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I don't know if i trust him, ex suspicions
I've been with my fella for 2 years, at the start his ex tried to break us up so we ignored her and lost touch. She started work at our local supermarket a few months ago and works in the cafe. I saw her there and kept quiet, his mates gf heard off someone else she works there too (mate's gf and his ex don't speak anymore).
I'm just scared he still sees her or knows about her life cos I said I went get some things from there and he always says why? and tonight he said why did you go for breakfast mishearing me when I said I went to get bread? I just find it suspicious why ask why your going to a supermarket and he is the sort who won't let me see his phone and I don't want to be cheated on.
I'm just scared he still sees her or knows about her life cos I said I went get some things from there and he always says why? and tonight he said why did you go for breakfast mishearing me when I said I went to get bread? I just find it suspicious why ask why your going to a supermarket and he is the sort who won't let me see his phone and I don't want to be cheated on.
Well to be honest he is with you now not her but then again he wouldn't be so secretative if he had nothing to hide then again also it's not right to go through his personal stuff.
Just because you're his girlfriend doesn't mean it's your right to see his phone. I never showed my phone to my exes, not because I was doing anything I shouldn't have done but because it's personal stuff and meant for my eyes only - would you expect him to let you read his emails, or be comfortable letting him read yours?
It's very easy to overreact and imagine things that aren't there when you're so emotionally involved in a situation. Try and put this in perspective: he's been with you for two years and (I assume) been committed and not given you any reason to suspect him for the duration of your relationship. He rejected the advances of this girl when you first got together, which should be encouraging. Has he given you any reason to believe he would cheat on you with her now?
Also, remember that exes can still maintain mutual, platonic friendships. Would it really be such a bad thing if he saw her? I agree that he should let you know if he does see her, but bear in mind he is not necessarily cheating on you. You do not even know if she is single or not or whether she still likes him, so she may not even be a threat.
I agree with the suggestion that you should talk to him about it, especially if it is bothering you. Ask him if he knows his ex is working locally, and how he feels about that, etc. Good communication is the key in any relationship. However, don't jump to any conclusions, and try not to be possessive or jealous, as this may push him away - especially if he has done nothing wrong.
Lex
It's very easy to overreact and imagine things that aren't there when you're so emotionally involved in a situation. Try and put this in perspective: he's been with you for two years and (I assume) been committed and not given you any reason to suspect him for the duration of your relationship. He rejected the advances of this girl when you first got together, which should be encouraging. Has he given you any reason to believe he would cheat on you with her now?
Also, remember that exes can still maintain mutual, platonic friendships. Would it really be such a bad thing if he saw her? I agree that he should let you know if he does see her, but bear in mind he is not necessarily cheating on you. You do not even know if she is single or not or whether she still likes him, so she may not even be a threat.
I agree with the suggestion that you should talk to him about it, especially if it is bothering you. Ask him if he knows his ex is working locally, and how he feels about that, etc. Good communication is the key in any relationship. However, don't jump to any conclusions, and try not to be possessive or jealous, as this may push him away - especially if he has done nothing wrong.
Lex
I think I would ask my partner why they were going for breakfast at the supermarket if they just randomly decided to tddle off on their own one morning... which is apparently misheard you saying.
You're being paranoid! Just because he can see his ex, doesn't mean he is going to sleep with her? As someone said, 2 years is a big commitment... have a little more faith in your man!
And as for the phone, I'd be offended if my partner asked to look through my phone just to check I wasn't doing anything untoward!! My phone - my business!
You're being paranoid! Just because he can see his ex, doesn't mean he is going to sleep with her? As someone said, 2 years is a big commitment... have a little more faith in your man!
And as for the phone, I'd be offended if my partner asked to look through my phone just to check I wasn't doing anything untoward!! My phone - my business!
Thanks Lex, you have given me an insight I wouldn't have thought of.
I would never just go through his phone but I wonder its cos there is porn on there or he may be criticising me to others. I just find the phone thing an easy way of cheating thats all.
I find it hard for exes to maintain mutual, platonic friendships and worry they may start to gain old feelings again
I would never just go through his phone but I wonder its cos there is porn on there or he may be criticising me to others. I just find the phone thing an easy way of cheating thats all.
I find it hard for exes to maintain mutual, platonic friendships and worry they may start to gain old feelings again
Of course people can be friends but when we started going out she contacted him a lot more than when they split which is why i had suspicions. Guess I'm frightened I'll lose him as he is a great guy and we have a good relationship.
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