Finding it hard to make friends at uni

Basically I am commuting ( :frown:

)and unfortunately missed the first week of uni because I was seriously ill. Now I don't really know anybody at my uni. It seems that groups have already started forming and I am not part of any. I find it a more difficult to approach groups of people, especially because they know eachother already and I would just be sort of 'tagging along' with them.

How can I prevent myself from being isolated?

Reply 1

Anonymous #2

You and me both I hate being isolated and having no friends at uni :frown:

Reply 2

naddles

1

What about on your course?Those are the people who you be seeing a lot of for the next few years.

Reply 3

Anonymous #3

yea i have only a few friends too and no1 that ive clicked with... :frown:

Reply 4

Dragon24

17

In the first year I transferred during freshers week as the uni wasn't for me! I went to one nearer home but everyone had already been introduced etc so I spoke to this girl in my lecture and it turns out she was on my course. Just ask what course are you on and where you from etc. She then introduced me to another girl and another girl joined us as she found it hard making friends too. It will all work out, you just gotta talk!

Reply 5

jumpinglunch

13

Random people in a club/pub never fails,just ask them about thier course,halls,how they are finding uni,then move on to other topics.

Reply 6

shinyhappy

14

Join stuff. Clubs, sports teams, religious groups, musical societies, there has to be something that would suit you, where you'd meet people with similar interests to you :smile:

Reply 7

Dramatic Star

2

I have found it hard to make friends at Uni. I have people who I would losely call 'friends' but they aren't people that I had at home where you could talk to them about anything. I'm in my second year & due to problems last year, I hardly know anyone off my course. I've tried to make the effort to know them, but they don't really want to know (apart from a few).

Obviously I really can't give you any advice as I am in the same situation as you. I've been told to join societies but I can't motivate myself to do it. I'm not interested in any of the societies running. I can't be helped, lol!

Reply 8

suicidal_dream

1

join the club.. but it is still freshers week where i am and there hasnt been much going on for me to meet like-minded people.

there's been a few gigs on that i've been to, and im joining the rocksoc hopefully on sunday so give yourself a chance and do that stuff you want to do and will enjoy - you'll meet people eventually!

Reply 9

Navajo

14

join clubs. simple as that.

Reply 10

flygirl

Hey all, originally posted this in my uni forum: -

Just a little message to those who are commuting to uni for the first time - from a veteran of commuting (1st + 3rd yrs)

It'll get easier, so don't worry, it becomes a routine and will probably make you more organised....but....

I'll always give the advice to live on or near campus coz if its a campus uni and you will probably miss out on a hell of a lot - e.g clubs/societies/general socialising - I found it very hard in my first year to keep my my social life there due to trains not running past midnight and commitment to clubs etc - and this is what is important in your first year - having fun! As well as the ease of going to lectures/library etc..

Living near uni last year was fab, was so so busy with sports etc
Iv now decided to commute this year - but it's all good coz Ive got so much work to do this year....my social life hasn't really suffered - my base has been home where alot of my mates, job,boyfriend etc are...

So just to say there are students out there who travel - you are not alone!!

making friends will happen, dont worry, just get to know as many people as you can and your friendships will form :smile:

- and yeah - societies and clubs are a great way to expand your social group at uni...give it some time, i know its hard...

Reply 11

The_Bear

13

I've found that wearing a balaclava and beating someone you like half to death then visiting them in the hospital is a good way to make friends.

Reply 12

Li'l Q

I am a re-taking my 1st year, at Aston Uni, so obviously had to get 2 know more people.

I didn't get to now that many people, in and out of lectures, because i was living at home, and i just thought i will just turn up to study, cos my home life is gud...........

But this year, i have already tried to communicate with people, now and then, making small talk and made a few friends, so its cool.........

I think if you want 2 make more friends, you have 2 force the issue 1st.........btw i didn't even go at Freshers Week!

Also, the girls are better in the course!!!!!!

Reply 13

Li'l Q

I am a re-taking my 1st year, at Aston Uni, so obviously had to get 2 know more people.

I didn't get to now that many people, in and out of lectures, because i was living at home, and i just thought i will just turn up to study, cos my home life is gud...........

But this year, i have already tried to communicate with people, now and then, making small talk and made a few friends, so its cool.........

I think if you want 2 make more friends, you have 2 force the issue 1st.........btw i didn't even go at Freshers Week!

Also, the girls are better in the course!!!!!!

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