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I'm not a regular student room user (actually this is my brother's account) and well I just want some advice because im too shy to ask anyone else!
To give you a bit of background I had attended a single-sex school all my life including primary school
so I have rarely ever even spoken to a girl. The only girls I speak to is my mum and my sister. I never see my father so I never really had much of that male role model in my life. So I never really know how to interact with a girl (and I always just end up making a fool of myself). I was hoping to move to a 6th form college so it will help me well interact a bit better however in the 2nd month of college I contracted meningitus and it confined me to a wheel chair and delayed me from goin to college for a year.
The situation is that Im finally back and I made some very nice friends whom I get along with very well (they are all guys). But around girls i'm still not doin very well . Its not like i appear shy and act very wierd around them. It just seems to expect to initiate a conversation and do the hard work. Now according to my firends girl friend i am considered v.v. attractive (wish is rather nice) every girl i know seems to think that i'm rather experienced guy whos been with a lot of girls (even the one i like) and this is apparently not helped by the clothes I wear and my style (pierced eyes etc) but I have barely ever spoken to another girl. Now than again i do have some girls come up and talk to me but these girls are by not means the girls I ever want to be with.
But the girls whom I may want to be playing very hard to get. In that they seem to expect me to go towards them and to start a conversation......etc. I just want some advice on really what to do (this may sound silly, but I'm very shy). And for the girl i like, she kinda stood near me in the libary where i was and just well picked out books randomly next to me and when I turned around to look at her she just looks at the bottom of her eyes (doesn't face me) and one min. late she walks away in a direction where it isin't crowded and it is clearly visible to see her, does she want me to talk to her?
To give you a bit of background I had attended a single-sex school all my life including primary school
so I have rarely ever even spoken to a girl. The only girls I speak to is my mum and my sister. I never see my father so I never really had much of that male role model in my life. So I never really know how to interact with a girl (and I always just end up making a fool of myself). I was hoping to move to a 6th form college so it will help me well interact a bit better however in the 2nd month of college I contracted meningitus and it confined me to a wheel chair and delayed me from goin to college for a year. The situation is that Im finally back and I made some very nice friends whom I get along with very well (they are all guys). But around girls i'm still not doin very well
. Its not like i appear shy and act very wierd around them. It just seems to expect to initiate a conversation and do the hard work. Now according to my firends girl friend i am considered v.v. attractive (wish is rather nice) every girl i know seems to think that i'm rather experienced guy whos been with a lot of girls (even the one i like) and this is apparently not helped by the clothes I wear and my style (pierced eyes etc) but I have barely ever spoken to another girl. Now than again i do have some girls come up and talk to me but these girls are by not means the girls I ever want to be with. But the girls whom I may want to be playing very hard to get. In that they seem to expect me to go towards them and to start a conversation......etc. I just want some advice on really what to do (this may sound silly, but I'm very shy). And for the girl i like, she kinda stood near me in the libary where i was and just well picked out books randomly next to me and when I turned around to look at her she just looks at the bottom of her eyes (doesn't face me) and one min. late she walks away in a direction where it isin't crowded and it is clearly visible to see her, does she want me to talk to her?
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Observe the guys that do seem to have confidence talking to girls. What kind of things do they talk about/do? Just talk to girls about general things first like music, teachers you hate etc and then you'll probably come across other things to talk about that you have in common. If you find it difficult in one to one situations try to spend time in a mixed group of people, then you're not really under as much pressure to make conversation.
Reply 2
Anonymous
I'm not a regular student room user (actually this is my brother's account) and well I just want some advice because im too shy to ask anyone else!
To give you a bit of background I had attended a single-sex school all my life including primary school so I have rarely ever even spoken to a girl. The only girls I speak to is my mum and my sister. I never see my father so I never really had much of that male role model in my life. So I never really know how to interact with a girl (and I always just end up making a fool of myself). I was hoping to move to a 6th form college so it will help me well interact a bit better however in the 2nd month of college I contracted meningitus and it confined me to a wheel chair and delayed me from goin to college for a year.
The situation is that Im finally back and I made some very nice friends whom I get along with very well (they are all guys). But around girls i'm still not doin very well . Its not like i appear shy and act very wierd around them. It just seems to expect to initiate a conversation and do the hard work. Now according to my firends girl friend i am considered v.v. attractive (wish is rather nice) every girl i know seems to think that i'm rather experienced guy whos been with a lot of girls (even the one i like) and this is apparently not helped by the clothes I wear and my style (pierced eyes etc) but I have barely ever spoken to another girl. Now than again i do have some girls come up and talk to me but these girls are by not means the girls I ever want to be with.
But the girls whom I may want to be playing very hard to get. In that they seem to expect me to go towards them and to start a conversation......etc. I just want some advice on really what to do (this may sound silly, but I'm very shy). And for the girl i like, she kinda stood near me in the libary where i was and just well picked out books randomly next to me and when I turned around to look at her she just looks at the bottom of her eyes (doesn't face me) and one min. late she walks away in a direction where it isin't crowded and it is clearly visible to see her, does she want me to talk to her?
