is it me or her?

hello, sorry if this is long, but i just need to vent this out :redface:

yesterday i came home from uni at about 7pm, i normally call my mum just before i get to the station i get off at, and then wait for my mum to collect me outside the station. However, the train sorta stopped after it came out the tunnel approaching the station, so it was there for a few minutes then i finally got to the station and got out. I saw my mum waiting across the road, so i get in the car, and the first thing she says is 'where have u been?' as if she was angry at me..so i was like i was in thr train where do u think ive been! and then she started going off on one as if it was my fault that the train stopped or something. At this point i was confused because it wasnt my fault and did undertsand why she being like this. She didnt talk to me from that point onwards, and i was on the brink of tears. My dad later that evening calls and i burst out in tears, i couldnt help crying and shouting a bit because i didnt know what it was that i did wrong!...i couldnt stop crying and went to my room and sat there crying by myself. My mum didnt say anything to me apart from 'i feel like slapping u, ur such a spoilt brat!'. From yesterday i havent talked to her. I cant so much as look at her without feeling the need to cry. From her pioint of view she thinks im throwing a 'tantrum', but for me she is being totally unreasonable and i just dont want to be around her. I dont want to be at home with her because i feel so upset, so i am just going about things without talking to her or looking at her. She says nothing to me, although she seems in a better mood than yesterday.
I met my dad for lunch in the pub and basically cried in front of him when trying to explain what happend, he said that she was just worried about you because you were late.....but then why get angry at me why not just talk to me about it! I cant stop crying about it..its just the whole principle of it that she thinks im behaving like a total plank when im in fact feeling really hurt

Sorry for me raving on.

Reply 1

Jonquil

ok, i know you probably dont want to do this, but i think the easiest way to sort it out is to just be really nice to your mum and pretend it didnt happen. if she made such a big deal out of something so small, then maybe shes got something else on her mind thats winding her up and that little thing was just the last straw? i know this is what frequently happens with my mum :smile: