Don't know what to do

I posted a while ago about a guy I'd met, and how we'd become really close. The thing holding me back however was the fact that I knew he smokes weed. I decided I still like this guy and tried to let this fact pass me, considering the number of people who take drugs. However, now I am on the verge of tears, not knowing what to do.

He knows I don't agree with what he does, and I was just beginning to get used to it. Tonight though, he's told me that he's got to go back home at the weekend, to help a friend with the chopping of it (or whatever they do). This kind of threw me, and to be honest I don't know what to do.

My feelings for him really are strong, and I keep thinking, if it wasn't for the fear of him getting me in trouble on his part, this would be a perfect relationship. So what do I do? We're not officially together. But do I try to change his ways, telling him its the weed or me..or just leave it?

:frown:

Reply 1

Evil-Tuna

2

Aww.

Well if you love him, you'll try to talk to him about etc. He may need to be shown the errors of his ways. A good example of this, is how right-wing people often need to be shown the way to communist/left wing enlightenment.

Good Luck!

Reply 2

a_t

16

Well you can't really get in trouble for his smoking weed, anyways looooaaads of people do weed its not serious, its nothing like smack or cocaine. Though I hate it it ****ing stinks so bad!

Take him and the weed lol

Reply 3

hippieglitter

19

I did weed once and hated it, i'd never ever do it again, but i'm not gonna stop hanging out with my mates cos they are smoking weed. Why does it bother you so much? Its not like he is forceing you to do it too.

Reply 4

MilliBilli

Although doing it a little isn't too bad, be careful. Doing ti too much can be detrimental and DOES have serious side effects.

If it's a major sticking point I say get out before you get too deep. It;s obviously a part of his character and not yours. You don;t want to end yp being in a long term relationship and resenting part of him.

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

OP

It bothers me I suppose because I care about him and don't want him to get in trouble (though thats already happened in just one week). What really bugs me is that he's going back home to do whatever he needs to do to the stuff, when we said we'd try to spend some quality time together this wekend! Guess thats a sign of his priorities? :frown:

Reply 6

Shreerac1

10

You're scared of it because you don't understand it.

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

OP

Shreerac1

You're scared of it because you don't understand it.

your point..? :rolleyes:

i'll try my best to undestand him, but not the drug. Not my thing.

Reply 8

LadyEnglish

2

Hopefully he'll grow out of it :confused:

Weed smoking seems to be a 15-19 period so...hmm lol. Erm I guess you need to decide if it's actually affecting your relationship. Yes you disapprove but it hardly sounds like he wants to stop. Can you work through it?! Or slowly you can just try and help him get off it...toughy...xxx

Reply 9

Shreerac1

10

Anonymous

your point..? :rolleyes:

i'll try my best to undestand him, but not the drug. Not my thing.

Um my point is try to understand not everyone in this world is exactly like you.

Reply 10

Ywiss

15

Shreerac1

Um my point is try to understand not everyone in this world is exactly like you.

And why don't you lecture yourself on that point while you're about it? Try to understand the OP's point of view as well.

Reply 11

lilac!!

15

okay wow
y dont you explain to him about how much you care for him and that him smoking weed is really making u feel bad, im not saying shout at him or anything but just tell him a calm and sweet way to make him understand :smile:

Reply 12

Anonymous #1

OP

Look, I do know there's a lot in this world I don't know about, but surely you can see I'm trying to understand? Its just a question of how much I want to understand, I don't want to get into drugs, myself. Grr now I've lost my trail of thought.

Reply 13

Anonymous #1

OP

lilac!!

okay wow
y dont you explain to him about how much you care for him and that him smoking weed is really making u feel bad, im not saying shout at him or anything but just tell him a calm and sweet way to make him understand :smile:

In my ideal world I would do that no problem. Its just that I don't want to say its me or the weed, right now, because there's no way I want to lose him. :confused:

Reply 14

lilac!!

15

okau so u dont want to loose him, fine but then why not slowly make him understand the importance he holds in your life and that weed is not helping, i mean show him how much u care for him :smile:

Reply 15

Anonymous #1

OP

that sounds like a compromise :smile:

hope we last long enough :redface:

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