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Okay, you can't miss someone you never really knew right? But I feel like I've lost him, even though I never had him.

When I was still very young he started using heroin and from then on he went down hill, eventually killed someone and is now in prison. But I feel like I've lost my chance with him, and that my dad is now gone. Is it weird to feel sad? I mean, he's a murderer, and I believe in the death penalty, but I mean, he's my dad and I feel like a connection, you know? I feel like my dad's died and I just want to cry about it to be honest.

I think I'd even go meet him if I had the chance. And I look at pictures of him, from when he was younger. Am I weird?
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Okay, you can't miss someone you never really knew right? But I feel like I've lost him, even though I never had him.

When I was still very young he started using heroin and from then on he went down hill, eventually killed someone and is now in prison. But I feel like I've lost my chance with him, and that my dad is now gone. Is it weird to feel sad? I mean, he's a murderer, and I believe in the death penalty, but I mean, he's my dad and I feel like a connection, you know? I feel like my dad's died and I just want to cry about it to be honest.

I think I'd even go meet him if I had the chance. And I look at pictures of him, from when he was younger. Am I weird?
No you are jot weird at all. Of course you will still feel a connection and love for him - he is your dad after all. Remember stay strong, things will get better as time goes on x
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you can write to him in prison... that might be a good way to start.
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you can write to him in prison... that might be a good way to start.
I thought of that. I've sent off an email to try find out where he is (which prison and more info) but I'm not sure if they'll get back to me or not. Of course they need to give him privacy and not share his info with everyone that messages, but I don't even know which prison he's in so this is my only chance right now.

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Visit him. It might help you get closure on the matter. Best of luck with it all OP & God bless

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https://www.gov.uk/find-prisoner

this might be useful
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https://www.gov.uk/find-prisoner

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Yeah this is what I used, thanks anyway
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It's not weird and it's understanable that you want to see him.
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Okay, you can't miss someone you never really knew right? But I feel like I've lost him, even though I never had him.

When I was still very young he started using heroin and from then on he went down hill, eventually killed someone and is now in prison. But I feel like I've lost my chance with him, and that my dad is now gone. Is it weird to feel sad? I mean, he's a murderer, and I believe in the death penalty, but I mean, he's my dad and I feel like a connection, you know? I feel like my dad's died and I just want to cry about it to be honest.

I think I'd even go meet him if I had the chance. And I look at pictures of him, from when he was younger. Am I weird?
I know how you feel, sort of. My older brother was a still born and so obviously I've never meet him. I somehow still feel as if I lost out on something. Like, I have guy friends that would be his age, and they say I think like a boy, and stuff and I wonder if I am unintentionally trying to be him. I wonder if my friends would be hos friends too. We begin to think you're crazy for a loss that some people think shouldn't effect you, but it does, and we aren't crazy.
I don't understand your situation completely. That's impossible, no 2 people are the same. However, I can relate to it.
Good luck finding your dad.
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Did you find him?
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