Clubs are not for me but for everyone else?

Ive just started uni and although i love music, ive never been to a club before. Now ive often felt embarrised to admit it but ive accepted that a life of getting drunk, one night stands and getting lost of the way home is not for me at the moment.

The problem is, everyone i know on my course brags about the night before, and i think 'what did i do'?. It seems everyone just goes clubbing and out to get drunk, where can i find people who arnt like this? I know they exist?

Its like, theres a few nice girls on my course that i get on with, if i was to say, ask them out, then it wouldnt be anything traditonal, they would expect me to take them to a club?

I know many of you love clubbing and i dont disagree because it would be fun, but i just dont really want a life of that, i want to enjoy life such as going out to visit places, cinema, and have fun in other ways.

Reply 1

a_t

16

Go clubbing, its great. Just don't drink, you don't have to you know.

Reply 2

Illusionary

19

You're not the only one, though it will certainly feel like you're in the minority. I've felt the same as you throughout my time at uni (it's my final year now) - really. You're best to reconcile yourself to many people considering clubbing/drinking to be the norm for students, *until* you find the people who share your feelings. There *will* be others at your uni like you - the problem will be finding them, since they're likely to be somewhat less vocal about their leisure time. Talk to others on your course, and join societies for your interests, and you'll find like-minded people before too long! :smile:

Reply 3

Awesome-o

17

You say clibbing is not for you, but you;ve never been. Give it a go, it's all about having a great time with your friends, and seeing loads of people you know out, including girls you may have taken a fancy too. You don't have to get totally wasted to enjoy it, just enough to lose some inhibition.

Reply 4

white_haired_wizard

16

a_t

Go clubbing, its great. Just don't drink, you don't have to you know.

maybe that's easier said than done. Everyone else drinks, you don't....you feel the odd one out...they keep insisting you drink, "get this down ya" and all that chavvy crap. It's not for everyones liking :wink:

I drink very little myself, and i get so pissed off when people literally urge you to drink. Whereas others drink because it livens them, alcohol makes me feel drowsy and less lively, thus....there`s very little point to me drinking unless i want to get to sleep quicker, or chill out at a beach...something to this effect.

There's nothing more irritating than people trying to bully alcohol down you...

Reply 5

JimmyJ

Drink Up! I've had 4 and you're only on your 2nd!

CHUG CHUG CHUG

Reply 6

JustJam2006

9

white_haired_wizard

maybe that's easier said than done. Everyone else drinks, you don't....you feel the odd one out...they keep insisting you drink, "get this down ya" and all that chavvy crap. It's not for everyones liking :wink:

I drink very little myself, and i get so pissed off when people literally urge you to drink. Whereas others drink because it livens them, alcohol makes me feel drowsy and less lively, thus....there`s very little point to me drinking unless i want to get to sleep quicker, or chill out at a beach...something to this effect.

There's nothing more irritating than people trying to bully alcohol down you...[/QUOTE]

Well said !

Reply 7

person 34

9

I don't really think clubbing is particularly for me, but I still do fun things (I also get drunk lol, but that's besides the point) Pesonally I go to gigs, concerts, pubs, cinemas, coffee places,restaurants, town and shopping, big open green spaces etc. There are loadsa fun options apart from clubbing! but I think you should try it anyway because you say you haven't atcually ever tried it and who knows? you may like it. And trust me, there are lots of people that don't like that kind of thing, you just have to search for them. The people who go to clubs etc, are usually the louder, majority of people, so you'll hear lots of stories of drunkenness and clubbing etc, but that's what people do nowadays. It's the popular thing so there's more of it around.

Good luck

Reply 8

a_t

16

white_haired_wizard

maybe that's easier said than done. Everyone else drinks, you don't....you feel the odd one out...they keep insisting you drink, "get this down ya" and all that chavvy crap. It's not for everyones liking :wink:

I drink very little myself, and i get so pissed off when people literally urge you to drink. Whereas others drink because it livens them, alcohol makes me feel drowsy and less lively, thus....there`s very little point to me drinking unless i want to get to sleep quicker, or chill out at a beach...something to this effect.

There's nothing more irritating than people trying to bully alcohol down you...

I haven't drank since August 18th and I've been clubbing many times since then, its easy. Get on the J20's :smile:

Reply 9

Talya

16

I know how you feel, I am a fresher too and tonight all my flatmates are out at the welcome party or a local club but I'd rather be here to be honest! I'm not abnormal.. I do go out.. I've got tickets for the comedy club tomorrow. It's just I don't find the idea of clubbing attractive :smile:

Reply 10

Zoecb

11

I know what you mean. I like clubbing every now and again but I live with a few people who seem to do it EVERY night and that's really not me.

It's not really financially or physically sustainable either.

Reply 11

bluenoxid

13

a_t

Go clubbing, its great. Just don't drink, you don't have to you know.

Yeah I have to agree that that is easier said than done.

My advice is to find a quiet bar in the uni, and start chatting with random people, or just sit in a corner with a drink, eventually someone will start to get nosey

Its not sustainable to get pissed every night, I have got severely razzed over the past week

Reply 12

love2learn

4

I've beeen clubbing, and I've decided I don't really like it. I don't like really drunk guys coming up to me. I like a good pub with a few friends where you can actually enjoy a drink (alcoholic or not) and chat. That to me is a great evening. Then trying to play cards can be pretty fun. Well it is for me cos I never get it!

Reply 13

myrtille

15

I agree with love2learn. I enjoy a good drink (or several) in the pub, with a group of friends, especially if there's decent music in the background. And a relaxed game of pool, with other people who are equally bad at it :p:

But clubs really aren't for me... I don't know about the drunken one-night stand and so on, from my experience it's just REALLY BORING.

Still, there are plenty of other people who aren't bothered either. I'm in a 'quiet' house at my uni, and we're all in at the moment. Some of us are in our rooms, others are in the kitchen, or chatting in the living area. We're mostly quite sociable (well, I think some of the international students are a bit shy, but that's understandable), we're just not interested in clubs.

Reply 14

Alice 00

i hate clubbing but if u don't club it is very difficult to make friends. whatever society or group u hang with they will very likely club. it is like clubbing is just what u have to do. good luck having friends and not clubbing at the same time.

x

Reply 15

lemonllama

I don't go out every night either. I'll drink every now and again but not to get totally plastered, I don't see the point. I'd much rather do something else, like go see a comedy show, gigs, lunch in the park, shopping, etc. I've not met any like-minded people at uni yet either.... *waits*

Reply 16

Floozie

2

Clubbings not everyones thing, and thats fine. If you haven't tried it before, perhap you should give it a go, you don't have to drink or pull, just go to a place that plays your kind of music, and you never know, you might enjoy yourself!

Anonymous

Its like, theres a few nice girls on my course that i get on with, if i was to say, ask them out, then it wouldnt be anything traditonal, they would expect me to take them to a club?

Most girls wouldn't expect you to take them clubbing on a date, its not a ideal place for a good conversation.

Reply 17

username47781

20

I been a couple times and i am never going again, it's too loud, you can't have a decent conversation and usually 9 times out of 10 people there are trying it on with you, i stick to pubs.

Reply 18

.Andrew.

13

They might brag about 'that night out in da club'. But you will be the one waking up the next morning feeling 100% without buzzing ears, and a massive hang-over :biggrin:

Reply 19

DarkLight18

I would say go to a pub for most of the evening, then for like the last 1 hour or so go to a club, have a good dance. It is a good way to finish off the evening. Even if you dont like the music, just dance dance dance.

Clubs are not for me but for everyone else?

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