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Friend in real decline!

Hey there my friend broke up with his girl friends of 4 years (they meant during secondary school) just before his A2 exams and well hes just been in decline emotionally. The good thing is he pulled through for his exams but well afterwards he just practically doin nothing. Hes just stayed in his house throughout the summer and when he should be having a great time before uni. Hes practically lost enthusiasm for anything including football. I was hoping that time would be a good healer during the summer but well nothings happening at all and hes goin to uni on monday and well i guess hes gonna just act the same and i'm worried he's goin do jack all really at uni.

His ex girl friend well broke up with him because she felt they just grew apart really, but he still loves her a lot! What can i do to help him before he goes to university?
Reply 1
i would forget about him. hopefully he will deal with it on his own and then improve. keep in touch but don't suffocate him. concentrate on your life. don't let him bring you down.

seriously what can u do to help him. he has to help himself.
:ditto: - ish...It's something he needs to deal with himself. All you can do is be there for him, offer comfort when he needs it but also give him space. Try and understand how he feels/imagine if it was you. I can imagine he just wants space and the knowledge you are there if he needs you xxx
Reply 3
did you watch swingers last night? He's more money than he thinks. Don't let him be a big bear.
Alice 00
i would forget about him.


thats what all good friends would do :rolleyes:
Yeah I really don't agree with the whole 'forget about him' theory, that's ridiculous. Quite right though, no good friend would do that! :biggrin: x
Alice 00
i would forget about him.

You suck.
Reply 7
just make it clear that you want to have fun, and if he is going to be a bore than you will see him again when he is funner. at least this will give him soemthing to aim for.

x
Reply 8
Vincente
Hey there my friend broke up with his girl friends of 4 years (they meant during secondary school) just before his A2 exams and well hes just been in decline emotionally. The good thing is he pulled through for his exams but well afterwards he just practically doin nothing. Hes just stayed in his house throughout the summer and when he should be having a great time before uni. Hes practically lost enthusiasm for anything including football. I was hoping that time would be a good healer during the summer but well nothings happening at all and hes goin to uni on monday and well i guess hes gonna just act the same and i'm worried he's goin do jack all really at uni.

His ex girl friend well broke up with him because she felt they just grew apart really, but he still loves her a lot! What can i do to help him before he goes to university?


Talk to him, give him support; he will not be like this forever! and if you just walk away, and carry the "your not my mate anymore because your an emotional wreck", when he snaps out of this depression he will probably be like "***** you", because you wasn't there for him when a man was probably as his lowest point in his life.

He just needs someone to talk too.
Reply 9
Vincente
Hey there my friend broke up with his girl friends of 4 years (they meant during secondary school) just before his A2 exams and well hes just been in decline emotionally. The good thing is he pulled through for his exams but well afterwards he just practically doin nothing. Hes just stayed in his house throughout the summer and when he should be having a great time before uni. Hes practically lost enthusiasm for anything including football. I was hoping that time would be a good healer during the summer but well nothings happening at all and hes goin to uni on monday and well i guess hes gonna just act the same and i'm worried he's goin do jack all really at uni.

His ex girl friend well broke up with him because she felt they just grew apart really, but he still loves her a lot! What can i do to help him before he goes to university?


you should take him out for a day, force him to come out with you for a day. plan lots of stuff to do, eg shopping, eating out and then perhaps end the night with going to a club or something. just treat him because if anything, he'll realise what a good friend you are which may cheer him up.
a lot of people who are in decline often forget that there are others that care about them, and when they do realise it, they do usually cheer up.
Reply 10
invite him to ur house to watch you've been framed, that always makes me laugh

x
Alice 00
just make it clear that you want to have fun, and if he is going to be a bore than you will see him again when he is funner. at least this will give him soemthing to aim for.

x


Dave Grohl was all like "Kurt, we never play pepper anymore, dude, check ya laytaaaaaa" and look what happened.

Seriously, though, what kind of friendship is that? "I'm here for you as long we're doing fun stuff, but the moment you go through something tough...I'm gone!" I'm not sure the friendship of someone so fickle is really something to 'aim for'.

Not to grin is a sin.