:

i'll try and talk to him about it. i have no clue how though.. :redface:

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