To give you a bit of background I had attended a single-sex school all my life including primary school
so I have rarely ever even spoken to a girl. The only girls I speak to is my mum and my sister. I never see my father so I never really had much of that male role model in my life. So I never really know how to interact with a girl (and I always just end up making a fool of myself). I was hoping to move to a 6th form college so it will help me well interact a bit better however in the 2nd month of college I contracted meningitus and it confined me to a wheel chair and delayed me from goin to college for a year. The situation is that Im finally back and I made some very nice friends whom I get along with very well (they are all guys). But around girls i'm still not doin very well
. Its not like i appear shy and act very wierd around them. It just seems to expect to initiate a conversation and do the hard work. Now according to my firends girl friend i am considered v.v. attractive (wish is rather nice) every girl i know seems to think that i'm rather experienced guy whos been with a lot of girls (even the one i like) and this is apparently not helped by the clothes I wear and my style (pierced eyes etc) but I have barely ever spoken to another girl. Now than again i do have some girls come up and talk to me but these girls are by not means the girls I ever want to be with. But the girls whom I may want to be playing very hard to get. In that they seem to expect me to go towards them and to start a conversation......etc. I just want some advice on really what to do (this may sound silly, but I'm very shy). And for the girl i like, she kinda stood near me in the libary where i was and just well picked out books randomly next to me and when I turned around to look at her she just looks at the bottom of her eyes (doesn't face me) and one min. late she walks away in a direction where it isin't crowded and it is clearly visible to see her, does she want me to talk to her?
Some girls actually like shy sensitive guys he he he!
Reply 3
its not that hard to say hello, im sure she wont bite. just start a convo the same as you would if she was a guy (minus the sex talk and macho banter), then ask her if she would like to go out for a coffee/pint or whatever.
Reply 4
but what if she says no :O
Reply 5
if your anon you might want to delete that post and write it again
Reply 6
i'm not lol,but i;m shy 2.
Reply 7
sorry got bit confused then 
if she says no then you havnt lost anything. its not very nice to be rejected but its not a big deal.
if she says no then you havnt lost anything. its not very nice to be rejected but its not a big deal.
Reply 8
sorry but this has nothing to do wi the thread
Reply 10
it comes in time dont worry about it, I went to a single sex school and can relate to your probs. Generally we tend to dissasociate with the opposite sex at about 8-10 or so and then reconnect later in our teens. If you arent around girls at this time you kinda lose out on building those skills. Its not a prob though, I fell in with a new crowd at about 16 and by the time I hit Uni I had all the skills required, just observe those around you. Learn how to pay compliments, listen, and how to make it clear that you are interested in them and not just as a friend!
You might want to think about the message your appearence sends out - sure to you its a freedom of expression but it will put plenty of people off. As you get older you'll realise that making a statement of individuality isnt all that important as your confidence in your self grows. Its your choice of course, but dont deny the consequences of your choice and ask yourself if its really worth it!
GL.
You might want to think about the message your appearence sends out - sure to you its a freedom of expression but it will put plenty of people off. As you get older you'll realise that making a statement of individuality isnt all that important as your confidence in your self grows. Its your choice of course, but dont deny the consequences of your choice and ask yourself if its really worth it!
GL.
Reply 11
3232
Yeah, it's not like they tattoo 'Rejected' on your forehead, you'll get over it...or spend the rest of your life crying in your room. Either way, its worth a go. 
ahem-emo! *cough cough*
Reply 13
*****
You might want to think about the message your appearence sends out - sure to you its a freedom of expression but it will put plenty of people off. As you get older you'll realise that making a statement of individuality isnt all that important as your confidence in your self grows. Its your choice of course, but dont deny the consequences of your choice and ask yourself if its really worth it!
GL.
GL.
just dress how you like. changing the way you look will probably just get you more attention from girls you arent into
*edit* why the hell did it decide ***** is a profanity?? i mean if it was he wouldnt be allowed it as his name.
Reply 14
3232
Ah, it all makes sense! I always wondered how an emo was born...
well now you know
Reply 15
Anonymous
the clothes I wear and my style (pierced eyes etc)
the clothes I wear and my style (pierced eyes etc)
You can get your eyes pierced??
It won't do you any harm to try and talk to her. What's the worst she can do? Say no?
Reply 17
There is no easy answer. You just gotta go for it. You're going to crash and burn on more than one occasion. Even the guys with the best game and the smoothest moves slip up every once in a while.
"Just chalk that one up to the game on move on."
That quote always helps me out. Reminds me that it doesn't always work out, and that applies to everyone.
Experience build confidence, and confidence builds character. It's a snowball effect. So, get the ball rolling!
"Just chalk that one up to the game on move on."
That quote always helps me out. Reminds me that it doesn't always work out, and that applies to everyone.
Experience build confidence, and confidence builds character. It's a snowball effect. So, get the ball rolling!
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