Am I expecting too much?

Well, I'm into my second week of lectures at uni on Monday, and I'm starting to feel a bit down about the social side of uni.

I live in halls on a corridor of girls, and we all get on well. The thing is, a lot of them go out a lot and seem to know a lot of people in the building, whereas I don't feel like I know half as many people.

I have made one really good friend on my corridor, but her boyfriends in the same building so I don't really spend as much time with her, the other friends I've made feel the same way about everyone else. We don't really feel like we've broken the ice at all.

I feel really upset about it now because my boyfriend only went to uni on Friday and seems to be a social butterfly and I don't really have much to show for the two weeks I've already been here.

How should I break the ice? I was thinking of something like a gathering in my room with a couple of bottles of wine and a dvd or something, or even a pub crawl or something?

I feel like I'm expecting too much for people to include me, I want to try and make a big effort this week but I'm feeling pretty hopeless right now :frown:

. Sorry this sounds really pathetic.

Any ideas what I should do?

Reply 1

Knight-of-Ni

2

No it doesn't sound pathetic :biggrin:

i know a few people who feel the same! The room gathering ounds a good idea! Itd be better there than in a noisy pub! and just invite enough people to fill the room; don't overcrowd because you wn't speak to anybody!
And are yu self catered? You could alwasy make some cakes or something and go round offering them to people! :biggrin:

Reply 2

generalebriety

16

Knight-of-Ni

And are yu self catered? You could alwasy make some cakes or something and go round offering them to people! :biggrin:

That sounds like a good idea, coupled with the film. :p:

Just leave them on a table though. Being a waitress never was a good way to win people's favour.

I agree, the sort of cosy gathering in your room watching a film and so on sounds like a good way to break the ice. Don't go out to get people tipsy though - put on a decent comedy film or something, and just let people have a good time. Chocolate always goes down well. :p:

That sort of thing - certainly not the pub crawl.

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

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generalebriety

That sounds like a good idea, coupled with the film. :p:

Just leave them on a table though. Being a waitress never was a good way to win people's favour.

I agree, the sort of cosy gathering in your room watching a film and so on sounds like a good way to break the ice. Don't go out to get people tipsy though - put on a decent comedy film or something, and just let people have a good time. Chocolate always goes down well. :p:

That sort of thing - certainly not the pub crawl.

Thanks, I'm not self-catered though, but I went out today and talked to a few more people and I think we're all going to the pub quiz tonight, hopefully things will get a bit better!

I feel a lot better now.

Reply 4

Zinc11

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its not wrong to have expectations of anykind. but if things dont live up to your expectations then you gotta take charge which is what you're doing and is great. like above poster mentioned, the cosy gathering sounds like a good plan.

if its in your room then I think it will be good to offer people things maybe once coz it may be uncomfortable for them to help themselves. but after that just leave it on the table and relax. have a good time!

Am I expecting too much?

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