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Opposite sex friendship break up/fall out HELP
Recently I fell out with a very close friend of the opposite sex (I am male).
We have known each other a relatively short time - 6-7 months but in that time met up twice and see each other daily at school etc.
She has gone 'sour' on me for some reason which I then found out was because she thought I had become too close for comfort and she didn't like it.
After this in August she said 'I just don't want to talk to you' and she proceeded to block me on MSN, change her mobile number and also, leave horrible comments on my bebo which I have ignored.
I found out that she has forgiven me and she isn't annoyed but she 'just doesn't like me any more' (from a secret source close to me)!
This brought me to tears (and I don't cry over nothing!) because it has been ages since we spoke (August) and I can't understand how she can continue to be so horrible and unforgiving and unrelenting when she hasn't said a word to me directly.
I thought friends were for life, not for christmas and she knows how much I want to be friends again but every email is ignored and I found out she finds them annoying so what can I do?
Worth noting I see her every day at sixth form and this makes it REALLY hard because want to talk to her but she doesn't even look at me directly!
We have known each other a relatively short time - 6-7 months but in that time met up twice and see each other daily at school etc.
She has gone 'sour' on me for some reason which I then found out was because she thought I had become too close for comfort and she didn't like it.
After this in August she said 'I just don't want to talk to you' and she proceeded to block me on MSN, change her mobile number and also, leave horrible comments on my bebo which I have ignored.
I found out that she has forgiven me and she isn't annoyed but she 'just doesn't like me any more' (from a secret source close to me)!
This brought me to tears (and I don't cry over nothing!) because it has been ages since we spoke (August) and I can't understand how she can continue to be so horrible and unforgiving and unrelenting when she hasn't said a word to me directly.
I thought friends were for life, not for christmas and she knows how much I want to be friends again but every email is ignored and I found out she finds them annoying so what can I do?
Worth noting I see her every day at sixth form and this makes it REALLY hard because want to talk to her but she doesn't even look at me directly!
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Reply 1
thats women for you mate....
Reply 3
Ignore her. If she doesn't want your friendship then don't waste any of your time and energy on her - she's made it clear that she doesn't value you as a friend and as such you don't need to bother with her.
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Recently I fell out with a very close friend of the opposite sex (I am male).
We have known each other a relatively short time - 6-7 months but in that time met up twice and see each other daily at school etc.
She has gone 'sour' on me for some reason which I then found out was because she thought I had become too close for comfort and she didn't like it.
After this in August she said 'I just don't want to talk to you' and she proceeded to block me on MSN, change her mobile number and also, leave horrible comments on my bebo which I have ignored.
I found out that she has forgiven me and she isn't annoyed but she 'just doesn't like me any more' (from a secret source close to me)!
This brought me to tears (and I don't cry over nothing!) because it has been ages since we spoke (August) and I can't understand how she can continue to be so horrible and unforgiving and unrelenting when she hasn't said a word to me directly.
I thought friends were for life, not for christmas and she knows how much I want to be friends again but every email is ignored and I found out she finds them annoying so what can I do?
Worth noting I see her every day at sixth form and this makes it REALLY hard because want to talk to her but she doesn't even look at me directly!
We have known each other a relatively short time - 6-7 months but in that time met up twice and see each other daily at school etc.
She has gone 'sour' on me for some reason which I then found out was because she thought I had become too close for comfort and she didn't like it.
After this in August she said 'I just don't want to talk to you' and she proceeded to block me on MSN, change her mobile number and also, leave horrible comments on my bebo which I have ignored.
I found out that she has forgiven me and she isn't annoyed but she 'just doesn't like me any more' (from a secret source close to me)!
This brought me to tears (and I don't cry over nothing!) because it has been ages since we spoke (August) and I can't understand how she can continue to be so horrible and unforgiving and unrelenting when she hasn't said a word to me directly.
I thought friends were for life, not for christmas and she knows how much I want to be friends again but every email is ignored and I found out she finds them annoying so what can I do?
Worth noting I see her every day at sixth form and this makes it REALLY hard because want to talk to her but she doesn't even look at me directly!
From what I've read, it sounds like she's a rubbish friend. You seem like a nice person and you deserve so much better! You've done enough for her friendship, but in return, she's acting really immature and selfish.Unfortunately, the situation does look like she's not giving into you and it also looks as if she's enjoying the attention especially when you're emailing her alot. She's doing alot of nasty things to you and I know it's harsh to say ....but she sounds like a bitch and she isn't not worth the friendship; I'm sure you can find many better friends than her.
Hmm...the reason she's breaking the friendship is because you're being too close for her comfort?
Did you use to fancy her?
Reply 7
I did used to fancy her and she knew about this but said she found it really sweet and just felt guilty about it because she didn't fancy me.
I accepted this however and didn't chase the issue and just stayed friends and I think she knew I wasn't going to try anything more than friends.
If she still thinks that I fancy her and just want to get with her then its rather immature IMO because the emails she has got from me have been really emotional and we did have something special and I'm not going into why because it is personal.
