Anyone else finding Freshers Week difficult?

It's only my second day here so I know that things will be a bit unsettled for a while, but I am feeling really disorientated and weird about the whole thing. How's everyone else feeling? It feels so odd to be in a completely different place and not have any friends (even though I have been out socialising!)

Reply 1

Anonymous #2

You'll be fine, don't worry about it. I did and ended up locking myself in my room for the first two days. When I finally did surface, I discovered that my corridor mates were absolutely fantastic and that I'd been a big dip**** for being so weirded out.

Reply 2

Scuttle

Anonymous

It's only my second day here so I know that things will be a bit unsettled for a while, but I am feeling really disorientated and weird about the whole thing. How's everyone else feeling? It feels so odd to be in a completely different place and not have any friends (even though I have been out socialising!)

Get off the internet and make some friends.

Reply 3

Tennessee

*sigh* i do wish people would stop slagging people off who are at uni and on the internet. Maybe they dashed on for five minutes? maybe they wanted to e-mail their family for something and came on here quickly after, maybe they wanted to go on msn to find out when they are meeting people....it does not automatically qualify them for being anti-social.

Reply 4

Anonymous #3

im the same as you. ive been stuck here in my room for 2 days, and havent made much friends. they all seem to be in groups now and i dont want to approach them! ill make friends on my course i hope :smile:

Reply 5

The_Bear

13

Don't stay in your room, if you dont want to go out look around for other people staying in.

My first night (well 5am in the morning by the time I came in) i cracked open Unreal Tournament and there were about 10 people on the server, all pissed. It was absolutely hilarious

Reply 6

matt@internet

12

Tennessee

it does not automatically qualify them for being anti-social.

Yes it does.

Reply 7

andyj72

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The_Bear

Don't stay in your room, if you dont want to go out look around for other people staying in.

My first night (well 5am in the morning by the time I came in) i cracked open Unreal Tournament and there were about 10 people on the server, all pissed. It was absolutely hilarious

lol, dude last year after the first night when i came in UT was my saviour too. lol. played it for a couple of mins then went to bed and think only played it 3 or so times thruout my 1st year. lol

Reply 8

The_Bear

13

Yeah i never played again. Worms was all the rage

Reply 9

Sithius

16

What server were you playing on? Just some random one?

What's wrong with UT?

Reply 10

IndieGirl

3

Err this thread was about some poor person's Fresher's anxieties! I can honestly say Fresher's week was the worst week of my entire life, being forced to spend time with people I didn't like, who were only interested in getting drunk and making false and superficial friendships. Don't feel under pressure to socialise in ways you don't feel comfortable, hold out for like minded people on your course or in a society. There's a good deal to be said about quality over quantity when it comes to friends...especially in a place as difficult as university.

Good luck x

Reply 11

Shake 'n Bake

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IndieGirl

Err this thread was about some poor person's Fresher's anxieties! I can honestly say Fresher's week was the worst week of my entire life, being forced to spend time with people I didn't like, who were only interested in getting drunk and making false and superficial friendships. Don't feel under pressure to socialise in ways you don't feel comfortable, hold out for like minded people on your course or in a society. There's a good deal to be said about quality over quantity when it comes to friends...especially in a place as difficult as university.

Good luck x

It's a case of trial and error. I just moved in and everyone seems to be getting along fine except for me

Reply 12

Anonymous #4

Argh!!!!!! I'm im the same kinda situation, except it's worse for me, I have to commute! I did go in though when freshers started, all on my own!!! met a bunch of people (who all live in halls btw), went clubbing with them and now I'm back at uni for my first day I linked with one of the girls, but I just feel SOOOOO WEIRD!!! as if I'm 'just there' cos they all have halls and I'm the one who commutes so I feel kinda isolated.

I hate the fact no groups have been properly formed yet, cos I'm so used to being with my group of friends at college. I just feel like I'm floating about :confused:

. It totally sucks right now :frown:

never felt like this before.

Reply 13

G4ry

1

I hated freshers week. I think i spent most of it by myself, i tried being sociable but some of it was just too cliqué and i know it's intimidating too introducing oneself to about 7 people who all know each other. There'll be plenty of opportunities if you do some sports or societies and people will just chat to you in lectures. I still hate freshers week though - it's still so boring for me as i'm not so good at taking my own advice :frown:

Reply 14

sam_sanchez

I've found it hard. Its hard not having a solid group of friends, not knowing if people liek you etc. But I made an effort to knock on doors, talk to groups that appear in the cooridoor, pop in on people who have their doors open (a sure sign they want company) and it has got a but easier. Hopefully it works and just gets better. It is great to hear I'm not the only one finding it somewhat less than the fun filled fiesta its made out to be. And no, haven't been on the internet all the time - I only got onto the net this evening, and I've been here for four days.

Reply 15

Bluelight

13

My friend phoned me the other day because she was finding freshers difficult and she had gone off really confident about it beforehand, so i was like wtf, its made me really worried now!

Reply 16

Tennessee

Yeah, i guess i'm kinda lucky in that, i've spoken to three people who are already there in second and third year, and one of them has given me their number so that if i ever find myself sat in my room, to give her a call and i can come out with her and her friends. I mean, i think i'd find that a bit awkward knowing that they know each other already...but it's such a kind offer. And also i've got another girls number that seems like my kind of person, starting as a fresher too, so i have some people i can meet up with if i hate my flatmates and am alone! Of course, there IS also one of my best friends across in a different halls to me lol I hope that all that put together will allow a GOOD freshers!

Reply 17

halfoflessthan50p

12

I think a mod should close this thread. Its really scary lol :biggrin:

My plan is just to start drinking as soon as i get there, and not stop till the end of freshers week. I think it'll be the easiest way to get through it

Reply 18

loopylou

the ppl on my corridor are ok, it could be alot worse, i dont go out everynight with them as for once ive decided that if i feel like stayin in n chillin i will, also i cant afford it just yet. i like em all but cant stand them cmin in at 4am n waking me up. these walls r made of paper! apart from that its goin ok so far, bit homesick tho

Reply 19

Rossi82

Freshers week is a weird one. Looking back I had an absolutely great time, but there were moments when I thought "why am I spending time with these people when I really don't seem to be getting on with half of them". But thats the whole reason for freshers week. You meet loads of different people, find the ones you have a connection with and then you're set for the rest of your time at uni.

It is hard at times, sometimes freshers really did feel as if it was forced fun. But if you make the effort you will eventually fall into a group that you feel you've known for your whole life even though you've only been with them for a week.

Getting very drunk also helps of course. It's a bit like that saying "If you remember the 60s, you weren't there."

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