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councillors
i went to see a school councillor at my school yesterday as i had a problem. well it was my first time and i was looking for answers/advice. she said she cant give me advice or answers, and that she was merely just there to listen to me talking about my problems.
i thought councillors are there to help you?
i thought councillors are there to help you?
Be advised: councillors are very different to counsellors, and I assume you went to see the latter 
Yes, I found that to be my problem too. I've been for 3 separate series of counselling sessions since I was 12 (I'm 20 now, and I hope that the last time really will be the last). The first counsellor did activities with me on paper that helped me see my problems more clearly, and she was probably actually quite good, but she was really badly organised and the appointments just tailed off with no explanation as to why. The second counsellor was really dopey, she literally just sat there without saying a word and expected me to just talk it out. It doesn't quite work like that and I quit after 9 sessions with her (I was meant to attend 12). My third counsellor was the best one, I think - she didn't advise me per se but helped me to work through my problems by asking me questions, as it made me think about things in a way that I hadn't done previously.
In short - counsellors aren't allowed to give advice, but they do need to be proactive in the way that my first counsellor and last counsellor were. The quality of the counselling available varies enormously and you need to find one who has a method that works for you.
Yes, I found that to be my problem too. I've been for 3 separate series of counselling sessions since I was 12 (I'm 20 now, and I hope that the last time really will be the last). The first counsellor did activities with me on paper that helped me see my problems more clearly, and she was probably actually quite good, but she was really badly organised and the appointments just tailed off with no explanation as to why. The second counsellor was really dopey, she literally just sat there without saying a word and expected me to just talk it out. It doesn't quite work like that and I quit after 9 sessions with her (I was meant to attend 12). My third counsellor was the best one, I think - she didn't advise me per se but helped me to work through my problems by asking me questions, as it made me think about things in a way that I hadn't done previously.
In short - counsellors aren't allowed to give advice, but they do need to be proactive in the way that my first counsellor and last counsellor were. The quality of the counselling available varies enormously and you need to find one who has a method that works for you.
School concellors are very dilute concellors that listen to the same teenage anxt problems every day so just tend to sit there and listen and give you some 'useful websites'. They're really there so you can relieve stress by talking to someone. They don't necessarily help you or offer good advice, just primarily listen. Helpful I suppose in someways but personally I find them useless. x
when i went to my counsellor we did just talk things through for the first few sessions, then we did some exercises on paper that 'worked through my thought processes' to see how i thought.
is your college counsellor the only person you can go to for help? what i mean by that is that when i talked to someone at my college they made sure they referred me to a proper counsellor at my local connexions. counsellors at college, unless she comes in specially, are usually just teachers who think everyone should talk to them. if this counsellors not working for you (which isn't uncommon) then see if theres anyone else nearby that you get on better with. good luck.
is your college counsellor the only person you can go to for help? what i mean by that is that when i talked to someone at my college they made sure they referred me to a proper counsellor at my local connexions. counsellors at college, unless she comes in specially, are usually just teachers who think everyone should talk to them. if this counsellors not working for you (which isn't uncommon) then see if theres anyone else nearby that you get on better with. good luck.
adverse_reaction
They cant tell you what to do or how to change things, you need to do that for yourself.
Exactly, and my last counsellor helped me to do that. She also was very proactive and gave me a CD that did actually help me sleep properly. The previous counsellor I had was not very useful and actually dug more into my family life, which I did not want to talk about as there was no real probles there it was merely homesickness.
I find our college counsellor really good. She offers support, and can offer constructive criticism - or help you to see answers.
Sometimes you just need a push in the right direction, and that is exactly what they are good for. They can't make you go anywhere, but they can show you some ways.
Although, it's one of those things where you get out what you put in. If you don't try and don't bother, you won't get anywhere. Teamwork.
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Sometimes you just need a push in the right direction, and that is exactly what they are good for. They can't make you go anywhere, but they can show you some ways.
Although, it's one of those things where you get out what you put in. If you don't try and don't bother, you won't get anywhere. Teamwork.
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Anonymous
i went to see a school councillor at my school yesterday as i had a problem. well it was my first time and i was looking for answers/advice. she said she cant give me advice or answers, and that she was merely just there to listen to me talking about my problems.
i thought councillors are there to help you?
i thought councillors are there to help you?
and yes, school counsellors and school nurses can get bitchy at times. I dont trust them lol. I had a nurse who told me to eff-off when i came to her with a nosebleed.
Try talking to someone else, like a family member, uncle, aunt, relative. Or get professional help from psychiatrists.. Depending on how deep your problem is
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