Where to go?

There's this girl I really like at school and we do pretty similar subjects at school (further maths + chemistry). I'm thinking of asking her to do something with me like this Friday or Saturday but I don't know what. I don't think a movie would be the best idea since she's not 100% fluent in English. I'm not sure if I should ask her as a date kind of thing or just a general friends sort of thing. Either way, where should we go?

Please don't say something like "Go where you think she'd like to go" since I don't know her that well. And going where I'd like to go (a movie) won't really work.

(And before someone goes on about me posting as anonymous, it's because other people from my real life go on here and I don't want them to know about this.)

Reply 1

lil_sweetie

1

How about going out in a big group of friends for a meal or something? Then you can get to know her a bit better without the pressure of it feeling like a date.

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

OP

I would do that but my friends have some strange plans of their own.

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

OP

And I need it to be this weekend (sorry for the double post).

Reply 4

lil_sweetie

1

Then I would just ask her if she wants to go get something to eat, in a cafe or something - just as friends so you can get to know each other a bit better. Then she'll at least know you like her :smile:

Reply 5

Tyler Durden

17

I dunno if a film should necessarily be discounted because she's not fluent in English. I had to watch a film in bloody Swiss German the other day and it wasn't too bad; I speak German, but it was totally different. You can still make out most of it.

But other than that, it really depends where you live, what interests her etc. I mean for example if you live near London and think she might appreciate an art gallery you're pretty sorted - there's a Rodin exhibition going on somewhere.

On the other hand you might prefer just to sit and chat in a cafe. If you don't really know her well (and there's a potential language barrier) I just feel it might be worth doing something which you can then discuss etc.

Hope that helps! If you post a bit more background info someone might come up with something good.

Reply 6

Evil-Tuna

2

Just use the old ''Back to your place *wink wink*''

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

OP

I live in West London. I'll probably ask if she wants to see a film but I'm not sure if she'd be up to it and I'd hate for her to sit there uncomfortably not understanding what's going on. I'm also considering going to the London Eye.

Reply 8

a_t

16

Go Hyde Park on a sunny day

Reply 9

Ourkid

12

^ hyde park - yeah i did that once, totally recommended :biggrin:

its really nice and if you can find a nice romantic spot then its really cool, plus ur really close to shops so if she gets bored, go shopping :biggrin:

goodluck

Reply 10

Anonymous #1

OP

Do you think the London Trocadero would be a good place? How do you even pronounce it (as you can guess, I've never been there despite living in London almost all my life).

Reply 11

Tyler Durden

17

Personally I wouldn't, but you know the girl (a bit!) - would it be her cuppa tea? Why not wander about a bit, go to a park or two, Covent Garden (and watch a street show), museum possibly, a cafe etc. Slightly more spontaneous seeming/less tacky than the Trocadero. If you're wandering about it gives you stuff to talk about too.

Reply 12

Lolls

You could ask her if she wants to go for a coffee/lunch somewhere in central london like covent garden/leister sq and then go for a walk around the cobbled streets..maybe get an ice cream in the hagen daz cafe in leister sq and walk around and watch the street shows. You could then wonder into trocadero and have ago on the bumper cars or go bowling..that might be a fun way of getting to know eachother without the pressure of a formal date..and if it does go well then u could suggest going to see a film -there are like 3 or 4 cinemas there! Tho generally trocadero is full of tourists and hoody clad youths and can get very busy...so if not trocadero, u could walk to trafalgar sq or the national portrait gallery ?

Reply 13

WokSz

17

englishstudent

I dunno if a film should necessarily be discounted because she's not fluent in English. I had to watch a film in bloody Swiss German the other day and it wasn't too bad; I speak German, but it was totally different.

You and I both know how awful Swiss German sounds - it's like a rabbit being strangled with hay.

Anyways, I think a meal is your best option and tell her that it's best you both pay your own share so it's sure it's not a date.

Reply 14

.Andrew.

13

Take her to a nice coffee bar, something real nice, none of this starbucks crap. Might be expensive, but im sure she will appreciate someone making a effort on her.

Movies is no good, you can't talk there, pub, obviously your not old enough to go in one yet?

This sounds a bit 'old man' like, but maybe go for a walk somewhere, and just talk & get to know each other well.

I would also say picnic, but that's a bit ott to start off with... :smile:

Reply 15

Anonymous #1

OP

So if anyone's wondering what happened:

I'm in school and go to our form. As expected, she's not there. So I leave my bag inside and go to the main entrance and wait for her (I wanted to talk to her in private rather than in the middle of our form). I wait for about 20 mins but she hasn't come so I go back to our form and I'm just blankly staring out the window. People ask me why I look so depressed and my form tutor connects it to her. He said something like "He's upset she's not here so he's looking out for her" and a few seconds before that I'd seen her walking up here so I said "Actually she's just coming, but I'm just staring out for no reason". So she walks in and he makes like 3 jokes about us. So we go off to our lessons and I see her walking out the library at break so I asked her "Do you have any plans for tonight?" and she gives me some vague answer "Yeah. I don't know when or with whom but sometime after school they'll call me...it'll probably be the usual place". So obviously I don't bother asking her to go with me.

Then later in our lesson with our form tutor, he makes a few more jokes about us and we discover she has a date after school.

...sigh.

Reply 16

andy_cole2

14

:O thats so sad it seemed so cute :frown:

im so unhappy for u lol if u PM me ur address il rep u like the pittance that i can with my post count lol

and anyway as american dad said on american dad the 'best thing about first love is its the first of many' funny i just watched that episode but yeah think of it like that ul pull through

Reply 17

Anonymous #1

OP

So on Monday I was looking around for her so we could get lunch or something (we're allowed to leave the school during lunch + break) but couldn't find her. Then I'm standing near the entrance wondering what to do when I see her walking INTO the school (which implies she's been out already). So I carefully position myself behind a building and walk away from the entrance (and into the school) in such a way that she'd be right behind me as we walked further into the school. So she said hi and I asked her to come to this park with me (it's where lots of people go during lunch). So we went and we just walked around for 45 mins - talking. And she told me a lot about her boyfriend and I think they've broken up, but I'm sure they're having arguments, so that sort of sadistically cheered me up <_<(although to be fair, she was glad they're over).

So now I'm wondering what to do.

Reply 18

.Andrew.

13

If she has just broken up with her b/f, then give her a little space, and time to get over him. I doubt she will be up for another relationship yet, be a good friend to her, and earn some respect. And later on it might progress.

Reply 19

Shockley

15

A.ndrew

If she has just broken up with her b/f, then give her a little space, and time to get over him. I doubt she will be up for another relationship yet, be a good friend to her, and earn some respect. And later on it might progress.

Absolutely. Be her shoulder to cry on. God you're soooo in there.

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