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girl fancying a girl at uni watch

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    I've just started uni, having a great time, and I got to know a girl who I really like. The thing is I'm a girl too, and I've never been attracted to a girl before until I met her. We've become quite good friends, however, we have completely different personalities. She's very outgoing whereas I'm really shy etc.

    What's driving me crazy now is that, whenever I see her having fun or talking to other girls, it makes me jealous. I know it's really stupid to behave like this, but it does make me very depressed. How can I stop thinking like this??

    Thanks for any advice
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    I doubt your lesbian, you probably just get on really well with her hence the feelings you have...
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    Nah, she might have met her soul mate in female form o.0
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    omggg i have the exact same thing, i've basically been in love with mi best friend (we're both girls) for 6 years and it's killing me..
    maybe u admire her for the fact she's outgoing and want to be like that too? don't let this get too far - if you find yourself thinking about her stop asap because it will only get worse, don't let yourslef belive u fancy her and try to distance urself from her until you have worked your feelings out and have stopped lyking her in this way otherwise it will grow and grow. become friends with other people and learn from this girl to be outgoing and loud.
    good luck
    xxx
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    Blatently the OP is a male.
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    Do you know about homosexuals?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Blatently the OP is a male.
    er really let me quote the thread title


    girl fancying a girl at uni
    :rolleyes: still think the OP is male?
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    They probably can't process such a thought other then what mummy told them as a child.
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    lol, just meant sounds made up, but ofcourse i know homosexuals, come see my next door neighbours, and you talk to your mum about sex?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    and you talk to your mum about sex?
    *shudder*
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    ;dry;
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    well i was on the recieving end of your situation and i felt a little uncomfortable when she told me that she liked me. well very uncomfortable actually. i had never met a gay/lesbian/bisexual person before i came to uni so it was a bit of a shock really. i even thought that i may be some sort of homophobe for getting that uncomfortable. but anyway im not and im getting used to this diversity. life is strange. dont know why i rambled away there, ah well
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    omggg i have the exact same thing, i've basically been in love with mi best friend (we're both girls) for 6 years and it's killing me..
    maybe u admire her for the fact she's outgoing and want to be like that too? don't let this get too far - if you find yourself thinking about her stop asap because it will only get worse, don't let yourslef belive u fancy her and try to distance urself from her until you have worked your feelings out and have stopped lyking her in this way otherwise it will grow and grow. become friends with other people and learn from this girl to be outgoing and loud.
    good luck
    xxx
    Yeah I have thought of that but I don't think I 'admire' her for her outgoingness. I like the way I am to be honest. I just can't stop thinking of her! As I mentioned before, it makes me so jealous when i see her having a laugh with other girls or just generally chatting to them. What should i do??
    Should I tell her I really like her???
    Sorry if this sounds abnormal.
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    this is what I love about university. there's all these really great people and you get all these new ideas, new emotions and all that - it's great. but yes i can see your problem, i'm in sort of the same situation and a bit confused but i figure i'm just gonna wait and see what happens. if we do anything then fine, if not then that's fine too.
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    We need video evidence of this lesbian relationship before we can comment
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    This is what I love about university loads of people growing up yet they dont realise it and they seek guidance from a forum full of equally clueless teenagers
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    couldn't you tell her that you really like her and are happy to have met her without it sounding gay? it might get it off your chest, and also make you feel closer to her.

    once one of my best friends told me that she thought we should get married. i wouldn't recommend that approach. Although sometimes i regret turning her down (despite being straight) if i'm to be completely honest.

    and another: "i think i might be a lesbian.. because, like, when i'm with you i think about kissing you ... because i think you're really pretty..."

    That's another approach i wouldn't recommend. lol.
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    This is what I love about university loads of people growing up yet they dont realise it and they seek guidance from a forum full of equally clueless teenagers

    If I knew who you were I'd give you rep!

    If there's a point in your life where it's good for you to experiment with what you like/what you don't like, it's probably when you're at uni as you're trying so many different things!
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    Yeah I have thought of that but I don't think I 'admire' her for her outgoingness. I like the way I am to be honest. I just can't stop thinking of her! As I mentioned before, it makes me so jealous when i see her having a laugh with other girls or just generally chatting to them. What should i do??
    Should I tell her I really like her???
    Sorry if this sounds abnormal.
    it doesnt sound abnormal at all, infact pm me because ive been in this sorta situation before
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    Probably not the best idea to come up front with her just yet, she might get uncomfortable.
    Maybe just go out with her, have a few drinks each and ask her what she thinks about bi/lesbians, her tongue might be more loose and if you say anything she thinks is odd, she could pass it off as the drink talking?
 
 
 
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