help needed with GF

if you have been going out for years, how come her parents have only just found out? if she has moved far away from you then there is not alot you can do regarding the situation with her parents, just be there to support her or whatever if she needs someone to talk to.

Reply 2

OP

The reason they found now is because before we used to meet at school etc; but now as we used to talk on the phone and chat using webcam, i know not a very good thing to do but they heard us speeking.

Reply 3

well whats the problem, do you have different religions or something? all your doing is talking, its a bit ridiculous for them to loose their rag over their daughter talking to someone from a different religion/culture

Reply 4

OP

no we are not from different cultures or religion but they dont like the fact that there can be bf and gf before marrage, they must have heard us say things about how much we love each other and stuff, i really concerned

Reply 5

Anonymous

no we are not from different cultures or religion but they dont like the fact that there can be bf and gf before marrage, they must have heard us say things about how much we love each other and stuff, i really concerned

well in order to marry someone, you need to be in a relationship first, you don't just 'become married' unless of course it's an arranged marriage, it doesn't make sense, there must be something else that is influencing them?

Reply 6

OP

first i like to say thank you for your help! :smile:

umm no thats the reason, yes its silly but thats it, nothing more nor less and its pissing me off big time n making me depressed

Reply 7

how old is she? she isn't going to be under her parents control forever, they can't force her to live her life in a certain way

Reply 8

OP

we are both 18

Reply 9

do her parents know you? have they met you? it seems bizaare that they won't let her daughter be in a relationship just because they believe she should be married, it's essential to have a relationship before you get married. I'm assuming their main concern is that she might loose her virginity before she gets married, assuming that she hasn't already lost it. I guess the only thing you can do in that respect is reassure them that your willing to wait till marriage assuming that you are, I wouldn't lie to them if your not. Is she quite close to her family or does she plan on moving out? is she going to uni?

Reply 10

OP

shes umm at uni and no they havnt met me nor do they know me, i know it is bassar and it maybe so that they are scraed about her loosing her virginity however both of us have no intenion of doin that sort of thing before marrage anyway

Reply 11

suicidal_dream

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you have to remember some cultures dont like men and women to meet unless it is through an arranged marriage - and in these cases the girls are seen to be their parents property until they are married off.

just stick by her and do all you can. Hopefully she'll be able to talk her parents round.

Reply 12

is there no way that you can arrange to meet them? her parents are probably angry because it seems from the facts that you have given, that you both hid this relationship from them, they probably didn't appreciate being kept in the dark about it and their probably wondering why they were kept in the dark. If you introduce yourself and explain why it was kept a secret and they got to know you and stuff, they might be more accepting of you.

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