Jealous of GF "icident"

I know that this will sound really pathetic and stupid, but I just wanted to get it out and talk to some people who could perhaps offer some advice. I've tried talking to friends, but I just haven't been able to get it out and explain it to them.

Basically, before my girlfriend and I met and started going out with one another, she got off with this guy (just kissing) in a club. She's been clubbing a lot (as have I... but I have a rule of not doing "stuff like that".) I know that sounds a little strange, but it’s just something I've always followed.

For some reason, it just kinda bugs and annoys me. Any reasons to why I occasionally feel like this? Any help/advice would be much appreciated. If it means anything to you, we've been together a while now and I really think me and her could go along way. Help?

Thanks! :smile:

Reply 1

Anonymous #1

OP

Anonymous

I know that this will sound really pathetic and stupid, but I just wanted to get it out and talk to some people who could perhaps offer some advice. I've tried talking to friends, but I just haven't been able to get it out and explain it to them.

Basically, before my girlfriend and I met and started going out with one another, she got off with this guy (just kissing) in a club. She's been clubbing a lot (as have I... but I have a rule of not doing "stuff like that".) I know that sounds a little strange, but it’s just something I've always followed.

For some reason, it just kinda bugs and annoys me. Any reasons to why I occasionally feel like this? Any help/advice would be much appreciated. If it means anything to you, we've been together a while now and I really think me and her could go along way. Help?

Thanks! :smile:

Title should read INCIDENT.. sorry!

Reply 2

Purple

18

You are jealous about her kissing another guy before you two were even together? Or is it because you really dont trust her?

Reply 3

a_t

16

So you're jealous of a guy she kissed before she even met you? :s:

And this rule about how when you go clubbing you don't kiss, is that actually a rule? Or is it just something that's been forced on you

Reply 4

atack

kirstinx

You are jealous about her kissing another guy before you two were even together? Or is it because you really dont trust her?

See, the thing is that I trust her 100% (as does she in respect to trusting me). She hasn't done anything to make me not trust her and to be honest hasn't put a foot wrong at all since we've been together. It's not to do with her kissing another guy before we were together. After all, she's had boyfriends before me (and she isn't my first girlfriend before you ask). :p:

Regards,
Chris

Ah well, there goes my annoniminity ^^^

Reply 5

a_t

16

there goes the anon cmjmiles

Reply 6

username47781

20

hmmmm that doesn't sound promising if you don't like the fact she kissed a guy long before she met you.

Reply 7

atack

a_t

there goes the anon cmjmiles

Yup

It is not an issue that I'm proud of and it doesn't really bother me that much. I just needed to get it out and hopefully find somebody who could offer some advice.

Regards,
Chris

Reply 8

Purple

18

cmjmiles

See, the thing is that I trust her 100% (as does she in respect to trusting me). She hasn't done anything to make me not trust her and to be honest hasn't put a foot wrong at all since we've been together. It's not to do with her kissing another guy before we were together. After all, she's had boyfriends before me (and she isn't my first girlfriend before you ask). :p:

Regards,
Chris

Ah well, there goes my annoniminity ^^^

What is the problem then?

Reply 9

atack

I guess there isn't really a problem. Just need to get on with having an excellent relationship with her :smile:

Chris

Reply 10

username47781

20

Hang on you say your jealous but now you say your happy i don't get it

Reply 11

rosetinted

2

I don't understand what you need help with. What is the jealous in the title referring to? Your girlfriend loves you, hasn't given you any reason to doubt her and you say that 10 mins after the original post that you aren't jealous.

Reply 12

Purple

18

Imaginary problem solved then.

Reply 13

username47781

20

I think he just wanted attention.

Reply 14

atack

Carl1982

Hang on you say your jealous but now you say your happy i don't get it

I guess I'm not jealous then. I just don't really like the idea...

I don't understand what you need help with. What is the jealous in the title referring to? Your girlfriend loves you, hasn't given you any reason to doubt her and you say that 10 mins after the original post that you aren't jealous.