She was always a good friend and she always stuck by me during hard times.
Should add that we did have a few petty arguements but always made up and my source has said she 'doesn't think I deserve another chance'.
Basicly I didn't ever properly appreciate her and what she did now I do and what is one more chance?
Really sticks the knife in because she is trying now to get close to my sister who is in yr 8! If she can be friends with her then why not me.
Its been a while since we talked properly being nearly a month now.
I accepted this however and didn't chase the issue and just stayed friends and I think she knew I wasn't going to try anything more than friends.
If she still thinks that I fancy her and just want to get with her then its rather immature IMO because the emails she has got from me have been really emotional and we did have something special and I'm not going into why because it is personal.
She was always a good friend and she always stuck by me during hard times.
Should add that we did have a few petty arguements but always made up and my source has said she 'doesn't think I deserve another chance'.
Basicly I didn't ever properly appreciate her and what she did now I do and what is one more chance?
Really sticks the knife in because she is trying now to get close to my sister who is in yr 8! If she can be friends with her then why not me.
Its been a while since we talked properly being nearly a month now.
Reply 8
Anyone else got any suggestions please?
Can't get my head around this and been month or two now!
Is it time to talk to her face to face?
Can't get my head around this and been month or two now!
Is it time to talk to her face to face?
Reply 9
just forget about her, i had a "friend" like this once. Ill leave out the details tho, as despite what i say below, id still rather not get busted should our paths ever cross again (which ive learnt, is actually very likely)
anyway cut to the chase (im a guy), We met by chance and fell for each other in a very big way, but lived opposite ends of the country so could only be friends. Soon after we met she went through a very bad time and i was the first person she came to for help (before even her parents) so i tried as best i could, (and repeatedly told me she was grateful and i was, quote, "a really good friend"). We did meet up a couple of times, One day though we decided and agreed it would probably be best to put a bit of distance between us as we still liked each other a lot (well...she said she did).
A few months later i txtd her a couple of times just to say good luck for her AS exams and see how things were going for her, and straight from the mark she just replied by throwing back everything id ever said to her try and help her, I tried to reply and ask exactly what i did wrong so i could apologize, but just got txts that hurt me more than i thought possible. Whether she was going though another rough patch or not i dont know and tbh dont care, as there was and is no excuse for what she said.
THEN, about 9 months later (~10 months ago) she randomly starts talking to me over the net like we'd been best friends the whole time, but having tried to email her a couple of times since just to try and patch things up a bit (before our paths inevitably "cross again"), once again we havent spoken.
My advice is quite simple though you probably wont like it:
Give up and forget about her m8, some gals you think are fairly normal when you meet them, just turn out to be two-faced, immature b*tches who just think the whole world owes them a favour.
anyway cut to the chase (im a guy), We met by chance and fell for each other in a very big way, but lived opposite ends of the country so could only be friends. Soon after we met she went through a very bad time and i was the first person she came to for help (before even her parents) so i tried as best i could, (and repeatedly told me she was grateful and i was, quote, "a really good friend"). We did meet up a couple of times, One day though we decided and agreed it would probably be best to put a bit of distance between us as we still liked each other a lot (well...she said she did).
A few months later i txtd her a couple of times just to say good luck for her AS exams and see how things were going for her, and straight from the mark she just replied by throwing back everything id ever said to her try and help her, I tried to reply and ask exactly what i did wrong so i could apologize, but just got txts that hurt me more than i thought possible. Whether she was going though another rough patch or not i dont know and tbh dont care, as there was and is no excuse for what she said.
THEN, about 9 months later (~10 months ago) she randomly starts talking to me over the net like we'd been best friends the whole time, but having tried to email her a couple of times since just to try and patch things up a bit (before our paths inevitably "cross again"), once again we havent spoken.
My advice is quite simple though you probably wont like it:
Give up and forget about her m8, some gals you think are fairly normal when you meet them, just turn out to be two-faced, immature b*tches who just think the whole world owes them a favour.
Reply 10
Thank you for the replies 
Last poster,
I don't agree with your advice although I know its best to do just as you said.
Right now I'm leaving things where they stand as I believe there could be the chance she will talk to me again but then when thinking about it don't feel quite so sure.
And as I said before, so much harder seeing her every day which is nothing like getting over a 'friend' who lived far away....
Oh well
Last poster,
I don't agree with your advice although I know its best to do just as you said.
Right now I'm leaving things where they stand as I believe there could be the chance she will talk to me again but then when thinking about it don't feel quite so sure.
And as I said before, so much harder seeing her every day which is nothing like getting over a 'friend' who lived far away....
Oh well
Anonymous
Thank you for the replies
Last poster,
I don't agree with your advice although I know its best to do just as you said.
Right now I'm leaving things where they stand as I believe there could be the chance she will talk to me again but then when thinking about it don't feel quite so sure.
And as I said before, so much harder seeing her every day which is nothing like getting over a 'friend' who lived far away....
