Leaving your parents.

When your parents left you at uni, how did you react? Is it incredibly lame if I suddenly want to bawl my eyes out? My mum won't stop crying, I don't know how to deal with it, I almost feel guilty for going! Any tips on how to deal with this?

Reply 1

high priestess fnord

9

no idea, i was just releived to be gone.

Reply 2

Sheen

11

i know ill be releived when i go.
im sure my mother wont miss me

Reply 3

Sprockette

15

My mum was really upset too as I was going to another country, but they didn't really let me see it too much. They'll get used to it, plenty of phone calls (from experience!?) Think most parents are like that, esp if you're the first.

Reply 4

Sprockette

15

I couldn't wait to get going, but then got a little teary when I was left on my own for a few minutes. THEN realised college the best!!! :biggrin:

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

OP

Sprockette

My mum was really upset too as I was going to another country, but they didn't really let me see it too much. They'll get used to it, plenty of phone calls (from experience!?) Think most parents are like that, esp if you're the first.

The first and the last. Only child-syndrome.

Reply 6

BeesKnees

16

I'll be the last next year...my mom pretends she won't be bothered (in a jokey way) but I know she's probably going to cry. We don't even get along half the time :s:

. I think I'll be a little scared too but i'm up for the adventure :biggrin:

Reply 7

Psyk

16

I just said bye. Not like they were never going to see me again. Not something I felt overly emotional about really.

Reply 8

Anonymous #2

aww I have exactly the same problem anon1..... i know how you feel!! it makes me feel "guilty" because my mum isn't exactly the most tough, cheery person ever. i would hate to see her cry as it would make me feel like crying too but i'm just gonna try make the whole thing quick n choppy n just forget about everything and start uni life!

Reply 9

WokSz

17

Well, I'm the only child and my parents are divorced. My mum lives alone and the day I leave for University will be a really tough day for her.

Reply 10

OC_girl

I drove myself to uni but before i left went into the kitchen and started crying. i tried to compose myself enough to go back to the study to face my mum but as soon as i saw her i started crying all over again.

It's absurd as i am 22 and i have been away to uni for 3 years already! I have been here a week now (it feels LOADS longer) and i am ok now. I speak to my parents nearly every day and i intend to visit them either next weekend of the one after.

Reply 11

x kat x

13

my parents practically dropped me and my stuff off helped me unpack and then went back home to the pub. stayed a total of maybe 1hr 1hr1/2 - they just left me to it really.

Reply 12

jazzyb88

Well to start off with, i just said bye and went my way. But now i am feeling really homesick and wished my mum could've stayed and chatted longer with me - we had so much unpacking to do, there never was any time! Hopefully she will be visiting me next week on Monday and i hope i feel better then because i feel like cr*p now :frown:

Reply 13

The_Bear

13

Haha my mum didnt even come to the uni and we only lived an hour away.

Reply 14

ciara

13

I felt like a massive weight had been lifted. I'm so relieved to be back.

Just let your mum cry, I'm sure she knows it's for the best, it's just that she's going to miss you. Reassure her that she'll see you soon and that you'll keep in touch etc. If she spends time with other mums who are going through/have been through the same thing that might help, puts it in perspective.

Reply 15

Shreerac1

10

My mum and step-dad decided to go away on holiday 2 weeks before I started uni, so I didn't see them when I left. My dad, who took me here, just said "bye" and that was it.

Reply 16

*starry_eyed_*

14

I felt really guilty when my paretns left, because I was so excited about getting away. Though once it sunk in, I was and still am quite homesick. As for my parents reasction, I think I saw my mum crying as they drove away, but she won't let me know that.

Reply 17

generalebriety

16

Sheen

i know ill be releived when i go.
im sure my mother wont miss me

Reply 18

jazzyb88

*starry_eyed_*

I felt really guilty when my paretns left, because I was so excited about getting away. Though once it sunk in, I was and still am quite homesick.

Same here!

Reply 19

Sijia

10

I cried on the way to the airport, at the airport, and then after my mum left me in London, I cried on the way to the Tube and back.

Then I went to my room and cried for a good 10 minutes, went downstairs for dinner and everything felt better.

The first few days are always complete ****e sometimes, but I found that if I socialised with ppl then the feeling went away. But if you're just leaving home for the first time, that feeling of loneliness is always going be to there for a while until you get used to being on your own.

Give it time. It'll be fine.

Leaving your parents.

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