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Obsessed over something I can't change

Ok this is bizarre and I can see how Id appear mental to others if I told them (maybe I am) but im really concerned and can't stop thinking about something. I might have that obbsessive thing but I don't think so Im probably just pathetic, but basically Ive read some research about breast feeding and formula feeding (someone mentioned it earlier on this site) and Ive read that adults who were formula fed have higher blood pressure and sgnificantly higher risk of heart disease than those who were breast fed. I was totally formula fed so can't help feeling angry and like Ive not achieved the best I can be. All my life I have excersised and tried to eat healthy and yet I find out that im one of those in the higher risk catagory because of something my mum chose to do way in the past. :frown:

Its the fact that I had no control over it that annoys me more than anything and if I tell anyone they will just laugh thinking im a moron but if well respected sites like these are stating it then how can I be any more pathetic than someone worrying about there health because of being obese or smoking in there childhood??

This is just one of the sites.
http://www.fphm.org.uk/policy_communication/downloads/publications/toolkits/hypertension/A.pdf

Ive been obsessing over it for months since I found out cause Ive always tried to stay in perfect health. Im not as obsessed as I sound but I do think about it quite a bit.

Reply 1

Sunofnight

3

Yea it was mentioned in that high colestrol thread, erm I don't know why it is seen as a risk factor I mean the formula milk will be out of your system by now it depends more on your current diet.

Reply 2

britishseapower

14

"something I can't change" think about it

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

OP

britishseapower

"something I can't change" think about it

I have done, it just makes me more mad and p***** off.

Reply 4

benisright

1

when i was younger i fell over and hit my head, i cant stop thinking about how that may have damaged me permanently, it probably hasnt done, but what if it has...

...look at it that way.

dont try and think about the past, the present and future is much more in your control!

Reply 5

Angelil

19

I was breast-fed but not for very long, then my mum switched to formula. I'm fine. *points at good grades in sig* I'm also very healthy and am hardly ever ill (once a year, if that). Plus, not all mothers can breast-feed (they just find it really uncomfortable etc what with cracked and bleeding nipples and so on - would you want to carry on with that?!) What you found out is a generalisation and unlikely to apply to all formula-fed babies. Concentrate on what you're good at etc etc and on with the present and future!

Reply 6

devilgirl999

1

ok i can understand this obsession because althought i dont get obsessions with something like this, i do get obsessions about things, people etc. have u had any obsessions about anything else before?

Reply 7

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3

Haha, you're angry at your mother because she didn't breast feed you? You are a moron, im afraid. There are thousands of things that can happen in your childhood that can affect your health later in life, such as having a compromised immune system if you don't eat enough dirt/worms/ants/grass or lung damage by being a passive smoker, as well as a whole host of other things. There is nothing you can do to control what happened when you were a drooling baby and its certainly not your mums fault, i doubt the research about cholestorol and breast feeding was out when you were born (which must be about 10 years ago, judging by your attitude). You need to grow up, stop worrying about this and live your life. Worrying about it will do nothing but stress you out, put strain on your heart and cause heart disease. So you're screwed either way.

Reply 8

blackcurrant

You can't blame your mum for not breast feeding you! So many other factors would need to come into play. Plus heart disease/hypertension whatever can be hereditary or caused by environmental factors. Or you could just be fat (sorry, I'm not in a great mood today). It could also be down to what you eat. Take responsibility for yourself.

My mother dropped me on my head as a child therefore everything I think about or feel has been screwed up by that. I want compensation. Sounds silly huh?

As for obsessing, have you tried doing something, like sport, to take your mind off it?

Reply 9

LouE3D

Having a higher risk doesn't mean "suffering from" - at the end of the day, instead of trying to blame someone else that could one day affect you, take control and do what you can to prevent it...

i.e good diet, exercise, low negative stress levels - as 3232 said, stop worrying so much about something you can't change. At the moment there is absolutely nothing wrong with you???

Reply 10

Anonymous #1

OP

3232

Haha, you're angry at your mother because she didn't breast feed you? You are a moron, im afraid. There are thousands of things that can happen in your childhood that can affect your health later in life, such as having a compromised immune system if you don't eat enough dirt/worms/ants/grass or lung damage by being a passive smoker, as well as a whole host of other things. There is nothing you can do to control what happened when you were a drooling baby and its certainly not your mums fault, i doubt the research about cholestorol and breast feeding was out when you were born (which must be about 10 years ago, judging by your attitude). You need to grow up, stop worrying about this and live your life. Worrying about it will do nothing but stress you out, put strain on your heart and cause heart disease. So you're screwed either way.

Hi, thanks, its not really just 'worry' and im not blaming my mum though I do
feel a bit annoyed, its this thing I have about knowing im healthy and not having any risk factors etc Ive made sure I had a healthy childhood only to find out that im at just as much risk if not more as someone who smoked in there childhood, according to the most respected research I would have been more intelligent too. Im not as self obsessed as it sounds lol I just have this thing about being in as perfect health as possible :redface:

Thanks for the honest replies and not insulting me :smile:

Reply 11

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3

The thing is, what will you accomplish by being angry/worried? There is absolutely nothing you can do, so just get on with your life before you cut it short with all the stress.

Reply 12

Anonymous #1

OP

3232

The thing is, what will you accomplish by being angry/worried? There is absolutely nothing you can do, so just get on with your life before you cut it short with all the stress.

I know it can't accomplish anything but its easier said than done, I think about it even when im busy, at the same time I think 'am I mad, this is the most ridiculous things in the world' and yet I can't stop thinking of the higher risk thing even though in reality it probably doesn't make much difference.

Reply 13

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3

Yes, you are mad. Seriously, this is something that you really shouldn't be obsessing over. I'd seek counselling as there must be some reason you're this obsessive.

Reply 14

Anonymous #1

OP

I thought about seeing someone but its embarrasing its such a pathetic obsession.

Reply 15

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3

Well, do you want to spend the rest of your life worrying about it, or do you want to spend 5 minutes being initially embarassed and then release yourself from the obsession?

Reply 16

Sunofnight

3

Hold on, one of the reasons this seems so silly maybe because many people don't take the health outcomes of breast feeding/formula feeding seriously. If this was someone worrying about there parents smoking in there childhood or during pregnancy it wouldn't seem as 'mad'. Yet the stuff that anon has read probably sees lack of breast feeding as just as bad as passive smoking in childhood..

I would suggest seeing someone if the obsession carries on.

Reply 17

ForumFreak

9

Actually I'm kind of annoyed at my mum for putting me on solids early as I reckon its why I'm allergic to lots of things.

However I think you shouldnt blow it out of proportion. I read that list and its just one of many factors that contribute to hypertension. I bet it doesnt make as much difference as some of the other factors. Also your mum could have done much worse things to you than put you on formula. Some people have horrible abusive mothers.

Try not to worry too much. See someone about your obsession if you think it will help but otherwise try to relax.

Reply 18

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3

Being allergic to a lot of things is generally down to parents being far too careful with their children and not allowing them to get dirty as a child. You have to come into contact with lots of things as a child to be able to get a healthy immune system. If you're protected too much, the result can be allergies.

Reply 19

ForumFreak

9

Really? I got absolutely covered in mud as a child and rarely washed my hands before eating. My immune system is fine when it comes to infections I just get allergic to stuff as well.

Anyway to the OP the point is that I bet all our mothers have done at least one thing wrong (and for most people more than one thing) when we were babies and children that is supposed to increase our risk of something or other later in life. You wont be the only one who wasnt breastfead and I bet its not going to make any difference in your adult life.

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