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Friends.
Anyone here ever had a really close friend only to lose them over something stupid?
Its just happened to me and I am male and the friend was female.
I became over confident and wanted too much and as we were close she just backed off and today she sort of fell out big time she said I had been texting her all through our friendship when it had always been her that initiated texting conversations and accused me of lying, being obsessed and said she 'just doesn't want to talk to me' and found me annoying and always had done throughout our friendship by saying 'I didn't like your character before then'.
I'm really hurting just can't put it into words she has blocked me on msn and talks to my sister and not me! How is that right surely she should be friends with me I have tried many times to make up with her doesn't work.
I'm just going to back off completely she's said she wants me to leave her alone and doesn't want to talk to me, even told me to forget her and everything she ever said.
Its eating me up inside so much I've never lost a friend or fallen out with any one the way I have here.
Its just happened to me and I am male and the friend was female.
I became over confident and wanted too much and as we were close she just backed off and today she sort of fell out big time she said I had been texting her all through our friendship when it had always been her that initiated texting conversations and accused me of lying, being obsessed and said she 'just doesn't want to talk to me' and found me annoying and always had done throughout our friendship by saying 'I didn't like your character before then'.
I'm really hurting just can't put it into words she has blocked me on msn and talks to my sister and not me! How is that right surely she should be friends with me I have tried many times to make up with her doesn't work.
I'm just going to back off completely she's said she wants me to leave her alone and doesn't want to talk to me, even told me to forget her and everything she ever said.
Its eating me up inside so much I've never lost a friend or fallen out with any one the way I have here.
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Reply 1
Just wanna know what can do I feel really tempted to email her but I'm not going to.
Anyone been here what did you do and what happened?
Anyone been here what did you do and what happened?
Reply 2
it sounds like she's hurt, all them things you said she said i.e. I never liked u anyway and stuff, just sounds like something that someone would say when their hurt but they don't really mean it. I think the best thing to do is to just leave her alone as you say and give her time to think. She might come around eventually and if your sister is still talking to her, then find out through your sister how she is feeling in a few weeks time and see if your sister will put in a few good words for you, nothing obvious, just saying like oh my brother has been doing such and such lately and see how she responds
Reply 3
Anonymous
Just wanna know what can do I feel really tempted to email her but I'm not going to.
Anyone been here what did you do and what happened?
Anyone been here what did you do and what happened?
don't get in touch with her at all, it will only aggravate the problem, I'm assuming you have already apologised so just leave it at that, whats done is done, there is not alot else that you can do other than wait.
Reply 4
never trust anyone
friendships are based on circumstances
live for u, and not for others.
friendships are based on circumstances
live for u, and not for others.
Reply 5
britishseapower
Cheers yeah see what you mean, not going down that route what you said will happen if I do so definetly won't do that.
I really hope she didn't mean what she said, we spoke today after nearly a month of silence from each other and she said some really nasty things to me but I didn't give her any reaction in our actual conversation on msn.
Its going to take more than a few weeks to sort this out we went a month without talking and she did nothing to contact me again and my sister got her to talk to me today.
Then this evening on msn, the friend was talking to my sister and this is exactly what she said:
'u tried 2 get us 2 b friends but its not workin out so yeh...hope me n u can still b mates tho.'
She hardly tried she wouldn't allow me to give my side all I could do was listen to her call me a lier and say I always annoyed her and texted her when its simply not true! She is holding a grudge and its pretty obvious after what she said today, yes she may be hurt but after a month of not talking to her she still, seems to me any way, hates me. Even though she has said she has 'forgiven' me she says she 'doesn't want to talk to me' because she finds me 'annoying'!
Cheers yeah see what you mean, not going down that route what you said will happen if I do so definetly won't do that.
I really hope she didn't mean what she said, we spoke today after nearly a month of silence from each other and she said some really nasty things to me but I didn't give her any reaction in our actual conversation on msn.
Its going to take more than a few weeks to sort this out we went a month without talking and she did nothing to contact me again and my sister got her to talk to me today.
Then this evening on msn, the friend was talking to my sister and this is exactly what she said:
'u tried 2 get us 2 b friends but its not workin out so yeh...hope me n u can still b mates tho.'
