Asking permission for first kiss on a date: lame or sweet?

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Saw this on another forum, and the overwhelming response was lame, but most were of a older demographics, so I was wondering what the view is here on TSR.

Mainly looking for a female perspective btw
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I wouldn't think it was lame to ask but I personally wouldn't like it. To me, I think it would kill the atmosphere. I would rather a kiss was spontaneous.

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The law says you need permission, and you can be done for sexual assault if it's unwanted by the woman, however nobody in the real world is going to ask for a kiss and you're going to look like a moron if you do so.
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Lame. It's a mood killer. And you can pretty much always tell if they want to kiss.



That said, some feminist psychopaths would probably think a spontaneous kiss was sexual assault...
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I can't think of anything that would make you look more lame. When I was a youngster there was none of this neuroticism going around. We pedestalised girls, of course, but even the most crashing loser realised that when it got to that moment it was about abandon and going for it. Feminists have a lot to answer for, it seems.
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I think it is way better to just go for it, than to ask. Anytime a guy has asked me, it's kind of felt... awkward? If I'm on a date with someone, or it's obvious we're gonna kiss, I'd rather the guy just do it.
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With a stranger or someone you already knew? If it's a friend I'd prefer they go for it - if I was on a date with them I clearly like them so want more than friendship. If it's a stranger, I'd be getting to know them so asking would be fine/sweet.
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(Original post by Ajibola)
Saw this on another forum, and the overwhelming response was lame, but most were of a older demographics, so I was wondering what the view is here on TSR.

Mainly looking for a female perspective btw
The only guy who's ever done it to me really pulled it off, ngl.

But I can certainly see how it could be awkward and terrible.
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The law says you need permission, and you can be done for sexual assault if it's unwanted by the woman, however nobody in the real world is going to ask for a kiss and you're going to look like a moron if you do so.
that law is for stuff like groping women in the workplace

...and kind of irrelevant here anyway
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I asked her, "Can I kiss you?" She replied, "Yes."
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I like it when the guy just goes for it, picks a moment (a good moment) and just leans in.. shows he's got guts
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I think it's better to not ask tbh, you have to look for the signs that they'd like it. If you lean towards them & then they back off then obviously they don't want one.
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(Original post by Ajibola)
Saw this on another forum, and the overwhelming response was lame, but most were of a older demographics, so I was wondering what the view is here on TSR.

Mainly looking for a female perspective btw
If you ask it just kind of shows you're really bad at reading the other person and it's a turn off. Go in slowly, if they don't seem interested and move towards you too, then you know without saying "Can I kiss you?" and having a flat out "No" or an awkward stumble. Asking sort of puts pressure on the other person too, whereas moving away from a lunge is just reflexive and makes it so you don't have to say outloud what you both already know.
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It's best to let it happen naturally. If you asked a girl for permission to kiss her, it would ruin the flow and it is quite "lame" as well.

Some girls may agree, others may disagree. It highly depends on the individual.


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Hmm, interesting responses. I guess it's best pay close attention to body language.
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Am I the only one who doesn't find this a mood killer? A guy said this to me and I thought it was sweet, 'cause he knew I was shy :lol:
Though he'd practically lunged on me earlier on and not given me much choice, sooo Not sure why he suddenly started being gentlemanly :rofl:
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For what it's worth, the one guy who ever did this to me actually really pulled it off. It was more of a 'charmingly cocky remark with a smile' thing, though, rather than a stammering "uh, uh, can I kiss you now?" sort of thing.

Besides I think he said "I'm going to kiss you now", so maybe that was it.
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I have this before and I think it's sweet :-)


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I think it's better to ask tbh, you have to look for the signs that they'd like it. If you lean towards them & then they back off then obviously they don't want one.
That's more just going for it tbh. And I can't for the life of me think of any way you could literally ask her without either turning it into a joke or bringing on a literal f***tonne of awkward. Neither are what you really want before going for a kiss.
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I wouldn't say it was lame but I'd prefer them not to ask. Although I once said to a guy are you going to kiss me then..
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