I'm a virgin who turned down an easy lay last night

awww. i'm glad you pulled her away she was obviously in a vulnerable position and it wouldn't have been right of you to have taken advantage of that

Obviously still a fresher. #fresherproblems

If you feel like saving yourself for someone special then by all means keep waiting. But if you don't want that to be an awkward experience then I would go for the shag next time if I were you.

People always describe one night stands as "meaningless sex". But why does it always have to be meaningless? You sound like you connected with her and liked each other, does that not mean anything?

I did think that myself , I'm not a whiteknight or anything but going throught with it would be selfish and quite cruel .



I'm actually on a gap year but cool



I think this experience has just affirmed my belief that sex is more then just a physical thing , when I think about it im quite a emotional guy and I don't think I could just cut my emotion off .

People always describe one night stands as "meaningless sex". But why does it always have to be meaningless? You sound like you connected with her and liked each other, does that not mean anything?

You made a chivalrous decision, well done

I went away for a bit to get a drink and come back to find her snogging another guys face off ?

I think this experience has just affirmed my belief that sex is more then just a physical thing , when I think about it im quite a emotional guy and I don't think I could just cut my emotion off .

This my friend is how the world works. Be as righteous and good moralled as you want but it means nothing. Your amazing show of discipline and thoughtfulness will not be rewarded, and will not be listened to.

This girl was not looking for a pep talk, or life advice, or a nice guy. She was looking for someone to keep her mind off things, nothing more nothing less.

I learned that you can help people (in this case women) as much as you like and make them better people, but it will come to nothing as they all have their own agenda.

A quote I like to remember is "you know there are things that won't be rewarded for the effort..."

she wanted to go all the way but I realized that having meaningless sex with an emotionally vunerable girl would be taking advantage and would not do anything for me . She didn't take it too well and was sad but I told her it was just me .

Anyway I take her inside to dance a bit for a while and she introduces me to her friends who are incredibly bitchy and try pulling her away from me , assuming i'm just a thirsty dude trying to get laid ( quite ironic given I just rejected her advances ) , this reallly pissed me off .

I was dancing with her for a while and she kept on trying to get physical with me but I just wanted to take things slow , I went away for a bit to get a drink and come back to find her snogging another guys face off ?


So yeah , on the one hand I think I dodged a bullet because this girls got issues but I couldn't get her out of my head all day ? She texted me her number but I havent had my phone for a week now because its off for repairs but I might text her tommorow just saying im glad to have met you and I hope you learn to love yourself but maybe I should just get over her

Its crazy because there have been times when i've wanted nothing more then to just get physical with a attractive girl and get my virginity out of the way but actually being in the situation made me feel like having a ONS is just soulless and not in my character at all.

True about being a virgin too , but loads of people loose their virginity in a one night stand anyway , I don't really care about loosing it as such but if it was with someone who meant something to me it would be nice.

I guess its just because you haven't really gotten to that stage of closeness and familarity that really secures friendships/relationships , where you like eachother so much and know each other inside out .

I kind of see ONS as just using someones body for your own means , you don't know eachother well enough to love each other.