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Security @ Uni likes me..
I think that the bouncer/security at uni likes me.. he always shows me extra interest, comes to give me a kiss whenever he sees me etc and the other day he let me in even though there was a looong que to get in to the bar, and he said "you owe me a favour". do you think he's trying it on? isn't it illegal for them to get involved with students?
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Well just known him since 2-3 weeks since I arrived at uni.. he seems to be friendly but I think it's dodgy when he says things like "you owe me a favour".
I wouldn't say it is illegal but highly unprofessional and the fact that you let him kiss you is wrong; it sends out the wrong signals to him - but then again he should not be conducting himself like this; he is abusing his position. If I were you, stop it now before it goes to far and something happens that could have far reaching consequences for both of you.
Be adult about it and talk to him and tell him straight - do you actually like him?
Be adult about it and talk to him and tell him straight - do you actually like him?
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I wouldn't say it is illegal but highly unprofessional and the fact that you let him kiss you is wrong; it sends out the wrong signals to him - but then again he should not be conducting himself like this; he is abusing his position. If I were you, stop it now before it goes to far and something happens that could have far reaching consequences for both of you.
Be adult about it and talk to him and tell him straight - do you actually like him?
Be adult about it and talk to him and tell him straight - do you actually like him?
What? What position? It's not his fault he happens to be a bouncer and she a student, maybe he actually likes her.
I agree with whoever said to grow up because you're an adult. It's not much of a problem really, if he fancies you, you get to queue jump- is that a bad thing?
hey being friends with the bouncer isnt a bad thing at all, and why shouldnt he fancy you?
mmm big muscley men *licks lips*
mmm big muscley men *licks lips*
you have to stop thinking of yourselves in terms of a "student" as in a school student in uni everyones an adult, and although it is frowned upon there aren't any rules about staff and students flirting etc, and i don't think it is really even frowned upon if he is a bouncer.
as people have said, talk to him, if you feel uncomfortable with his behavior(and it sounds liek you do) tell him , don't be rude, just say something casual "hey no offense mate but im a bit funny about you kissing me etc" and if hes a decent guy it should be sorted.
if you do like him and were just worried it is wrong, then stop worrying, if you liek maybe ask him when his night off is and invite him out for a drink or something.
have a quick flick over your unis rules and regs first though, maybe ask someone in confidence liek a personal tutor or soemthing if it is against uni regulations, but the fact he is flrting with you, and he knows the rules better than you, and wouldn't risk loosing his job(probably) suggests its probably all fine.
as people have said, talk to him, if you feel uncomfortable with his behavior(and it sounds liek you do) tell him , don't be rude, just say something casual "hey no offense mate but im a bit funny about you kissing me etc" and if hes a decent guy it should be sorted.
if you do like him and were just worried it is wrong, then stop worrying, if you liek maybe ask him when his night off is and invite him out for a drink or something.
have a quick flick over your unis rules and regs first though, maybe ask someone in confidence liek a personal tutor or soemthing if it is against uni regulations, but the fact he is flrting with you, and he knows the rules better than you, and wouldn't risk loosing his job(probably) suggests its probably all fine.
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Mmmm fat men in bomber jackets, dont you mean? 
ah depends on the area
my mate used to be a bouncer and hes a sexy beast
He gives you a kiss 
scary take it as a compliment, atleast you get to jump the queue 
Don't worry about it, he can hardly do anything to you if you don't want it so there's nothing wrong with a bit of flirtatious banter 
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scary take it as a compliment, atleast you get to jump the queue Don't worry about it, he can hardly do anything to you if you don't want it so there's nothing wrong with a bit of flirtatious banter xWell not a kiss on the lips, but he just gives me a kiss on the cheeks in front of everyone. The other night I was in the que and he sort of liked pushed everyone apart to get to me and give me a kiss, and then took me to the front of the que I guess it's pretty cool if it stays that way, but after walking out with a guy afterwards, he seemed to be in a bad mood! He is pretty fit and good looking, but I was just worried that it might be illegal/or he tries to go far but I can handle it I suppose
I guess it's pretty cool if it stays that way, but after walking out with a guy afterwards, he seemed to be in a bad mood! He is pretty fit and good looking, but I was just worried that it might be illegal/or he tries to go far but I can handle it I suppose But I was assuming that he was breaching his position of trust!
its not a position of trust
He has no legal restraints against him 'coming on' to girls, unless he is contracted with the club not to. He's just a horny man! Leave him be x
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