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Uninterested Father
Posting as anonymous because I don't want TSR members stalking me 
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My parents divorced when I was about 7, and I stayed on living with my father, because my mother wasn't really in a position to support me.
It just seems my father is now completely uninterested in anything I do, unless it's bad, which has meant I just lost all effort, and became incredibly lazy.
I suppose I noticed first when I got my SATs results. Although they're not at all important, I felt I'd done really well (7/7/7). When I came home the day I had my results I told my dad, and he just sort of went "Oh, that's nice..." then started talking about something else, which left me a bit dis-heartened. After that it seemed anything I achieved, he just had less and less interest. I barely went to school in years 10 and 11, because I just couldn't be bothered.
The only time he really cares is if I do something wrong, then he goes mad.
Earlier this year, a friend killed himself, and obviously haven't been the same since, but when I spoke to him about it on the day, he just brushed it off and went out with his girlfriend.
When I got my GCSE results earlier this year (which weren't brilliant, but better than average, and I was proud of them, especially after what's gone on this year), he said "Oh, that's good" and never mentioned it again. Everyone else's parents took them out for meals etc., but nothing like that with me, not even a well done.
He's also incredibly stingy with money and me, even though he earns a fair amount. For example, I've had to pay for my own internet for the last year or so because he says he can't afford to pay for broadband (although he paid it for the first year, when it was really expensive
) him and his girlfriend are going on a 2 week cruise on the QM2 later this year, as they did last year, and he's always buying expensive things.
It seems like he sort of resents me, and wished he didn't have children.
He just seems to be completely
.My parents divorced when I was about 7, and I stayed on living with my father, because my mother wasn't really in a position to support me.
It just seems my father is now completely uninterested in anything I do, unless it's bad, which has meant I just lost all effort, and became incredibly lazy.
I suppose I noticed first when I got my SATs results. Although they're not at all important, I felt I'd done really well (7/7/7). When I came home the day I had my results I told my dad, and he just sort of went "Oh, that's nice..." then started talking about something else, which left me a bit dis-heartened. After that it seemed anything I achieved, he just had less and less interest. I barely went to school in years 10 and 11, because I just couldn't be bothered.
The only time he really cares is if I do something wrong, then he goes mad.
Earlier this year, a friend killed himself, and obviously haven't been the same since, but when I spoke to him about it on the day, he just brushed it off and went out with his girlfriend.
When I got my GCSE results earlier this year (which weren't brilliant, but better than average, and I was proud of them, especially after what's gone on this year), he said "Oh, that's good" and never mentioned it again. Everyone else's parents took them out for meals etc., but nothing like that with me, not even a well done.
He's also incredibly stingy with money and me, even though he earns a fair amount. For example, I've had to pay for my own internet for the last year or so because he says he can't afford to pay for broadband (although he paid it for the first year, when it was really expensive
) him and his girlfriend are going on a 2 week cruise on the QM2 later this year, as they did last year, and he's always buying expensive things. It seems like he sort of resents me, and wished he didn't have children.
He just seems to be completely
Reply 1
Pick up the effort, apply to uni, and get the hell outta there?
Reply 2
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Any chance of going to live with your mum now?
Reply 3
Champagne-Dahling, That is the plan, but I'm only in the first year of college, so it's another two years 
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Talya, not really, I'd feel guilty, as she has health problems and works like 14 hours a day, so I'd just be another strain on her, both in me living there and financially.
I don't hate my Dad, I love him to bits, but it's really frustrating.
.Talya, not really, I'd feel guilty, as she has health problems and works like 14 hours a day, so I'd just be another strain on her, both in me living there and financially.
I don't hate my Dad, I love him to bits, but it's really frustrating.
Reply 4
Forgot to add, when I do get to uni, I'm going far away! I'm thinking Kent, as it looks like a nice place and it's about 5 hours from here!
Reply 5
I know it sounds harsh but I persoanlly think you should stop trying to make him take an interest in you. If your proud of something youve achieved then tell your mum or other relatives and friends, and confide in them. Eventually your dad may or may not realise that things have changed between you and he wants to put it right again, or maybe he wont. One of my mates dads is almost exactly like you have described, and he has found the best solution is to just give him a wide berth.
Reply 6
Achieve things for youself - not for the approval of others. Might sound simplistic... because it is.
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