Is it worth it?

Basically my boyfriend is travelling till july and so now i just want peoples advice on whether it can work. when he left we had both kinda assumed that it was over, but that hasnt happened and i love him more than ever. there's a possibility i might be able to go out and visit him in the next few months though, but theres still the problem of him being away for so long. basically we have both said that we want to be together and dont want to be with anyone else but i dont know how much of a relationship we can have with emails and sparadic phone calls. there is also a slight issue of the situation at home being complicated so even if we did last through the year when he came back there would be other obsabcles to our relationship.
do people think that as we would both rather be together even with the ****ness of the situation than break up that we should stay together or is it not worth it if there may not be a viable future? i'm so confused at what to do- my friends and family are telling me theres no point but i still want to be with him soo much. i guess i am just looking for people advice and to hear how other people have delt with similar situations x

Reply 1

username47781

Well if you really love each other i am sure it can survive, long as you both work at it.

Reply 2

LadyEnglish

Seems to me your heart has grown fonder as a result of his absence. You seem to be lulling yourself into a 'it will change when he's back' frame of mind but it sounds like it may not work...however if you bother really want to be with each other there is no reason why it shouldn't work. Good luck x

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

LadyEnglish

Seems to me your heart has grown fonder as a result of his absence. You seem to be lulling yourself into a 'it will change when he's back' frame of mind but it sounds like it may not work...

it might be a slight case of absence makes the heart grow stronger but all those feelings were there before he left. the situation not being great at home isnt because of anything between us, but there are just reasons that make it hard and certain people dissapprove of our relationship. i hope that we can make it work i've never felt like this about anyone before its just the distance makes it hard x

Reply 4

Claire_Elizabeth

At the end of the day, if it's meant to be it will be! Being apart can make you realise how much you love a person! It's choice as to what you do and you should do what you feel is right, not what other people tell you! This is your life not theres!

Reply 5

andy_cole2

if he loves u so much why is he travelling?

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

he made arrangements to go away before we were together...thats something that was out of our control. i would go with him but have commitments until spring/summer next year but might go out to join him then. hes doing what he can and says if i can get somewhere nearish to where he is then he will travel the rest of the way to meet me

Reply 7

Becca28

hey im in a kinda similar situation, i made plans to study in america before i met my bf, now ive been with him 5 months and i just moved abroad 2 weeks ago. we always assumed we'd break up too but at the end neither of us could and we decided we'd rather wait for each other and see if the relationship could work long distance until my study year is over. im going back at xmas to see him for 3 weeks but then i prob wont see him until june/july which sucks. so far its working so all i can say is if you really love him stick with it and hopefully it'll be worth it in the end.