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I don't want to be overbearing...
...but my girlfriend seems to talk to boys a lot, and it kind of bothers me. Right now, she's watching a play with a boy who's admitted to fancying her. She gets texts constantly from a boy who she works with (starting 'hey sexy...', or whatever), she gets lots of flirty emails and comments on her myspace from random boys she speaks to at parties... I could go on.
So yeah. on the one hand, she just seems to be able to talk to boys better than she can girls, and it's not her fault she gets all this attention, and I should be happy that she's with me. On the other, she doesn't do anything to ward off all this attention, and she certainly could've declined the invitation to the play. she's also going for a meal with ANOTHER boy soon.
And it's not like i'm not exciting enough for her - often it's her who'd rather laze around than go out and do some activity.
Should i be worried? Is there anything I should do?
So yeah. on the one hand, she just seems to be able to talk to boys better than she can girls, and it's not her fault she gets all this attention, and I should be happy that she's with me. On the other, she doesn't do anything to ward off all this attention, and she certainly could've declined the invitation to the play. she's also going for a meal with ANOTHER boy soon.
And it's not like i'm not exciting enough for her - often it's her who'd rather laze around than go out and do some activity.
Should i be worried? Is there anything I should do?
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That's not really on.
stop being so paranoid. some people get on with girls better and some people get on with guys better. you cant tell her who she can be friends with.
Still, and first serious reply today. If she cares for him it shouldn't be too hard for her to either: talk to him and tell him that there is nothing in any of it, or 'tone down' her actions.
I would die in his position.
I would die in his position.
Fluent in Lies
Still, and first serious reply today. If she cares for him it shouldn't be too hard for her to either: talk to him and tell him that there is nothing in any of it, or 'tone down' her actions.
I would die in his position.
I would die in his position.
why should she act differently for him?? ive got a mate who calls me shag brownie and hes my stud muffin. we both know (as do our partners) that there is absolutely nothing going on, its called trust. if he cant trust her then how is changing the way she is with her friends going to make a difference?
high priestess fnord
why should she act differently for him?? ive got a mate who calls me shag brownie and hes my stud muffin. we both know (as do our partners) that there is absolutely nothing going on, its called trust. if he cant trust her then how is changing the way she is with her friends going to make a difference?
Because she doesn't want him to be upset?
better she upset him now than they get serious and then she finds hes paranoid
That's very saddening. But I guess you're right it wouldn't work for them. he'd have to go and find somone more sensitive and willing to think of him and how they can work it out.
i dont think any relationship can work without trust and if he cant even trust her with her friends then its not really working.
It is possible to trust somone. Still get jealous but realise that your jealousy is irrational. It's almost worse that way when you know you're being stupid. And what you need is the support of the person.
high priestess fnord
why should she act differently for him?? ive got a mate who calls me shag brownie and hes my stud muffin. we both know (as do our partners) that there is absolutely nothing going on, its called trust. if he cant trust her then how is changing the way she is with her friends going to make a difference?
Too right! I have plenty of friends who call me affectionate names and vica versa and I won't change that. Those friendships are totally platonic, and will remain so - and my friends wouldn't be going anywhere for anyone. Yep it totally comes down to trust and looking at things with a bit of reality - talking to someone of the opposite sex doesn't mean you are going to sleep with them!
OP, just because she enjoys spending time with other people, doesn't mean she doesn't find you exciting... but she had her own life before she met you as you did - you become PART of each others world, no the sole reason for each others being.
FIL - the fact that she is open and honest enough to share details of her text messages/emails etc with her partner shows how honest she is being - if there was something untoward going on, do you think she would tell the OP? He should be flattered that she trusts him so much to trust and respect her...
Fluent in Lies
It is possible to trust somone. Still get jealous but realise that your jealousy is irrational. It's almost worse that way when you know you're being stupid. And what you need is the support of the person.
so she should dump her friends for her bf?
LouE3D
Support...or to give in to irrational demands?
Yes support.
'There is nothing to worry about'
high priestess fnord
so she should dump her friends for her bf?
No. It's called balance.
Whatever happened to compromising...?
Eh... too late. Yeah what fluent said, balance best.
Eh... too late. Yeah what fluent said, balance best.
high priestess fnord is just a drama queen 
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