havin problems in uni accomodation

hi everyone have been in accomodation just over a week now. havin problems wit the ppl in my flat. they leave the kitchen filthy and have weird ppl around all the time making noise till all hours. it is really gettin me down i have hardly eaten because i feel uncomfortable in the kitchen wit the crowd/the kitchen is in such a mess i cant cook nethin. i am also feelin very isolated and depressed. am startin to wonder weva i can cope and have had really bad thoughts like self harming. ihave never felt like this b4 and i dont know wot to do

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Reply 1

egg_soup

Tell the buggers! dont suffer in silence, you have EVERY right to be there as much as them.
Maybe you will crap one by telling them but at least you will have earned some dignity and you hold your head up when your in your flat dont let them get you down! you should feel comfortable in your flat!!!!

Reply 2

jumpinglunch

tell the wardens asap,they will understand.

Reply 3

Alice 00

i'm sorry to hear that. please don't hurt urself.

university can be quite difficult to get used to. Things will improve when u meet people from ur course and societies that u join. If things with ur housemates become unbearable then can't u ask to be moved elsewhere?

x

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

i have said somethin to them and they said ok. but it still happens every nite. plus it is very intimidatin wen u have 3 in the flat that u have to talk to plus all thier friends cause they r never alone. i have spoken to the person in charge of accomodation she is goin to try and get me moved but it may not be possible but if it is it mite take a long time. i dont know how long i can put up wit it

Reply 5

TSR Group Staff

tesh^^

tell the wardens asap,they will understand.

yeah tell the accomadation office or whoever... they take this sort of thing very seriously, and i'm sure they've dealt with this sort of thing before...
is there anyone else who feels the same in the flats nearby cos they can't all find this sort of thing ok....

please don't hurt yourself, you're never alone...

Reply 6

egg_soup

tell them your serious. I know it will be hard - i had to do the same with mine - but if you stick to your guns and tell them exactly how they are wrecking your uni experience and your guna tell someone, hopefully they will settle down. I reduced to blanking the girl that jacked me off. childish yes, but it worked.

When u want to go for food, just walk in - ignore the tossers that might be in there - what can they do??

good luck anyway
x

Reply 7

Alice 00

i can completely relate to u. i hate inconsiderate people who leave mess, play music really loud and so on. it feels so intimidating being alone when confronting these people. things may improve however as u meet more people and freshers week ends and work really kicks in

xx

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

they can be quite intimidating cause i was sat in there mindin my own business and they got in my face and were sayin horrible stuff and all the ppl in my flat did was just sit there wit not a care in the world. i dont think the accomodation ppl r takin it seriously they rnt goin to rush themselves :frown:

Reply 9

egg_soup

i think im too outgoing and fiesty to sit there and let someone piss me off like that.

they were being horrible to you? as in how?

Reply 10

Alice 00

i have found that although no one on this site is a real friend, it can be liberating to simply say how u feel. babe, u know that u can always release ur frustration here.

i have been in the same position and it is horrible. u are being put into a position where u r made to feel miserable and uncomfortable in ur own flat; it is outrageous. but remember however anyone else tries to make u feel, u are strong and u are in the right!

things will improve.

xx

Reply 11

ForumFreak

Firstly I'd complain to the wardens.

In the meantime I'd avoid them as much as possible. Stay in your room and get some ear plugs. Also do you have a friend who would let you use their kitchen or bathroom?

Reply 12

Anonymous #1

usually i wouldnt let this type of thing get to me but it really is. i have other friends in another block but i cant keep goin over there all the time cause i think they r gettin fed up wit me
they were gettin in my face really close and saying really crude remarks.

Reply 13

Anonymous #1

luckily we dont share bathrooms i have ensuite.

Reply 14

ForumFreak

Thats good. Maybe just avoid the kitchen all together until its sorted. Buy sandwiches and stuff. Its still completely wrong though.

Reply 15

Anonymous #1

i cant afford to keep buyin sandwiches and take aways. im literally livin on an apple and banana even tho i have food in the kitchen

Reply 16

ForumFreak

That is really bad, I mean you've payed for a hall with a kitchen and you cant even use it! Is there any time of the day when you're there and they're all out or sleeping? As for your friends in the other block could you explain your situation to them? They might let you use their kitchen if they knew what was happening.

Anyway tell the wardens that they're intimidating you. When you say crude do you mean like sexual crude. If so thats harrassment and they have to take you seriously.

Reply 17

TSR Group Staff

i'm gonna crash now...

hope you have a good night :smile:

Reply 18

egg_soup

IMO i would nut one of em, and ask how they like it.

god i hate people like that.

i feel for you xox

Reply 19

afcwill

Why do people like those idiots go to university anyway?! Its a very serious issue that you basically arent eating because of some bums. Definitely speak to a manager, it'll be in confidence and the problem will be sorted. I can understand how you feel, it must be terrible being put off eating properly and buying takeaways - you just cant afford to do that at uni. The problem wont go away, the sooner you get it sorted the sooner you can start eating properly and the more money you will save. Im sure they will let you transfer rooms if possible. Dont suffer, you have EVERY right to be there too! I hope everything goes well for you.