She hardly tried she wouldn't allow me to give my side all I could do was listen to her call me a lier and say I always annoyed her and texted her when its simply not true! She is holding a grudge and its pretty obvious after what she said today, yes she may be hurt but after a month of not talking to her she still, seems to me any way, hates me.
Even though she has said she has 'forgiven' me she says she 'doesn't want to talk to me' because she finds me 'annoying'!Reply 6
a dear friend finally snapped and screamed 'i hate ur f**king essence'
we never spoke again
that is life.
we never spoke again
that is life.
Reply 7
I'm blocked on msn by her and as I say, she has a grudge because she won't relent in even hearing me out at all.
And then she speaks to my sister as if she has known her for years!
And then she speaks to my sister as if she has known her for years!
Reply 8
its never really a good idea to make a move on close friends, thankfully I've never done it although I was tempted once with a girl I have known for about 4 years
Reply 9
Anonymous
I'm blocked on msn by her and as I say, she has a grudge because she won't relent in even hearing me out at all.
And then she speaks to my sister as if she has known her for years!
And then she speaks to my sister as if she has known her for years!
best thing to do is get over with it and get on with ure life, start enjoying ureself, she's bound to ask about you from time to time if she talks to ure sister regularly and if she hears that ure enjoying ureself and that ure not bothered about the falling out then its alot better than if she hears your sobbing in ure pillow
Reply 10
When I say I wanted too much all that happened was I admitted to her that I fancied her which she said made her feel guilty because she didn't like me in the same way.
I never made a move on her, never really had the chance to even if I wanted to.
I never made a move on her, never really had the chance to even if I wanted to.
Reply 11
Anonymous
When I say I wanted too much all that happened was I admitted to her that I fancied her which she said made her feel guilty because she didn't like me in the same way.
I never made a move on her, never really had the chance to even if I wanted to.
I never made a move on her, never really had the chance to even if I wanted to.
well if that is all you did then do you really want to remain friends with her after the way she has reacted? its completely disproportionate, I thought you had really made a move on her or something, like kissed her or something, all she needed to do was explain that she didn't like you in the same way e.t.c. there is no need to start being nasty to you.
Reply 12
I don't want to make myself out to seem a real innocent victim, but we would text a lot and she suddenly decided this was a rather stupid idea and stopped which gave me a bit of worry as to why she had suddenly stopped.
She then told me I was getting to close to her and she found me too 'stalkerish' and was becoming obsessive which was no way what I was trying or intending to do.
This was about June and I was going through a difficult time at home with a relative passing away and she knew of this immediately and it was just before this she had said we shouldn't text as much.
After the relative's funeral I changed and as she noticed this, I would text her for just conversation really and she always saw this as me annoying her deliberately and being obsessive! It also has to be said I stopped being different in way I behaved before beginning of new term so in September. But we were no longer on speaking terms by then so she still thinks I am like I was before.
So that is what she is going back to and holding a grudge against me for its not really fair because I have explained time and time again this all to her but she still holds this grudge and tells me she just 'doesn't want to talk to me'!!??
She then told me I was getting to close to her and she found me too 'stalkerish' and was becoming obsessive which was no way what I was trying or intending to do.
This was about June and I was going through a difficult time at home with a relative passing away and she knew of this immediately and it was just before this she had said we shouldn't text as much.
After the relative's funeral I changed and as she noticed this, I would text her for just conversation really and she always saw this as me annoying her deliberately and being obsessive! It also has to be said I stopped being different in way I behaved before beginning of new term so in September. But we were no longer on speaking terms by then so she still thinks I am like I was before.
So that is what she is going back to and holding a grudge against me for its not really fair because I have explained time and time again this all to her but she still holds this grudge and tells me she just 'doesn't want to talk to me'!!??
Reply 13
This is so hurtful to me right now.
What she said today was very hurtful - I thought a month away from talking would solve it but is hasn't and she said some horrible things which I didn't comment on to her earlier but all the same she'll know they upset me.
She even went as far as to say 'I've been so much happier since I havn't been talking to you'!!!!!!
If that isn't rude then what on earth is really ripped me apart as I'm sure would for most people if they had a close friend who they trusted so hard.