Oh well
Last poster,
I don't agree with your advice although I know its best to do just as you said.
Right now I'm leaving things where they stand as I believe there could be the chance she will talk to me again but then when thinking about it don't feel quite so sure.
And as I said before, so much harder seeing her every day which is nothing like getting over a 'friend' who lived far away....
Oh well
It takes time to get over someone, If she's acting funny with you and being nasty talking behind your back with other friends. She's not worth the friendship at all! Obviously she's taking advantage of you; she knows that you fancy her and if she acts pathetic with you, you'll still try to be her friend... thats the way things go. And she probably likes the attention.
You should try to aviod her at school, do activities that would keep you busy, perhaps... talk to a very close friend of yours who can consider your feelings and let it all out cos once you do; you feel so much better. Let her come to you and if she does then be friends. If she doesn't, leave it.
But I don't know why you both are not friends cos i don't know the situation fully... all I know is ' She has gone 'sour' on me for some reason which I then found out was because she thought I had become too close for comfort and she didn't like it.'
Like someone above said, you seem abit stalkish and desperate... maybe it's the way you're acting that puts her off.
Reply 12
Tbh, you emailing/texting her probably won't help matters... especially if you used to fancy her/still do - sounds harsh but take the hint - she doesn't want to talk to you so stop contacting her. It actually sounds like you've done something to upset her and you know what it is as you keep talking about forgiveness and chances... if there wasn't anything and she just turned then she would be a totally nutcase? Obviously whatever it was was a big deal to her so... well, you've made your bed so lie in it!
And for the record, one more chance is a big deal!
And for the record, one more chance is a big deal!
I think that you both have mental issues. You need to ignore her and get a grip on reality: why on earth are you attracted to a parasitical, overbearing, haughty bitch who finds amusement in your begging, and finds the concept of friendship an insult? I reckon that if you completely ignore her she'll eventually come back to you, like an immature and spoilt child; then you can reject her like she did to you, and you'll come out better for it.
Reply 14
I am now ignoring her and seeing what happens.
I'm no longer texting or emailing - texting has been closed off because she has changed mobile numbers.
This is the series of events that lead and built up to this though:
July, she says she doesn't like to text as much (she always initated texting) and we sent about 20 a day sometimes more sometimes less.
End of July, in summer holidays she goes all horrible with me saying 'I probably won't be able to talk to you during the holidays because I'll be busy'. She went on holiday for a grand total of 2 and a half our of the 5 weeks and never once contacted me the whole of the 5 weeks.
August, she finally comes out and says that I had become too close for comfort - but then she said the reason she had been so 'off' with me was because she thought we were becoming too close and that I had 'scared' her.
It was ALWAYS her that initiated texting so don't accuse me of being a stalker.
So it took nearly 2 months for her to tell me what I had done to upset her and then she said after explaining why she had been like she was that she didn't think we should talk any more.
Also needs to be added that I had changed slightly in personality because I had a serious medical problem at the time (early July) and would text her more to get support, a friend to be there for me etc. Little did I know she felt so much against me.
She was always there for me and she knows she was a good friend and I think she was but right now its eating me up.
I'm no longer texting or emailing - texting has been closed off because she has changed mobile numbers.
This is the series of events that lead and built up to this though:
July, she says she doesn't like to text as much (she always initated texting) and we sent about 20 a day sometimes more sometimes less.
End of July, in summer holidays she goes all horrible with me saying 'I probably won't be able to talk to you during the holidays because I'll be busy'. She went on holiday for a grand total of 2 and a half our of the 5 weeks and never once contacted me the whole of the 5 weeks.
August, she finally comes out and says that I had become too close for comfort - but then she said the reason she had been so 'off' with me was because she thought we were becoming too close and that I had 'scared' her.
It was ALWAYS her that initiated texting so don't accuse me of being a stalker.
So it took nearly 2 months for her to tell me what I had done to upset her and then she said after explaining why she had been like she was that she didn't think we should talk any more.
Also needs to be added that I had changed slightly in personality because I had a serious medical problem at the time (early July) and would text her more to get support, a friend to be there for me etc. Little did I know she felt so much against me.
She was always there for me and she knows she was a good friend and I think she was but right now its eating me up.
Reply 15
Good for you, ignore her and see what happens.
Reply 16
What would most of you do?
It is possible for me to talk face to face if that is a suggestion and only other way to contact would be email but for now I am ignoring her which means no emails...
It is possible for me to talk face to face if that is a suggestion and only other way to contact would be email but for now I am ignoring her which means no emails...
Reply 19
Thanks for all the help everyone! Really is appreciated and helpful.
Last thing she said to my sister on msn about me was as follows:
'its not lke i hate him or woteva n im not anoyed i jus dnt want 2 tlk 2 him'.
So is that hopefull or what any suggestions/thoughts?
Last thing she said to my sister on msn about me was as follows:
'its not lke i hate him or woteva n im not anoyed i jus dnt want 2 tlk 2 him'.
So is that hopefull or what any suggestions/thoughts?
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