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Avoid the awkwardness
So there's this girl...
Met her start of last year, nurtured a crush pretty quickly, culminating in asking her out after getting to know her better. Sadly, was rejected, but in a very friendly way (just the sort of way she'd do it, the angel
). The friendship didnt suffer at all, just a day of awkwardness, and back to normal. And so, since then, things have carried on, we've gotten closer as friends, and while I've still got this crush, i've no problems with leaving it unpersued...
...something in no small part helped by her boyfriend
German guy from our school. However! She visited him during the summer, and turns out there was an incident. Apparently, he ****ed her in Hamburg somewhere, and then just left her in the middle of nowhere, a girl who speaks no german, had arrived two days before, who he 'loves', in theory.
Ho can I try and explain to this girl that this really isnt a good thing, without seeming as some sort of guy who's still persuing a ghost of a dysfunctional relationship (which I am).
Met her start of last year, nurtured a crush pretty quickly, culminating in asking her out after getting to know her better. Sadly, was rejected, but in a very friendly way (just the sort of way she'd do it, the angel
). The friendship didnt suffer at all, just a day of awkwardness, and back to normal. And so, since then, things have carried on, we've gotten closer as friends, and while I've still got this crush, i've no problems with leaving it unpersued......something in no small part helped by her boyfriend
German guy from our school. However! She visited him during the summer, and turns out there was an incident. Apparently, he ****ed her in Hamburg somewhere, and then just left her in the middle of nowhere, a girl who speaks no german, had arrived two days before, who he 'loves', in theory. Ho can I try and explain to this girl that this really isnt a good thing, without seeming as some sort of guy who's still persuing a ghost of a dysfunctional relationship (which I am
).Reply 1
16
er what do you want to do 
Reply 2
Let her realise what he's like. Believe me friends always see these things and the person in the relationship is always blind to their partners ways and in denial. You can only really be there for her, comfort her and let their relationship run it's course. Probably won't last long, he seems like a bum x
Reply 3
16
Just be comforting mainly and suggest what kind of guy would do that to you? Don't overdo it though, or you'll come off as extra keen
Reply 4
I think that that girl likes manly men (Germans are MACHO, yeh baby!). And you, just by looking at your post above, do NOT seem like one, I suspect your one of those girly boys lol (no offence, just doing a good bit of psychiatric work here )
So like, change?
). And you, just by looking at your post above, do NOT seem like one, I suspect your one of those girly boys lol (no offence, just doing a good bit of psychiatric work here )So like, change?
Reply 5
To OP please forget about this girl, the chances of you ever having anything other than friendship with her is 0 my friend.
Reply 6
Please do us all a favour and stop trying to pursue a relationship with this girl. She has rejected you once, shes not gonna suddenly say "oh, girly boy, I've changed my mind". Sorry
Reply 7
Journey
I think that that girl likes manly men (Germans are MACHO, yeh baby!). And you, just by looking at your post above, do NOT seem like one, I suspect your one of those girly boys lol (no offence, just doing a good bit of psychiatric work here )
So like, change?
). And you, just by looking at your post above, do NOT seem like one, I suspect your one of those girly boys lol (no offence, just doing a good bit of psychiatric work here )So like, change?
Why should he change it seems he is geniunely concerned about his friend which is very nice ok so he got turned down but they are still friends surely he can at least comfort her without overdoing it, i know lots of girls who hate guys who are macho or pretend to be macho.
Reply 8
That's not what he's saying, is it? He just wants to help his friend out, so what if he holds a little hope? Have some decency, people. To the OP, I suggest you just look out for her and don't get too involved. You can't make a person's descisions for them, so just tell her you don't like the look of the guy, but leave her to it.
Reply 9
If you fail once try try again
Plus people change.
Plus people change.
Reply 10
what love sheep said. you cant butt in too much but you can give your opinion.
Reply 11
Anonymous
So there's this girl...
Met her start of last year, nurtured a crush pretty quickly, culminating in asking her out after getting to know her better. Sadly, was rejected, but in a very friendly way (just the sort of way she'd do it, the angel ). The friendship didnt suffer at all, just a day of awkwardness, and back to normal. And so, since then, things have carried on, we've gotten closer as friends, and while I've still got this crush, i've no problems with leaving it unpersued...
...something in no small part helped by her boyfriend German guy from our school. However! She visited him during the summer, and turns out there was an incident. Apparently, he ****ed her in Hamburg somewhere, and then just left her in the middle of nowhere, a girl who speaks no german, had arrived two days before, who he 'loves', in theory.
Ho can I try and explain to this girl that this really isnt a good thing, without seeming as some sort of guy who's still persuing a ghost of a dysfunctional relationship (which I am).
Met her start of last year, nurtured a crush pretty quickly, culminating in asking her out after getting to know her better. Sadly, was rejected, but in a very friendly way (just the sort of way she'd do it, the angel
). The friendship didnt suffer at all, just a day of awkwardness, and back to normal. And so, since then, things have carried on, we've gotten closer as friends, and while I've still got this crush, i've no problems with leaving it unpersued......something in no small part helped by her boyfriend
German guy from our school. However! She visited him during the summer, and turns out there was an incident. Apparently, he ****ed her in Hamburg somewhere, and then just left her in the middle of nowhere, a girl who speaks no german, had arrived two days before, who he 'loves', in theory. Ho can I try and explain to this girl that this really isnt a good thing, without seeming as some sort of guy who's still persuing a ghost of a dysfunctional relationship (which I am
).Reply 12
Journey
I think that that girl likes manly men (Germans are MACHO, yeh baby!). And you, just by looking at your post above, do NOT seem like one, I suspect your one of those girly boys lol (no offence, just doing a good bit of psychiatric work here )
So like, change?
). And you, just by looking at your post above, do NOT seem like one, I suspect your one of those girly boys lol (no offence, just doing a good bit of psychiatric work here )So like, change?
I might be a bit like this guy but pull down that white top and I'll surely turn MACHO!
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