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I'm still a virgin.
I'm so frustrated because I'm still a virgin even though I'm 19. It's not just about sex though (which is the main reason I still haven't done it) I just can't find anyone really nice who I really fancy. I saw this programme about this fat girl and the voiceover said: "Bethany's weight is causing her problems, most teens have lost their virginity by the time they're 17 but Bethany is 19 and is still a virgin" This programme made out that it was weird to have not lost one's virginity at age 19 and it really got to me, am I a freak? I'm not unattractive and I do have a normal amount of desire but I just can't find myself a guy...I'm annoyed because I have fancied people in the past so I know what a great feeling it is. I feel like I'll never get a boyfriend or have sex or anything because I haven't so far for 19 years, all my friends either have a boyfriend or have had one and I feel so weird. I'm a girl by the way in case you were wondering and although I've liked people before, I've never had a boyfriend (I have been kissed by two boys though). Is there anyone else out there like me? I probably could get a boyfriend if I wanted but I want someone special and I can't bring myself to fake affection. I just wish some special guy would come along tomorrow...
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Don't panic, lots and lots of people are virgins at 19, just read a few of the other threads, some people mature later than others, and some don't learn to be confident in themselves and won't meet someone til after Uni (that was how it was for me, and I'm perfectly happy!) Let it happen naturally, one day someone will come along. Fear not, you are not the only virgin out there
It's really nothing to worry about - you haven't found the right person yet. Your time will come and by the sounds of your post it will be with someone that you're attracted to, feel comfortable with and the experience will be a very enjoyable one. Don't feel that you need to have sex because of other people. The TV programme is irrelevant, if we listened to everything we saw on TV we would be doing all sorts of crazy things.
Take care,
Sarah
Take care,
Sarah
Haha, thanks. OK well actually let's focus less on the virgin side of things cos there are loadsa threads like that. I wanna fall in love-now! But I can't and it's bugging me, never mind that I'm still a virgin, I've never had a boyfriend. I feel really lonely...
Don't worry about it 19 is not that old!! I was 21 and felt no pressure what so ever, i had my first bf when i was 19..tho it didnt last long lol but he wasnt the guy i wanted to loose my virginity too...after 2 more years of dating a few guys i found the guy who was special ...its a shame we broke up however
Anyway the majority of my friends had lost their virginity already but actually didnt feel any of that pressure-it didnt bother me in the slightest! And it turned out that my best friend wished she'd been in my position and age when she lost hers, as she lost her v when she was 15 to a guy she wasnt in a relationship with.
The majority of my friends were 17/18/19 so your doing ok!!
Id say keep waiting for someone special, once you have and have slept with him you'll be glad you waited-trust me! I could have slept with either guys i'd dated or when ive been on girls holidays in spain when i was 18 and 19 but i chose not to and i'm glad i didnt!
Anyway the majority of my friends had lost their virginity already but actually didnt feel any of that pressure-it didnt bother me in the slightest! And it turned out that my best friend wished she'd been in my position and age when she lost hers, as she lost her v when she was 15 to a guy she wasnt in a relationship with. The majority of my friends were 17/18/19 so your doing ok!!
Id say keep waiting for someone special, once you have and have slept with him you'll be glad you waited-trust me! I could have slept with either guys i'd dated or when ive been on girls holidays in spain when i was 18 and 19 but i chose not to and i'm glad i didnt!
You can fall in love but you shouldn't be so desperate to. It will happen in time. For now, don't concentrate too much on it and you'll find it will be easier.
Nikolas
hey! I'm 18 (19 soon enough) and I'm a virgin too.
So I haven't lost it to a drunk stranger at a houseparty becuase I want it to mean something and be with someone who is special to me, so sue me.
So I haven't lost it to a drunk stranger at a houseparty becuase I want it to mean something and be with someone who is special to me, so sue me.
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Cue generic virgin thread reply. Its ok/its not abnormal/you should be proud/im still a virgin, so you're not alone/i lost mine when i was 20/21/22/23 so theres nothing to be worried about, and last but not least, VIRGIN! RUN AWAY!
Hope that helped.
