How Do You Avoid Embarrassment When He Goes..Soft???

My boyfriend is starting to bug me - horrid i know, but it goes just as were about to do it. I know its not me - because i can turn him on, but he gets nervous and sometimes even pukes! :mad:

Weve done it 3 times..and im bursting with tension lol, waht the hell do i do? i want sex :confused:

Reply 1

Me Me Me

its happened to me too ...... :frown:

, i feel your pain!!

Reply 2

RocketMan

It could actually be you who is making him feel like this, maybe you are putting to much pressure on him to perform, high expectations of him and the result is him feeling sick and not able to perform.

Have you talked at all about this with each other; maybe as you talk you will find a solution to it.

Reply 3

Piggsil

16

Sounds like he feels under pressure....hmm, I think the only way you can cure this is that he has to initiate the sex. You might have to wait a bit, but one day he will get frustrated, and it will be impossible for him to "go soft"!
Try not to let on to him that you're "bursting with tension" because that will only make him feel bad, and the problem will get worse. Just let him take things at his pace, and while you're waiting for something to happen, you could always sort yourself out!
Hope that helps xx

Reply 4

tinkerbellejess

13

Some reassurance wouldn't go amiss, and maybe telling him you're not with him just for the sex...

Reply 5

Me Me Me

RocketMan

It could actually be you who is making him feel like this, maybe you are putting to much pressure on him to perform, high expectations of him and the result is him feeling sick and not able to perform.

Have you talked at all about this with each other; maybe as you talk you will find a solution to it.

true true!!!!! :smile:

it could be you, dont put too much pressure on him, or he will go flopp :smile:

y!

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

OP

Hope that helps xx

it has thanks!!! i will take that into consideration :smile:

xx

Reply 7

JasonMx

Anonymous

My boyfriend is starting to bug me - horrid i know, but it goes just as were about to do it. I know its not me - because i can turn him on, but he gets nervous and sometimes even pukes! :mad: