Help!!!!!!!!!

really need help with a situation i have with a friend at the moment.This might be long,please bear with me.

I first met this girl 2 years ago at uni.We pretty much hit it off straight away flirting etc etc. She had and still has a boyfriend who treats her badly.He cheated on her during the summer and only this week she was telling me she is sick of him. This girl i THINK has given me some major come on signals.She has said "she wants to get in with my family" she has said she "really cares" about me and tries to make me jealous by saying silly things.When i go out with a girl her face falls and she looks upset.I see her at uni 9-5 every day and we pretty much act like a couple,she moans at me and says stuff like "you dont buy me any presents and i buy you lots" etc etc and people have been commenting asking "whats going on between you two?". Our relationship however is strange, im quite mean to her only because i like her and i get annoyed with her and treat her badly bexause i think shes playing with me.Its a kind of *** for tat thing,she flirts with a guys in front of me and i flirt with a girls in front of her.

On Thursday yet another person that knows us said to me "whats going on with you two".At this point i cracked and decided to tell her ive got strong feelings for her.We had a chat by text and i told her i like her.She replied by saying she didnt believe me and she thinks im just confused.I said to her repeatedly i liked her but she said she didnt believe me. Eventually i said "do you want me to leave you alone",she replied by saying "no,i want you to be my friend".I replied by saying well why didnt you tell me that earlier,she then said "Because i dont think you do have feelings for me,youre always so mean to me,i think you're just confused.Ive told her loads of times by drunken texts that i like her more than a friend but then i take it back in the morning and say it was the alcohol talking.She said to me yesterday "youve told me so many times you like me when youre drunk then take it back,i dont know what to do"

I dont know what to do now.Part of me thinks she just doesnt believe me and thinks shell get hurt by me if she does,but part of me thinks that was a nice way of letting me down.I feel she wont give me a straight answer as to whether she likes me back and i dont know what to do now.Its tearing me apart

Reply 1

Anonymous #1

Ok. Just be a man and walk up to her and go:

You: Hi, You know how I told you that I like you? I was wondering whether you actually like me back in that way?

She: You know...drunken texts...don't know what to think about you...

You: That's not what I'm asking. I'm asking about you now. Do you like me in that way?

She: You're always so mean to me...blablabla....mehmehmeh...

You: Give me a straightforward answer, goddamnit!

She: I love you.

You: [kiss "she" on lips and take "she" to bed]

Whatever you do, don't let her NOT answer the question. That's what politicians do: they NEVER EVER answer the question. Don't let her be a politician. Politicians use heads, she should use her heart when answering such a question.

Reply 2

Phonicsdude

That's pretty good advice.
Although I would give up and move on.

Reply 3

MrImperfect

Yeah,im going to get a straight answer one way or the other.Why do you think shes not giving me one?.When i said "do you want me to leave you alone" and she said "i want you to be my friend" i thought id had it but when i asked her why she didnt tell me that earlier she replied with "cos i dont think you do like me,i think you just think you do" what the hell does that mean?

Reply 4

Overmars

why post that as anonymous? I would've given you pos rep for that :smile:

Reply 5

MrImperfect

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Although I would give up and move on.

I would if i didnt have to see her everyday at uni and her generally trying to play with me and her literally following me everywhere i go in uni.