Hope that helped.
Haha, excellent reply.
Very true though, there are enless people who are virgins well into their 20's.
There's no pressure to have sex, just when it feels right, which might be when you find "the right person".
Don't just give up though and sleep with anyone just to get it done, you'll probably regret it forever!
3232
Cue generic virgin thread reply. Its ok/its not abnormal/you should be proud/im still a virgin, so you're not alone/i lost mine when i was 20/21/22/23 so theres nothing to be worried about, and last but not least, VIRGIN! RUN AWAY!
Hope that helped.
Hope that helped.
Haha, superb. The world needs people like you
Don't worry about it, christ...
I didn't have sex until I was practically 18. Not because I couldn't, not because I didn't have offers, I just didn't want to. The time came when I wanted to........Fine for me, all of my friends had sex aged about 14/15 and I totally didn't see the point. No one could understand why, but I just didn't.
Don't worry what other people think of you, seriously.
I didn't have sex until I was practically 18. Not because I couldn't, not because I didn't have offers, I just didn't want to. The time came when I wanted to........Fine for me, all of my friends had sex aged about 14/15 and I totally didn't see the point. No one could understand why, but I just didn't.
Don't worry what other people think of you, seriously.
I really know how you feel...I think for most people your post will look as though you're upset about being a virgin, when the real issue is that you're frustrated about having not met anyone you properly click with. Am I right? This is how I feel. I'm just about the same age as you and would love a boyfriend, but I never feel a spark with anyone I meet; it really bothers me!
YEEEEES!!! That's exactly right! I shoulda really called this post 'I want a boyfriend' I'm such an idiot...yeah I'm pissed off-BOYS WHERE ARE YOU?
Hahaha. You're funny!
I reckon I'd still be a virgin if I wasn’t in a long term relationship (since I was 15, now 17). I've had one major girlfriend and I’m still with her. I reckon since I’m generally quite shy/wasn’t out pulling when my mates were since I already had a bird probably means if I did split up with her, id go for agessss without any poontang. What I’m trying to say is, people are different, and I personally (might seem freakish coming from a lad) think its better to lose it to someone a little bit special than just some dude. On the same note, losing virginity isn’t some magical moment where a cosmic force comes over you as you get ‘de-flowered’. Half the time its crap, painful, and you’re so nervous it isn’t even all that fun. If you look at it from the point of view of getting it out of the way so you can start getting stuck in that might help.
Anyway, I live in a place where teenage pregnancies are high. 5 of my mates have already got kids from their success at 'pulling', I even found out on the bus to college today the reason why some girl had been off was because she got knocked up.
On this wanting a dude thing, you may be being over picky. You can’t really form opinions of lads if you don’t know them that well, its not until you’ve taken a risk and got to know them better than you really see how good/bad they are. I only started seeing my bird because I thought she was hot and hooked up with her when I was drunk at a party, but barely knew her. After seeing her for a bit I realised how awesome she was. Taking a risk might pay off, just don’t nail the guy in the first month of a relationship, since if he turns out to be an arse then you've wasted that hymen...
Anyway, I live in a place where teenage pregnancies are high. 5 of my mates have already got kids from their success at 'pulling', I even found out on the bus to college today the reason why some girl had been off was because she got knocked up.
On this wanting a dude thing, you may be being over picky. You can’t really form opinions of lads if you don’t know them that well, its not until you’ve taken a risk and got to know them better than you really see how good/bad they are. I only started seeing my bird because I thought she was hot and hooked up with her when I was drunk at a party, but barely knew her. After seeing her for a bit I realised how awesome she was. Taking a risk might pay off, just don’t nail the guy in the first month of a relationship, since if he turns out to be an arse then you've wasted that hymen...
I'm 20 and I'm a virgin although I guess a steam of 'victims' coming forward won't help to alleviate your anxieties, I don't really know what advice to offer other than to just enjoy your life and that person will come along sooner than you think and when they do, don't jump in bed with them straight away as that will just create another thread in the future along the lines of 'I was too eager and I scared him off' or 'I lost my virginity and realised it was with the wrong person' e.t.c.
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