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Greasy hair

My friend keeps telling me i have greasy hair like every day. I'll wash my hair in the morning, come in, know it isn't greasy and she'll just say 'urgh did you wash? your hair is so greasy' And she doesn't say it as a joke! She is just being gratuitously offensive and nasty for no reason! And I don't understand why :frown: It really upsets me and makes me angry. Surely societal norms teach us that even if your friends hair is greasy it's rude to just blurt it out. When her hair is greasy i don't say anything because i don't want to hurt her feelings, so why does she feel she can hurt mine? :frown:

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who needs enemies with friends like that :rolleyes:
Reply 2
high priestess fnord
who needs enemies with friends like that :rolleyes:


Exactly :frown: Trouble is though I'm scared if I have a figth with her I'll 'tip her over the edge' Her parents are divorced (Have been for three years but she still uses it as an excuse) And she's very emotionally unstable (Cuts her self now and then over minute disputes) And I'm really her only friend who stands by her, so if I have an argument with her, who has she got left :confused: Such an annoying situation :mad:
thats no reason for her to make you unhappy
why dont you respond with somethin like 'thats a big spot on your chin - does it hurt much?'. stick up for yourself!
Reply 5
Anonymous
why dont you respond with somethin like 'thats a big spot on your chin - does it hurt much?'. stick up for yourself!


Argh i know lol and i was so close yesterday when she did it again but i don't want to be as bad as she is :redface: trouble is im the 'funny easy going one so therefore i won't care if you insult me' :frown: I don't have it in me to be nasty to her. When she says it I'm full to bursting point to hurl abuse at her on the tip of my tongue, i know someday i'm going to blow lol. All my friends tell me to stick up for myself but like i said im scared she'll go into one of her uber depressed modes again...
Reply 6
I see you removed your pic, so she has won.

Some people i like that.

One of my best mates, known him for years used to try put me down all the time from about 13-18. Just jealous cos i used to pull more than him.

If he says anything now i just ignore it.
Reply 7
JimmyJ
I see you removed your pic, so she has won.

Some people i like that.

One of my best mates, known him for years used to try put me down all the time from about 13-18. Just jealous cos i used to pull more than him.

If he says anything now i just ignore it.


what pic?

I do ignore it but i have burning anger boiling up inside of me lol and feel like at any minute i will knock her block off :p: Aah well, I shall repress my rage and count to ten x
Reply 8
Didn't you used to have a profile pic?

Don't get angry. Or if you do, get to Argos and get a punchbag.
Reply 9
JimmyJ
Didn't you used to have a profile pic?

Don't get angry. Or if you do, get to Argos and get a punchbag.


Nope no profile pic :biggrin: I have a gadget shop blow up punch bag lol, it has served me well x
Reply 10
Defeat her with logic if she's categorically incorrect.
Reply 11
Mr. Fox
Defeat her with logic if she's categorically incorrect.


Haha very true and it wouldn't be hard :p: But I don't like being condescending :redface: I wish she would move to Austrailia...
Reply 12
LadyEnglish
My friend keeps telling me i have greasy hair like every day. I'll wash my hair in the morning, come in, know it isn't greasy and she'll just say 'urgh did you wash? your hair is so greasy' And she doesn't say it as a joke! She is just being gratuitously offensive and nasty for no reason! And I don't understand why :frown: It really upsets me and makes me angry. Surely societal norms teach us that even if your friends hair is greasy it's rude to just blurt it out. When her hair is greasy i don't say anything because i don't want to hurt her feelings, so why does she feel she can hurt mine? :frown:


Hi dont no if you have greasy hair but i no washing it daily is no good theres a spray in boots and it worked wonders
i had hair extensions in nearly a year ago and couldnt wash my hair as often so i got the spray and its like washing you hair
as for your "friend" NO1 needs friends like that so i think you need to find a TRUE friend
Reply 13
yeah, as the person said above washing your hair every single day isn't good in itself.
as for you having greasy hair, i can't imagine it. she doesn't sound like a friend and more like someone who likes to wind you up, because she knows she can wind you up by talking about you having greasy hair.
if she blurts it out, maybe you should blurt something out about her.
forget about hurting her feelings, she can't respect her own friends' feelings, why should you respect hers?
Reply 14
bubu
Hi dont no if you have greasy hair but i no washing it daily is no good theres a spray in boots and it worked wonders
i had hair extensions in nearly a year ago and couldnt wash my hair as often so i got the spray and its like washing you hair
as for your "friend" NO1 needs friends like that so i think you need to find a TRUE friend


Oooh what is this spray called? lol and yes aaall my friends tell me to get rid of her, just don't have the heart/strength :redface: I really need to though :frown: x
Reply 15
Zafda
yeah, as the person said above washing your hair every single day isn't good in itself.
as for you having greasy hair, i can't imagine it. she doesn't sound like a friend and more like someone who likes to wind you up, because she knows she can wind you up by talking about you having greasy hair.
if she blurts it out, maybe you should blurt something out about her.
forget about hurting her feelings, she can't respect her own friends' feelings, why should you respect hers?


Hopefully i will say something back, it will be out of character for me but if it takes a few days awkwardness between us to get her to shut up :p: Then a girl's gotta do what a girl's gotta do :p: x
Well she seems an insecure person if thats the best she can do to insult your hair.
Reply 17
indeed it is!

i used to be someone who had the absolute crap ripped out of me, it was awful, but when you stand up to people it just makes it easier for you to distinguish between your friends and your real friends.
Reply 18
I don't know why I feel I should be holding on to her as a friend :confused: I'm doing it more for her benefit than mine I think because I'm scared if I abandon her then she will have no one to confide in and be a friend to her :confused: I feel like im her scapegoat though and she's unloading her insecurities and anger on to me. Grr damn me being nice :frown: Nice people just get taken advantage of it seems to me...
I just read a thread from someonw saying "my friend smells bad how do i tell him" and everyone said be honest and tell him, now we get almost the opposite side "my firend is so rude as to tell me my hair is greasy" have you considered maybe your hair is greasy? i know if i wash mine everyday it makes it more greasy and i have naturally quite thick hair anyway so it looks greasy i cant help that, some tips though are
change your shampoo, don't always use the same one your hair "gets used to it" switched , i tend to alternate between 3brands of shampoo everytime i wash.
dont wash everyday, wash every 2-3days

and ask your friend how she stops hers form being greasy tell her you washed it and maybe its just the lightingin the room/texture of your hair/colour that makes it look that way,
try see it from her side instead of presuming she is just being nasty

if you find out she is just being nasty take everyone elses advice, but check first she isnt just repsonding to a "my mate has greasy hair people laugh at her how do i let her know" scenario