Horny, but at the wrong time.

This is getting really annoying. I don't really tend to get horny much and that has been explained by an article i read in my boyfs magazine saying that i'm probabaly feeling too secure in my relationship, but thats completely beside the point and not a problem. The actual problem is when i do feel horny it is only ever straight after we have sex which is the stupidest time to be horny cos he has just come and can't really do it again straight away. Its really annoying me cos, of course the sex is great but afterwards when i really want it, he can't do it and i get left hanging there just waiting for the feeling to wear off. I don't what i'm expecting people to say, i doubt there is a cure or way of combatting this. Its just really really annoying.

Reply 1

maag101

Help yourself!! Or get him to do things that are not sex. He doesn't an erection for that.

Reply 2

samba

He can't carry on after he cums?

Reply 3

Yeah just cause his penis needs a few minutes to recover doesn't mean his hands and tongue are on strike. :smile:

Reply 4

sukhie

During the invigorating sex, why not try and take it very very slowly, so that he comes a lot slower, and then perhaps u may come a little faster, i.e. meet half way. This used to happen to me lots too, being a male though, my ex, came well before me, and well i needed to help myself afterwards all the time, then we both read that we need to meet each other half way, and well when we tried this the first time, it worked wonders, although needed a little perfecting, it was simply awsome. Try it, it does work and most sex therapists im sure would recommend it, the helping yourself bit i find should be the foreplay, and only occur before sex, to warm your selves up, this also could help, if he can control the flow, i.e helping you reach climax, and well he can wait until he enters you for his climax, as it seems to be that you need to speed up, (which is nothing wrong, infact its the better sex when one slows it all down to a rythm) and he needs to slow down!!

Forgive me if i sound harsh, i did not mean to intend any harm!!!

Best
Sukhi

Reply 5

13Finn

There must be plenty of other things you can do to get you off? I feel lucky, give it 2 or 3 mins and I'm ready to go again. Time and time again. :biggrin:

Reply 6

LadyEnglish

Say hello to Mr.Oral :biggrin:

Reply 7

bad_girl_sarah

oh i know how u feel i am always wanting it

Reply 8

sukhie

Talking about this in class doesnt help us men either.... and well we more protruding, more to be embarassed about.... talk about wrong timing....

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

Haha, I know what you mean. I told my bf after a year of sex that the biggest turn-on is when he comes but that i feel really stupid about being the most horny when he can't do it. We found other ways and laughed it off.

Reply 10

natsing

I find this problem too on occasions, I am hornier after sex than before, unfortunately my fella has a slightly lower sex drive than me, but we find ways of working it out, just talk it through, I'm sure he'll understand!

Reply 11

Convalescent

maag101

He doesn't an erection for that.

'He doesn't need an erection for that', you imbecile.

Reply 12

tinkerbellejess

samba

He can't carry on after he cums?

And you can?!

Reply 13

Sam Beckett

So can I. A young man, healthy man should be able to basically have no refractory period.

He could finger you or give you oral til he's hard again. It really shouldn't take that long unless he's obese or a heavy smoker or drinker. Or if he's secretly gay or doesn't find you attractive.

I'd say the more pressing issue is why he can't perform again, and not so much about your horniness. I'm still hard for about ten minutes after I cum.

Reply 14

crazy_guy

it alway the right time

Reply 15

Sam Beckett

I'd say the more pressing issue is why he can't perform again, and not so much about your horniness. I'm still hard for about ten minutes after I cum.

It's not an issue at all, it happens with probably more than half of guys and is perfectly normal. Personally, I need a couple of minutes turn-around time, it's way too sensitive to keep going without stopping after coming. If he takes 20-30 minutes before he can go again then yeah, he might have a problem.

Reply 16

Anonymous #2

it always takes me at least 20 minutes before i can go again but there again it takes me ages to come first time... once ive come once i lose the drive that i had before....

Reply 17

tomHHHH

it takes me about 10mins to recover but i know after cumming the last thing i want to do is have sex again (this does only last for a few minutes tho

Reply 18

Hashem

3 Simple Cures
1- Use a Cock-Ring it helps because its all the same but he lasts alot more
2- Use alot of damn foreplay focused on you
3- As mentioned... let him have a 3 seconds rest and then he can rumble with his mouth and fingers

Your Problem is very common> it is that your boyfriend cums before you and the above ways can help alot