Even felt suicidal at points through this, just thinking what if I suddenly went, would she give a toss.....
What she said today was very hurtful - I thought a month away from talking would solve it but is hasn't and she said some horrible things which I didn't comment on to her earlier but all the same she'll know they upset me.
She even went as far as to say 'I've been so much happier since I havn't been talking to you'!!!!!!
If that isn't rude then what on earth is really ripped me apart as I'm sure would for most people if they had a close friend who they trusted so hard.
Even felt suicidal at points through this, just thinking what if I suddenly went, would she give a toss.....
Reply 14
just forget her, I know its hard but just do it, she's not worth the time of the day, it will never go back to what it was, just leave her be and get on with your life.
Reply 15
how long have you been freinds for
Reply 16
11
Anonymous
a dear friend finally snapped and screamed 'i hate ur f**king essence'
we never spoke again
that is life.
we never spoke again
that is life.
Reply 17
3
Hmmm, this seems really similar to another thread that was here about a week ago, are you the same guy? You've just gotta move on, there is unlikely to be any possible way for you to go back to being friends the way you were before. And don't contemplate suicide, this girl isn't worthy of your friendship and therefore is certainly not worth dying over. You've got the rest of your life to live, one teenage friend is pretty insignificant in the whole scheme of things.
Reply 18
you said you feel suicidal. there are other people who care about you who you have to live for, like family etc. Please don't even contemplate something which would be so painful to others.
I'm really sorry you've been so badly hurt, it really sucks.
Unfortunately people do have the right to chose who they are friends with and there is little you can do about it.
Just find stuff to take your mind off it and hang in there. it'll get easier with time i promise. you'll probably end up hating her guts eventually.
there are other people who care about you who you have to live for, like family etc. Please don't even contemplate something which would be so painful to others.I'm really sorry you've been so badly hurt, it really sucks.
Unfortunately people do have the right to chose who they are friends with and there is little you can do about it.Just find stuff to take your mind off it and hang in there. it'll get easier with time i promise. you'll probably end up hating her guts eventually.
Reply 19
Thank you for all of the replies, greatly appreciated thank you.
I find this so so hard, I havn't told or shared this with any of my friends other than one guy who is close at school. Last night I lay awake in bed just thinking of all the horrible things she said about me ever drew a tear.
I'm not going to contemplate suicide, as what you all said, I have a lot to look out for in my life and it hasn't even started yet.
As it stands now, she asked for my number in March, and I gave it to her and she would text me practicly ever day until about July when she said it wasn't really a good idea and she felt I was getting to close.
This is where the problem I am now facing arose and started.
She would text me every day from March - July until she said to stop. She would always initiate the texting and text me first.
Then after July, I would text her first she would always reply but she said this is why she thought I was obsessed. And then yesterday she said to me in our last conversation, that I had always texted her first!
This is not the case! Yes, after she said it wasn't such a good idea but before that she would always text me!
My sister confronted her on this just a few minutes ago and she said I am being a liar because I would always text first.
The trouble is that I have about 100 texts from her at least 20 of her saying stuff like 'Hi, blah blah,'. Blatently showing she started the texting!
What should I do? Because this is basicly the root of all this problem!
I find this so so hard, I havn't told or shared this with any of my friends other than one guy who is close at school. Last night I lay awake in bed just thinking of all the horrible things she said about me ever drew a tear.
I'm not going to contemplate suicide, as what you all said, I have a lot to look out for in my life and it hasn't even started yet.
As it stands now, she asked for my number in March, and I gave it to her and she would text me practicly ever day until about July when she said it wasn't really a good idea and she felt I was getting to close.
This is where the problem I am now facing arose and started.
She would text me every day from March - July until she said to stop. She would always initiate the texting and text me first.
Then after July, I would text her first she would always reply but she said this is why she thought I was obsessed. And then yesterday she said to me in our last conversation, that I had always texted her first!
This is not the case! Yes, after she said it wasn't such a good idea but before that she would always text me!
My sister confronted her on this just a few minutes ago and she said I am being a liar because I would always text first.
The trouble is that I have about 100 texts from her at least 20 of her saying stuff like 'Hi, blah blah,'. Blatently showing she started the texting!
What should I do? Because this is basicly the root of all this problem!
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