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Romance woes...

Male child here. Type logic - ISTP/ISFP as a brief into my personality.

I've not been blessed with the ability to see large pictures, think of creative possabilities and alas romantic ideas. I'm just really bad at it.

She is however into the whole creative and loves romantic suprises. Being romantic was one of the traits she had said she would look for in her partner, that was in the past.

Occasionally now she would talk about her friend's relationship. Where the boyfriend would do all these things together
"homework, coming back to see her waiting in the garage using the keys he handed, letters and much more" - Ideal puppy love relationship.

I've gotten a little used to it now and don't take it like a personal attack that we're failing as a couple.
The only thing is... I don't actually believe I can ever be that romantic for her. I'm just too useless at the sort of thing.

So now I'm stuck in this situation where I'd like to be romantic yet at the sametime I know I'm never really going to be as romantic as the other person. And its causing me great disappointment, probably her too.

Is there a treatment for this sort of thing? :frown:
Reply 1
What are you on about? Been drinking things from under the sink?
Reply 2
Nope, there isn't. You can only watch, listen and learn. Just be sweet to her, help her with stupid things and take her places by surprise or spontaniously (eg. You: ohh let's go to aquarium! She: lol ok :biggrin:).
not a treatment, just ask people for ideas, or read a lot of romantic novels.
Reply 4
Anonymous
Male child here. Type logic - ISTP/ISFP as a brief into my personality.

I've not been blessed with the ability to see large pictures, think of creative possabilities and alas romantic ideas. I'm just really bad at it.

She is however into the whole creative and loves romantic suprises. Being romantic was one of the traits she had said she would look for in her partner, that was in the past.

Occasionally now she would talk about her friend's relationship. Where the boyfriend would do all these things together
"homework, coming back to see her waiting in the garage using the keys he handed, letters and much more" - Ideal puppy love relationship.

I've gotten a little used to it now and don't take it like a personal attack that we're failing as a couple.
The only thing is... I don't actually believe I can ever be that romantic for her. I'm just too useless at the sort of thing.

So now I'm stuck in this situation where I'd like to be romantic yet at the sametime I know I'm never really going to be as romantic as the other person. And its causing me great disappointment, probably her too.

Is there a treatment for this sort of thing? :frown:


What in the name!:confused: Is there a treatment!!! I think you need to see a Psychiatrist pal!!!
Reply 5
Treatment was a bad word. I'll break down the whole thing into bullet points.

- My personality is not really creative with ideas, I'm more of a logical "what I see is what I get" rather than "Oooh this idea could be good."

- The person I like likes suprises, she loves reading her romance novels and has all these dreams of love.

- She recently starts talking about other relationship between people, how their love is more romantic

- While I can try to be more romantic. I don't think that its possible for me to be as romantic as the other person in the foremention relationship.

- Should I just accept the fact that some people aren't born to be that romantic?
Stop over thinking it, if you like her, you wont have this I CANT be romantic with her, you could atleast try and not say you cant...
yeah accept it, then take a few of her novels and read them. then get a guitar, learn a chord, and stand outside her window in the middle of the night and sing something nice.
Reply 8
Anonymous
Stop over thinking it, if you like her, you wont have this I CANT be romantic with her, you could atleast try and not say you cant...


Maybe.

However one should be realistic about their own abilities. And this is one thing I know I really don't excel at.
Reply 9
You're looking for ways to improve. Well to improve creativity you just have to go and do loads of creative things... Accept that not every idea you come up with is gonna be great and let some ideas start to flow.