Like, rejecting obvious comfortable chemistry that is in some ways quite happy making, for something, and it's not even that cliched stuff about a bad or dangerous person, it's just that they create a more unfathomable feeling in you, and it's across more of a divide somehow, you keep going for the mystery element? The example I can give is someone who is not as well balanced, well dressed, conventionally attractive(but they are striking and strong people), together, or professionally successful, but there is something rough hewn, some mystery there that, even though you are not down on the other person, at all, in fact they come above everyone else, they just seem to together and balanced and clean cut in a way, even when they tick your physical attraction boxes all the way, the rough edges and more imperfect and less educated, well set-up, more fought for, and emotionally painful, in places, life of someone else lends them more mystery and makes it more of a conquest?
Could be indicators as trivial as tattoos, increased social network usage ,which yeah, I know is narcissicm, but those things that add to their difference element as well, although clearly the main stuff is what I described. They are just, less like you, so mystery would sustain so much longer, and bonds would be worked at through shared memories, but mystery is retained, surely that's ideal-you want the journey, the effort and the mystery to keep you going, because if it fits too well it's comfort zone and will you grow like that?
Just interesting to see whether that is totally unusual