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Boyfriend not too good at pleasuring me

My boyfriend is obsessed with giving me pleasure, if you know what I mean. The problem is that he is not very good. I have to lie there and pretend to enjoy it. Should i say nothing or should I tell him I am not happy, and if the latter how the hell do I tell him?? :rolleyes:

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Reply 1

*starry_eyed_*

Communication is the key to any relationship..and practise makes perfect :smile:

Reply 2

Alice 00

OK...BUT how do I communicate this and when?? The last thing i want is for him to give up.

Reply 3

73337

Wow, you only joined about an hour ago. :eek2:

Reply 4

Alice 00

and?

Reply 5

ciara

Do you know what you like? If you do then it should be pretty simple. When he's trying to pleasure you, just say "why don't you do this". Direct him or instruct him and make sure you show when you are enjoying what he's doing. Don't make a big deal of it, it doesn't need to be!

Reply 6

username47781

Tell him what feels good, how is he supposed to know otherwise.

Reply 7

OC_girl

it depends how bothered you are about the pleasure.

Reply 8

Alice 00

i'M NOT SURE what i do like though. is it a case of trial and error?

Reply 9

Pandy

Alice 00

i'M NOT SURE what i do like though. is it a case of trial and error?

I reckon so. Or, you could try it on yourself and show him what you like. No shame in that :biggrin:

Reply 10

username47781

THats where you explore each other, there's no rush take your time.

Reply 11

ciara

Alice 00

i'M NOT SURE what i do like though. is it a case of trial and error?

Hmm, pretty much yeah. You could try finding out what you like when you're on your own, then you'd have a better idea? If you have no idea what you like then I can see why he doesn't know either!!

Reply 12

*starry_eyed_*

experiment yourself!

Reply 13

LadyEnglish

Carl1982

Tell him what feels good

It's the only way. Enjoy :biggrin:

Reply 14

Anonymous #1

Pleasure yourself, obviously in private, then you can go back and tell your bf what you life. Mine was crap at the beginning but as soon as I told him what I liked it was aaaalll good.