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Find it hard to keep hard before putting on condom watch

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    Hi everyone,

    there is something that is worrying me and i am getting pretty upset about it now . Me and my girlfriend planned to have sex but twice now, when i have tried to put on the condom, i can't get it to go hard before i put it on. I don't know why this is, but when i try and make it hard when i'm with my girlfriend before i plan to put the condom on, i can't get hard. Getting her to give me a bit of oral makes me go hard but when i ask her to she says "you do it" in an embarrasing tone when i really need it.

    In the future if i manage to get hard and put the condom on, i'm scared that it will go soft inside her, and i'm just generally worried. Is there any advide people could give? Thanks alot, really appreciated.
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    If it's your first time then i think being nervous is normal so i would wait until you feel more comfortable together. She could be a bit more supportive perhaps? Maybe a guy could give a better answer.
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    Its probably the pressure giving you 'stage fright.' Try just letting it happen rather than forcing it. Your GF doesn't sound like she is helping by putting more pressure on, rather than trying to help you...
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    Sazarina88:

    Are you actually doing much foreplay? Spend some time working on this and staying "hard" shouldn't be a problem at all.

    Ron Stoppable:
    (Original post by dictionary.com)
    n : mutual erotic stimulation prior to sexual intercourse [syn: arousal, stimulation]
    Do it.
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    My ex boyfriend used to have the same problem, as soon as it came to getting the condom he would go soft and get 'stage fright', it wasnt his first time but it was OUR first time and I think he was worried he wouldnt be good. But I agree with what the person above said, make sure you spend a long time on foreplay, but dont make it a chore. you have to be excited enough that by the time it comes to applying the condom you wont even give it a second thought - it'll just be "whip it on as quick as possible too excited..." this happened with my ex bf and it worked. although I did find putting it on for him made him more at ease so have another word with her
 
 
 
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