Need advice on a situation!

5 years, yes, 5 years ago, I met a guy "online" through a site...Started chatting on MSN, exchanged phone numbers, started chatting on the phone. To cut the 5 years short, we have become best friends, get on absolutely brilliantly, talk most evenings, have done throughout the whole period (God, this sounds so stupid written down) doing this.
He's helped me through an awful lot, just as a friend and the same for me him. We both went to boarding schools, both have a fun and varied, fab sort of life at home, both have lots of friends and great social lives.....Yet we've still managed to establish this great friendship, which is so bizarre in the sense that we fell into it, in a way neither of us had before or had since. We've both had a long term girl/boyfriend...But neither for a couple of years, he's been at university and I've just been doing this and that. We're both really attractive, outgoing sorts of people, none of my friends "know" about him really, other than in passing conversations, if they do they don't know how long/how frequently we speak. Same with him...

I'm going away for 7 months soon and we won't be able to speak. It's absolutely ridiculous that we haven't met up, yet he lives about 400 miles away on the opposite side of the country, so we've never crossed paths. We both DO want to meet up and have both mentioned it because I'm going away and we want to...But it would be so bloody awkward because so much water has passed under the bridge, it's such a weird situation because we know each other inside out, yet we don't really know each other at all? I've never, ever met anyone I don't know before and I really don't know how to go about it.

I don't even know why I'm writing this! It's just so confusing, awkward and a predicament...I don't know what to suggest now we've both suggested it in sober conversations as well as, er, "more" in drunk ones.

Reply 1

Dragon24

17

I think before deciding on any feelings you should meet him to see if its the real deal - take a friend with you for safety as you don't want to put yourself in danger. MSN convos a good but you need to see if you click in person.

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

OP

Angel83

I think before deciding on any feelings you should meet him to see if its the real deal - take a friend with you for safety as you don't want to put yourself in danger. MSN convos a good but you need to see if you click in person.

Look, I've known this guy for 5 years....I've spoken to him nearly every day for that length of time. I know he's not a psychopath, I even know people that know him! Safety is not the issue...

Reply 3

Dragon24

17

No need to get angry! Its just how I viewed the situation and why it has taken so long to arrange a meeting? If you know you are not endangered then go, nothings stopping you.

Reply 4

Claire_Elizabeth

1

Meet him! whats the problem! Bite the bullet and go for it!

Reply 5

Lolls

I say meet him! theres no harm in it since you know him so well. If you don't you'll end up regretting it and spending ur 7 months away questioning what would of happened if you did.

Why dont u meet up half way between where you both live and find a coffee shop? at least that way if something did go wrong, they'd be no obligation to stay at his house or him yours...and if things go smoothly you can always meet up the next weekend again.

Reply 6

username47781

20

Angel83

I think before deciding on any feelings you should meet him to see if its the real deal - take a friend with you for safety as you don't want to put yourself in danger. MSN convos a good but you need to see if you click in person.

Not being harsh to the OP but i agree with what Angel says.

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