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longterm boyfriend probs
i'm having a bit of a dilema with my long term boyfriend (3 yrs)at the moment, we've been a bit rocky for ages, and now i'm at uni in lancaster whilst he's in leicester, it's a bit strained.
i know i need to talk to him and break it off, (my best mates so sick of telling me to do it, that he say's he will if i don't soon), but the next time i go back is for his birthday,and after that it's christmas. i can't afford to go home before, and i can't break up with him over the phone. any ideas?? it's eating me up
i know i need to talk to him and break it off, (my best mates so sick of telling me to do it, that he say's he will if i don't soon), but the next time i go back is for his birthday,and after that it's christmas. i can't afford to go home before, and i can't break up with him over the phone. any ideas?? it's eating me up
Reply 1
16
Are you sure your best male friend has entirely altruistic motives?
Reply 2
11
i dunno maybe you should tell him on the phone if you cant tell him any sooner.
i dont think it would be wise to tell him on his birthday or erm at xmas. hmm
whatever you do dont do it over msn like my ex did.
what a coward
i dont think it would be wise to tell him on his birthday or erm at xmas. hmm
whatever you do dont do it over msn like my ex did.
what a coward
Reply 3
19
Can't he come and see you if you're so hell bent on doing it face to face? Why should it be you doing all the legwork?
Just ring him up and say 'look, we need to talk, but we need to do it face to face, can you come and see me?'
If he says no, then...well. You'll have to do it over the phone, I guess. It's not ideal but it would be better than breaking up with him on his birthday or at Christmas. Good luck.
Just ring him up and say 'look, we need to talk, but we need to do it face to face, can you come and see me?'
If he says no, then...well. You'll have to do it over the phone, I guess. It's not ideal but it would be better than breaking up with him on his birthday or at Christmas. Good luck.
Reply 4
sucks when realtionships drag on and on eh? like and know the person too well to want to hurt them. but hey, its better for both of you to get it over with.. i was on the recieving end not so long ago- although not what i wanted its somewhat relieving when its all sorted.
i dont see anything wrong with doing it over the phone- especially when you wont see each other for a long time.
i dont see anything wrong with doing it over the phone- especially when you wont see each other for a long time.
Reply 5
Jimmy_everything
sucks when realtionships drag on and on eh? like and know the person too well to want to hurt them. but hey, its better for both of you to get it over with.. i was on the recieving end not so long ago- although not what i wanted its somewhat relieving when its all sorted.
i dont see anything wrong with doing it over the phone- especially when you wont see each other for a long time.
i dont see anything wrong with doing it over the phone- especially when you wont see each other for a long time.
I know whatyou mean totally. I haven't atcually broke the relationship off yet, but i think it's needs to be done, having said that, we sometimes have so much fun, but the other half we argue
so I have no idea what to do really 
Reply 6
19
There goes the anon....
Reply 7
11
Angelil
There goes the anon....
haha i never notice when that happens
Reply 8
Not to sound horrible but if you've both just started uni the chances are you may start to drift apart anyway so, the sooner the better really. That way you both have the chance to do whatever you want to as single people. Dragging it out sucks.
Reply 9
10
can you afford to go maybe halfway? Meet him somewhere. will make it easier being on nutral ground aswel.
It must be a hard dessicion but I am concernd that your best friend is having a big say in it?
It must be a hard dessicion but I am concernd that your best friend is having a big say in it?
Reply 10
Hey slow down there no need to break it off just yet not without talking and finding out whats wrong and whether you can come up with a compromise, surely he can come and see you.
Reply 11
Carl1982
Hey slow down there no need to break it off just yet not without talking and finding out whats wrong and whether you can come up with a compromise, surely he can come and see you.
we tried. we drifting apart but i haven't managed to sort anything because he's really stubborn. and i don't know whether he'd use the petrol money to come all the way up here (it's about 160miles)
and in answer to 'Are you sure your best male friend has entirely altruistic motives?' yes, he has a girlfriend, and is also a fair bit younger than me. he's just lookin out for me thats all, and is concerned i've let it drag on for so long.
as in answer to the question of why i let it carry on so long i've no idea whatso ever.
Reply 12
Well ask him if he wants a relationship anymore first, even if you ring him up, ask him what he wants.
Reply 13
but i already know the answer will be 'I don't know' thats what he always say's when i ask him
Reply 14
Maybe he's not sure himself, i think you both need a long talk to weigh up the options.
Reply 15
i agree, but we've tried times. they go round and round for hours cos neither of us can admitt to each other it's over. the trouble is, it's ok when i'm there, but it doesn't work anymore, and it's making me depressed.
Reply 16
Well something has to give, it can't continue like this in a stalemate it will only get worse, talk to each other, maybe suggest to him it's not going anywhere.
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