The Student Room Group

Should I go for this other guy?

This is a bit of a dilemma for me. I've been with my boyfriend now for eight months. I love him to bits and we have such a great time together, but recently I've found myself attracted to another guy who lives nearby. He's drop-dead gorgeous, has a fantastic sense of humour and when he winks at me I feel all warm and excited. I love my boyfriend but the excitement with him has faded and we just get on like a married couple. I just can't stop thinking about this other guy. We have chatted at the bar a few times and he's very interesting and we have tons in common.
This is bad, but I feel tempted to play away. They both have the same first name, do you think this is good or bad? Help me please, any advice would be great, I haven't told anybody.
Reply 1
i would say dont do it.

youre in a relationship and to go off with this other bloke would be to potentially destroy your past (i dont know how long) with your boyfriend.

yes he may be exciting at the moment, but in a few months he may just be the same as your boyfriend is you say. you like him. but theres a lack of spark.

if you REALLY wanna go with this other guy. then youd have to break with your boyfriend and everything.


(although also, i guess some people would suggest having a "one time" with the guy. that may inject new spark into your current relationship...but not me)
Reply 2
for you to even think that i recon you should just go for the new guy. but leave your current bf FIRST!!!!!
Reply 3
It's a difficult decision, i love my boyfriend very much but i don't know if he's "the one". I'd like to think he is.
Reply 4
The way you're phrasing it you seem to want to go with the other guy.

Talk to your boyfriend about why you've gone stale. At all times be fair with him.
To be honest it seems all isn't well with your relationship, you say you love him but you are thinking about going with this other guy, how can you love your boyfriend if your thinking of doing that, you need to decide what you want but if you leave your current boyfriend it will hurt him badly.
Anonymous
It's a difficult decision, i love my boyfriend very much but i don't know if he's "the one". I'd like to think he is.


He obviously isnt, dump him, wait a while, go out with other guy. Its probably best for both of you.
Reply 7
go with both...