I'm obsessed with trying to look good all the time

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I'm 17 year old ugly male and I'm constantly conscious of how I look to other people. I keep pointing out my flaws and comparing myself to other people, such as my eyes, nose and lip size, my hairstyle, the type of glasses I wear, and stupid features such as moles. It honestly sounds stupid but it stresses me out every day trying to make myself look better. I've been trying to lose weight in the gym but I can't seem to lose weight around the stomach and breast which further makes me even more self conscious because the clothes look funny on me the way the arms and such fit me but you see a bulging belly protruding out of my stomach and fat ass moobs.

I keep telling myself that I will look better as I get older but honestly when I look at other guys I think, how can I look like that? Will my face become less fat? Will any of my facial features change as I get older? Will my acne go away? How do I look like to other people - is the mirror or the camera a better representation of what I look like to other people? Why can't my posture improve? It's these questions that keep haunting me every single day.

I honestly really don't want to go down into a spiral of self-hate and self-consciousness but I can't help it. I just want to look normal.
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OP consider this; when out in public do you look at other people and constantly ask yourself 'Wow he/she looks awful I hate their hair and their shoes'?

If not, then it's fair to say other people don't care about how you look either and probably don't even notice you.

In terms of the losing weight, I think you should merely for confidence and health reasons.

OP you need to lose the ego, not everyone is constantly looking at you all the time. I say this as I used to be like you.
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I think everyone feels that way but some hide it better than the others
the only way to stop yourself feeling that I think is trying to concentrate on the stuffs that good about yourself...and to always remember that no matter how perfect you think someone else is, they all have insecurities
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Everybody feels self-conscious and are in one way or another upset with their body image, but nobody is perfect. We all have flaws, it's a matter of accepting and embracing the flaw or if you can, then change it. E.g. Your weight.

You're going to the gym but are you doing the right excercises to work off the fat? Because you might find you are doing toning ones that won't have a proper affect unless you do a lot of cardio. Also are you eating healthily? Because weightloss is more to do with diet with excercise on the side that helps tone.

You don't like the shape of your glasses? Then just go buy a new pair at your opticians whenever you can.

There is no such thing as normal. You should strive to different
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(Original post by Anonymous)
I'm 17 year old ugly male and I'm constantly conscious of how I look to other people. I keep pointing out my flaws and comparing myself to other people, such as my eyes, nose and lip size, my hairstyle, the type of glasses I wear, and stupid features such as moles. It honestly sounds stupid but it stresses me out every day trying to make myself look better. I've been trying to lose weight in the gym but I can't seem to lose weight around the stomach and breast which further makes me even more self conscious because the clothes look funny on me the way the arms and such fit me but you see a bulging belly protruding out of my stomach and fat ass moobs.

I keep telling myself that I will look better as I get older but honestly when I look at other guys I think, how can I look like that? Will my face become less fat? Will any of my facial features change as I get older? Will my acne go away? How do I look like to other people - is the mirror or the camera a better representation of what I look like to other people? Why can't my posture improve? It's these questions that keep haunting me every single day.

I honestly really don't want to go down into a spiral of self-hate and self-consciousness but I can't help it. I just want to look normal.
Babe, if you really have an obsession with looking "normal"- head to GOOGLE

Search how to lose weight/get rid of acne etc.

On your quest to being an healthier person, make sure that you don't overdo it as losing weight and etc. takes time so don't push yourself too hard.

Good luck hun.



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Adjust what you can (lose weight, treat acne, get a haircut, improve posture).

Everything else, such as face structure, you've just got to not think about it. Do what I do - avoid cameras and mirrors at all costs, it really does help.

But dude, c'mon. If there are things you can change then WORK to change them. Very few people are naturally ugly and I bet you're not one of them.
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Moles aren't stupid!

Also, I think that's a hard situation to live in. But it's true, you either get stonger with time or let it get to you. The most important thing is to stop comparing yourself to others. You want to lose weight? Sure! Do it so that you will look thinner, better, not so that you'll look like some other guy (it might seem sinonnymous, but it's surely not). Want to get rid of the acne? Absolutely! Do it so that you personally would look better.

As for how to actually do it, other than what you probably already know I have nothing new, it is just that. Healthy, not over the top eating, before 8 at least, Omega 3 and green tea (highly recommended), sport if you can, less sweets, no fast food. For acne, see a specialist (my friemd did and it slowly turned to normal and he had bug issues).

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You've got to remember that people see you as an entity.
They don't notice the little imperfections that your mind nags you about.

Put on a brave face, keep going to the gym...and don't let the *******s get you down.

All the best!
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