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Hating Parent
Hi,
Basically i'm starting to hate(strong word perhaps) my mum.
I love dearly and has she always been there for me, but she treats me as a child when i'm not, i'm 20 and male.
When i speak to her, it's always negatives and worry. Basically i avoid her as much as i can because she's really negative and worrisome. I even hate speaking to her on the phone because she never has anything positive to say.
I've been moved out a few years, just to get away, so having enjoyed freedom, it seems to have made it worse. I'm an independent person but she can't seem to realise that.
Am i being silly? Does anyone else feel like this?
I love her, i'd die for her, but i just feel she makes me stressed, and the fact she's so nice and caring, actually puts alot of pressure on me. Sometimes i find it quite insulting.
Thanks for reading.
p.s
Typical convo
Me: "Hi mum, how's it going?"
Her: "Fine, oh have you remembered to do that? Oh don't forget that. Oh remeber to do that. Remember that X can hurt you. Remember X is dangerous etc"
Basically i'm starting to hate(strong word perhaps) my mum.
I love dearly and has she always been there for me, but she treats me as a child when i'm not, i'm 20 and male.
When i speak to her, it's always negatives and worry. Basically i avoid her as much as i can because she's really negative and worrisome. I even hate speaking to her on the phone because she never has anything positive to say.
I've been moved out a few years, just to get away, so having enjoyed freedom, it seems to have made it worse. I'm an independent person but she can't seem to realise that.
Am i being silly? Does anyone else feel like this?
I love her, i'd die for her, but i just feel she makes me stressed, and the fact she's so nice and caring, actually puts alot of pressure on me. Sometimes i find it quite insulting.
Thanks for reading.
p.s
Typical convo
Me: "Hi mum, how's it going?"
Her: "Fine, oh have you remembered to do that? Oh don't forget that. Oh remeber to do that. Remember that X can hurt you. Remember X is dangerous etc"
Yes i realise that.
I endured it for years, but recently the feelings of slight annoyance are really turning to more. As in i can't speak to her without getting angry.
I endured it for years, but recently the feelings of slight annoyance are really turning to more. As in i can't speak to her without getting angry.
have you talked to her about it? try to reason with her, if she says don't do this or X is dangerous e.t.c. then point out that your still alive and well and that you haven't had any problems or whatever
Yes.
It's a constant battle.
Now she realises, she just acknowledges that she's wareing me down and will continue the next day. Like she realises but it just phases by her.
We will have an arguement, and i'll say "You're really ****ing annoying me, treating me like i'm a prick". She'll agree she is!
I'd prefer for her to slap me in the face or to not treat me like a knob.
I'd love to carry on with some sort of education, but i'd rather be a tramp than going home and relying/living with my parents
I can't win.
It's a constant battle.
Now she realises, she just acknowledges that she's wareing me down and will continue the next day. Like she realises but it just phases by her.
We will have an arguement, and i'll say "You're really ****ing annoying me, treating me like i'm a prick". She'll agree she is!
I'd prefer for her to slap me in the face or to not treat me like a knob.
I'd love to carry on with some sort of education, but i'd rather be a tramp than going home and relying/living with my parents
I can't win.
Anonymous
Am i being silly? Does anyone else feel like this?
hiya
most people on this forum are going to give cliches like all mum's are like that; i won't. There are some mothers, and they are very few, who are just damn control freaks
I hate to say this but i really don't like my mum. I would rather have no mum than my mum. in fact she has caused me huge psychological damage. perhaps u are wondering why this is?i shall offer some examples:
age 21: i want to go to the gym on a sunny afternoon at 2pm. MUm refuses permission, barricades herself to the door and demands me to go to my room and shut up.
this summer i spent 4 months sitting in my room because of that bitch. i was not allowed to go anywhere or even get a job. i tried to be as inoffensive as possible and keep to myself, but she would never leave me alone. 'are u brushing ur teeth' she would yell at 11pm, then she would moan if i brushed at 4pm or for brushing too hard or the time i bought semi skimmed milk instead of skimmed and she went f**king berserk. CONTROL FREAK PSYCHO
before those 4 months i tried everything to stay away from her. because i had to reapply to uni to study medicine i had to spend a whole year at home. in that year in did nothing because of her: she denied permission and when i threatened to go she would emotionally blackmail me by screaming at my sick dad.
there have been many times when i could kill her with my bare f**ing hands!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
^^ Sorry to hear that ****!
I'm not like that as a person. Quite a big guy, always have been, also hate authority and don't submit myself to it.
From 13 up (i was 5"7) i did my own thing, stayed out all night, got busted etc. BUT being that age, i could handle the odd bull**** lectures, as i was young and thought i deserved it.
NOTHING has changed, i'm now 20.
I'm not like that as a person. Quite a big guy, always have been, also hate authority and don't submit myself to it.
From 13 up (i was 5"7) i did my own thing, stayed out all night, got busted etc. BUT being that age, i could handle the odd bull**** lectures, as i was young and thought i deserved it.
NOTHING has changed, i'm now 20.
Anonymous
^^ Sorry to hear that ****!
I'm not like that as a person. Quite a big guy, always have been, also hate authority and don't submit myself to it.
From 13 up (i was 5"7) i did my own thing, stayed out all night, got busted etc. BUT being that age, i could handle the odd bull**** lectures, as i was young and thought i deserved it.
NOTHING has changed, i'm now 20.
I'm not like that as a person. Quite a big guy, always have been, also hate authority and don't submit myself to it.
From 13 up (i was 5"7) i did my own thing, stayed out all night, got busted etc. BUT being that age, i could handle the odd bull**** lectures, as i was young and thought i deserved it.
NOTHING has changed, i'm now 20.
what do u mean? not like that as a person? u don't submit urself to it? submit? are u saying i don't stand up for myself?
Anonymous
what do u mean? not like that as a person? u don't submit urself to it? submit? are u saying i don't stand up for myself?
well, you are anonymous (just joking)
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