Guy at Uni thinks I'm too posh for him!?

I met this really nice guy during freshers and he's really nice and all that, but he blanked me yersterday in the library,which has upset me a lot because I thought we were okay together, anyway new friend (girl) asked him why and he said, " she's too posh for me, I don't feel comfortable around "posh-tottie"! Well why the hell did he talk to me for 4 hours the other night? Guys I'll never understand how they operate and then he texted inviting me to his flat-warming!!! :confused:

Should I go or not, or just forget about him? anyone any insights into the male psyche at all :cool:

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Reply 1

username47781

How stupid is he just because your posh, sounds like he's using it as an excuse, you may wanna talk to him and ask him exactly what he mean't

Reply 2

Zafda

you should go, and then if he tries flirting with you or something, say to him ''but i'm a posh tottie''..

see what he has to say to that ;D

Reply 3

masterofpuppets

Sounds like a moron to me.

Posh Tottie = less chance of an STI?

Reply 4

MaryKay

Hmmm, sent a voice-mail to him asking if he had sent a text to me in error, and he replied "no,wasn't an error and he would be really happy if i came to his "flat-warming" party!!! Good mind to go and blank him!!!

Reply 5

masterofpuppets

Yeah you should totally go, then just like chat up his best mate or something!

Then slip a pill in his drink for being so atrociously rude to you :rolleyes:

Reply 6

jay1234

just go and have a good time, you dont have to play mind games with each other

Reply 7

JimmyJ

Ride him all night like a common $lut. That'll show him! :smile:

Reply 8

MaryKay

Hmm, tempting!!! Then entrap him in my fabulousness and blank him!!! Just joking about the fabulousness btw!

Reply 9

JimmyJ

You've got experience of an equestrian nature so i'm sure you're perfectly capable of going for a while.

On a serious note, la de da, he sounds a bit lame tbh.

Reply 10

vixky!

Zafda

you should go, and then if he tries flirting with you or something, say to him ''but i'm a posh tottie''..

see what he has to say to that ;D

I like that idea... there is a chance the person you asked might have been mistaken or that he meant it as a joke or something...

Reply 11

The Canadian

This is actually very a common occurance. I've faced this problem many a time as I rarely use slang language when I speak, and I always articulate and pronounce words correctly, and that can intimidate people.

There has always been a barrier between upper and middle classes, and even though you may be middle class, if you speak, act or dress like a member of the upper class, that barrier will come along and cause problems for you.

My advice is maybe try and use a bit more slang terminologies (if you speak in a posh manner) or dress down a little bit if you're always looking smart.

Hope this helps, and all the best.

Reply 12

JimmyJ

No one at Uni is 'upper class'. It's a classic middle class institution.

Reply 13

MaryKay

JimmyJ

You've got experience of an equestrian nature so i'm sure you're perfectly capable of going for a while.

On a serious note, la de da, he sounds a bit lame tbh.

Advertized a horse for sale once and this perve rang up and after asking mundane questions of an equestrian nature asked if I was the "riding-mistress", anyhoo my mum was listening in and she called the police who trapped him, he was calling from the phone box in our village-----gross!!

Thanks for all the thoughts though guys, Friend is going to his party with me as she likes him too!!1

Reply 14

bone-machine

you live in kensington?...blimey

Reply 15

MaryKay

Flat-share in South Ken with a relative (term-time), live in village near Bath non term-time, not posh really.Go to KCL/GKT. not posh really.

Reply 16

Anthony Arundel

There are plenty of ways of dealing with him...

1. Set your hounds on him.
2. Whack him with your cane.
3. Trample him with your horse (be sure that the horse box is towed by a mud-spattered green Land Rover, preferably driven by your father).
4. Give him a kick with a green wellington.

That'll show the blighter!

Reply 17

gbduo

One would have thought that being able to speak properly would be a positive asset, in todays society however it seems to be a negative one and often scares people away. I find this confusing, especially when people from a middle class/upper class background know how to treat a lady and will respect her (and vice versa). Anyhow, guess one can blame it on the world as a whole going mad.

:biggrin:

Graham

(I have never spoken with such articulation in my life!)

Reply 18

RocketMan

Oh please forget about him, he sounds a right plonker and just not worth your time!

Go to the house warming and have fun - just not with him.

Reply 19

Anthony Arundel

But seriously folks... as far as insights into the male pysche go (though everyone is different) I think he's behaving in this yo-yo way around you because he likes you but, yes, your 'poshness' is intimidating him slightly. The house-warming invite looks like an effort on his part to get over his own insecurities about your perceived poshness. Give the bag of nerves a second chance. :smile:

The Canadian

My advice is maybe try and use a bit more slang terminologies (if you speak in a posh manner) or dress down a little bit if you're always looking smart.

Actually, I don't mean offence Canadian, but I wouldn't agree with this (unless you're being ironic!). Don't adapt your personality to suit him; if he can't get used to you, then that's his problem. Plenty of other people will. :smile: