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Sometimes I get angry with my boyfriend
Sometimes, around a certain time of the month, I become very irritable and intolerant. As I spend the most time around my boyfriend, he gets the brunt of it and I pull him up on anything he does wrong. I know I make him feel bad and almost immediately after I apologise but I can't help thinking I'm bullying him emotionally. The problem is I can't really stop, even though I try, myself as it's my brain chemistry changing. He doesn't get angry at me and seems to understand but I still feel awful afterwards, what can I do!?
At the moment I am just not seeing him tonight until I feel better but then I feel like I am making him feel that I am ignoring him!
At the moment I am just not seeing him tonight until I feel better but then I feel like I am making him feel that I am ignoring him!
Anonymous
Sometimes, around a certain time of the month, I become very irritable and intolerant. As I spend the most time around my boyfriend, he gets the brunt of it and I pull him up on anything he does wrong. I know I make him feel bad and almost immediately after I apologise but I can't help thinking I'm bullying him emotionally. The problem is I can't really stop, even though I try, myself as it's my brain chemistry changing. He doesn't get angry at me and seems to understand but I still feel awful afterwards, what can I do!?
At the moment I am just not seeing him tonight until I feel better but then I feel like I am making him feel that I am ignoring him!
At the moment I am just not seeing him tonight until I feel better but then I feel like I am making him feel that I am ignoring him!
hmmm.... bad attitude. Just try to make a real effort to think before you say things to him. i bet you'd be able to stop if he cut a lump of your flesh out of you everytime you snapped at him.
but also please try not to get neurotic about it! i mean - surely he won't think you're ignoring him just because you don't want to spend tonight with him?
kirstyxxx
oooo its worse wen they dont get angry back it makes me more angry like shout back u b-stard! bt u sound lucky if hes so understanding just make sure he really understands that nothing u say is from the heart.
No, I don't want to fight with him, I just fester and then apologise.
I don't want to not get angry because then I just get annoyed inside and become even worse later!
Anonymous
No, I don't want to fight with him, I just fester and then apologise.
I don't want to not get angry because then I just get annoyed inside and become even worse later!
I don't want to not get angry because then I just get annoyed inside and become even worse later!
ok, well in that case you just have to find somewhere else to focus your anger. maybe try ripping your teddy bears to shreds? i've done that in the past and found it helped.
Just so you know, i share your problem!
I dont knwo if it is period related, but I'm a generally very calm person but I seem to get angry at my BF sometimes for no reason
I am kind of 'dominant' (not in a sexual way) in our relationship, and isometimes worry if I am bullying him. Sometimes if we're hanging out at my house my parenst tell him to not let me bully him as it seems as if I'm always making decisions about what we do, eat, watch etc. I'm even more worried because we're quite complacent in this regime of e deciding things and getting angry more than him (generally not that much anger at all though, we really do love each other and stuff).
I don't know what to do to change thing, without the relationship suffering for both of us.
I dont knwo if it is period related, but I'm a generally very calm person but I seem to get angry at my BF sometimes for no reason
I am kind of 'dominant' (not in a sexual way) in our relationship, and isometimes worry if I am bullying him. Sometimes if we're hanging out at my house my parenst tell him to not let me bully him as it seems as if I'm always making decisions about what we do, eat, watch etc. I'm even more worried because we're quite complacent in this regime of e deciding things and getting angry more than him (generally not that much anger at all though, we really do love each other and stuff).
I don't know what to do to change thing, without the relationship suffering for both of us.
You want to be careful, you may end up pushing him away if you carry on! However, what you should do is, when you feel yourself getting angry try to direct your anger somewhere else, like count to ten(it does actually work lol), or buy a stress ball or somthing!
I have terrible PMS too. My boyfriend is also very patient and understanding but I feel awful when I do get angry with him, because usually he has done nothing wrong and its just my hormones and impatient personality getting the better of me. He never shouts at me, and half the time, I know that if he had done to me what I'd done to him, I would be in my room crying and he would be apologising to me, rather than the other way around!!!
It's important to learn to just bite your lip. I know that it is very difficult - but dont you think that it's difficult for your boyfriend to keep on and on being so understanding? You need to take some responsibility for your actions rather than just blaming it on PMS.
It is very hard, there's no denying that. But you can do it, and if its anything like our situation, then your boyfriend deserves a kiss and cuddle rather than a scream and a shout!
Good luck.
LGR xxx
It's important to learn to just bite your lip. I know that it is very difficult - but dont you think that it's difficult for your boyfriend to keep on and on being so understanding? You need to take some responsibility for your actions rather than just blaming it on PMS.
It is very hard, there's no denying that. But you can do it, and if its anything like our situation, then your boyfriend deserves a kiss and cuddle rather than a scream and a shout!
Good luck.
LGR xxx
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