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is it me?

hello, sorry if this is long, but i just need to vent this out :redface:

yesterday i came home from uni at about 7pm, i normally call my mum just before i get to the station i get off at, and then wait for my mum to collect me outside the station. However, the train sorta stopped after it came out the tunnel approaching the station, so it was there for a few minutes then i finally got to the station and got out. I saw my mum waiting across the road, so i get in the car, and the first thing she says is 'where have u been?' as if she was angry at me..so i was like i was in thr train where do u think ive been! and then she started going off on one as if it was my fault that the train stopped or something. At this point i was confused because it wasnt my fault and did undertsand why she being like this. She didnt talk to me from that point onwards, and i was on the brink of tears. My dad later that evening calls and i burst out in tears, i couldnt help crying and shouting a bit because i didnt know what it was that i did wrong!...i couldnt stop crying and went to my room and sat there crying by myself. My mum didnt say anything to me apart from 'i feel like slapping u, ur such a spoilt brat!'. From yesterday i havent talked to her. I cant so much as look at her without feeling the need to cry. From her pioint of view she thinks im throwing a 'tantrum', but for me she is being totally unreasonable and i just dont want to be around her. I dont want to be at home with her because i feel so upset, so i am just going about things without talking to her or looking at her. She says nothing to me, although she seems in a better mood than yesterday.
I met my dad for lunch in the pub and basically cried in front of him when trying to explain what happend, he said that she was just worried about you because you were late.....but then why get angry at me why not just talk to me about it! I cant stop crying about it..its just the whole principle of it that she thinks im behaving like a total plank when im in fact feeling really hurt

Sorry for me raving on.
Reply 1
sorry didnt mean to post as anonymous
like your dad said, she was probably just worried about you. When I was younger, I got separated from my dad when we were walking the dog so I made my own way home and when he got in, he was fuming which upset me but then he came in and explained that he was just worried e.t.c.
Reply 3
if thats the problem then why cant she say it....she still has not said a word to me!
when I was younger I used to get really really upset even if my mum was annoyed with me, and it wasnt my fault like she used to accuse me of doing things i never did and i would lie and say i did it just to stop her getting really furious with me. then as i got older i realised that if im in the right then im not going to make the effort in getting on her goodside. you should be the same you havent done anything wrong so just wait for your mum to realise shes wrong :smile:
angelj
if thats the problem then why cant she say it....she still has not said a word to me!

I don't know, people act in strange ways, she might just be embarassed about it or something or maybe she has misread the situation and thinks its your fault...only way to find out is to talk to her about it, you can't ignore each other forever.
Reply 6
thanks....makes me feel a bit better knowing that....i just hate the tension
angelj
thanks....makes me feel a bit better knowing that....i just hate the tension

the best thing to do is talk about it, I've done some pretty stupid things in the past when I've been drunk and when I've woke up the next morning, the atmosphere in the house has been awful but after a while my mum will usually say something to me, usually a snidey comment lol and then it gets discussed and then the tension goes as it is out in the open, its crap but its just one of them hurdles you have to get through