MUSLIM GIRLS: At what age do you start thinking about marriage?

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(Original post by Ribbit1234)
Looooool at all these 17 yr olds ready to be engaged and married 😬
so wats ur problem? not all of them are money hungry like you
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so wats ur problem? not all of them are money hungry like you
So wanting to build a good stable career for myself and my future and concentrating on my education makes me 'money hungry' LOL k then
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(Original post by Ribbit1234)
So wanting to build a good stable career for myself and my future and concentrating on my education makes me 'money hungry' LOL k then
You don't have to finish your education and establish a career to be ready for marriage. Some of the best relationships and marriages are produced when the couple is able to go through that struggle together.
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Fair point, well made. But it depends on what kind of a person you are as well, personally, my course is really intense and I would not be able to take on marital responsibilities on top of it. I wouldn't want my education putting a strain on my relationship. Also, I'm just not ready to commit to another person and have them by me and live with me etc the thought of it alone gives me anxiety and stress
(Original post by SummayahMaryam)
You don't have to finish your education and establish a career to be ready for marriage. Some of the best relationships and marriages are produced when the couple is able to go through that struggle together.
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(Original post by Ribbit1234)
Fair point, well made. But it depends on what kind of a person you are as well, personally, my course is really intense and I would not be able to take on marital responsibilities on top of it. I wouldn't want my education putting a strain on my relationship. Also, I'm just not ready to commit to another person and have them by me and live with me etc the thought of it alone gives me anxiety and stress
I respect that. I think I can reasonably say that I'm pretty neutral on the subject of young marriage. It really does depend on the person. It just bugs me when we have people come up to the young men and women who wish to get married at the start of or even right before university just to tell them that they shouldn't be doing it, that they're not ready or immature, that they don't know what they're doing... You get me, right? But really though, its a personal thing. And everyone has a God-given right to make that choice when they think its time
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Be honest please, I think (Muslim) girls think about marriage before boys do as for a lot of Muslim girls the last chance to find their own partner is school/uni and then after that if they've failed to do so their parents would get them an arrange marriage.
That may be culturally darling but it is not islamically so don't push this as a general consensus for people who are unaware of the religion. I am Muslim and when I get married and to whom I get married is up to me unless I willingly told my parents to search for suitable partners from which I could choose and then get to know (although the latter would never be my type of thing and it isn't something my family is into either)

So learn to distinguish cultural norms form religious norms, it's a tedious habit of many individuals that grinds away at me.
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so wats ur problem? not all of them are money hungry like you
Just because she wants to be educated and establish herself economically, educationally and financially first before she searches for a partner she is suddenly money hungry- lord, that makes so much sense ( sarcasm alert)
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Im 16, and i've already thought about marriage. I've let my parents know, and they're super happy, so will get married by 19/20 inshallah.
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You're 23 now,did you find anyone
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childofthesun you're 22 now did you find anyone
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childofthesun you're 22 now did you find anyone
This thread is 5 years old. I doubt you’ll get an answer.
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Anonymous #20
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From 19 onwards. Early twenties are so difficult, desire is so strong but have to consider whether I want to explore life yet but settling down
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Be honest please, I think (Muslim) girls think about marriage before boys do as for a lot of Muslim girls the last chance to find their own partner is school/uni and then after that if they've failed to do so their parents would get them an arrange marriage.
i think every girl dreams about marriage, but when they acc start thinking about it srusly and look to start settling down, they're in early 20's.

my culture basically looks down on girls who arent married by 30, and I'd want a love marriage - idm arranged but i want a cheesy love story - so id probably start thinking about it in University
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Wow, so many muslim and relationships threads being bumped this morn.
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Anonymous #21
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lol yeah. I replied to like 10 today XD
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Anonymous #22
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(Original post by rkhan57)
I got married at 17, me and my husband met in school and we thought why not. We have been married 3 years nearly. Ma sh Allah
mashallah are you guys still together your 23
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Anonymous #22
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(Original post by Anonymous)
I'm as young as 16 (turned 16 at the END of August 😂) and quite rarely ponder on the topic of marriage. Nevertheless I do wonder what it is like to be married in a healthy muslim and Islamic way.
your 22
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(Original post by Mtm2003)
Im 16, and i've already thought about marriage. I've let my parents know, and they're super happy, so will get married by 19/20 inshallah.
your 18 one more year left
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Anonymous #23
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Ngl I think it’s stupid to even think abt marriage before going into ur second yr of uni... as if either person has enough maturity :rolleyes:
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Anonymous #22
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(Original post by StyleIcon)
18! Now I'm 19! Idk I think it would be good to settle down and have a family!
your not 19 your 25 mashallahhh so did you setttle down
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