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what to do?

Basically me and my friend are having a joint 18th and I've got a bit of a problem when it comes to what to do about a girl....she started going out with my ex 3 days after we had broken up and had basically been emailing texting msning whilst I was going out with him, but has denied it. (I know what went on between them 100% but they didnt last) I havent spoken to her for about 2/3 months now and don't intend to. But.....we decided to invite everyone in our year because it would only be about 10 we wouldnt be inviting(including this girl) and so thought that would be harsh if we didn't.(They probably won't come anyway) The problem arises when she is good friends with my best friend and soso friends with the friend with whom the 18th is being shared with. I don't want her to come full stop, the girl Im sharing the party with doesnt really mind, but we don't know whether to invite her. It would seem really bitchy to the rest of the year if they foundout this girl was the only one not invited (they dont know what she did) but at the same time I know its incredibly selfish of me but I don't want her to think Im inviting her at all because she a lying, backstabbing person. Should we invited her and risk her turning up? Or not invite her?
Stupid thing I know but has been bothering me!
Thanks
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Reply 1

WokSz

I think you have answered your own question in this matter. Firstly, what she did is very wrong and if by not talking to her at all, you're doing a good thing. Secondly, you said that it would be selfish of you to not invite her. But the thing is it's your birthday party as well, and I feel you reserve the right to invite anybody you want. If your other friend doesn't really mind, then I say you don't invite this girl. Fact of the matter is: it's your party as well, and the rest of the year should not care who is there, and just be happy with the fact that you arranged something for them.

Reply 2

LadyEnglish

Invite her. If the whole year are going, what are the chances she will a) talk to you and b) ruin the party?! It's your party so her being there will hardly change it much. And anyway if she knows you don't like her and that the whole year are going, she'll probably guess she had to be invited and may not turn up...good luck with it xxx