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Disrespects me in front of his mates

Whenever me and my bf double date he always make comments about other women. The other night we went to the cinema and after he commented about the film saying imagine sh*gging a girl like the situation in the film but then changed it to my name. It annoys me as his mate laughs and my bf even says he will get a smack later for saying it.

This issue caused a big row on holiday when his mate was doing it behind his gf's back. My bf and his mate would soon shout if their gf's looked at someone else or commented on another bloke. I don't know if I should shout at him for being so unkind especially as I have low self esteem about my appearance.

Reply 1

a_t

You should have words with him, he shouldn't treat you like that it's not fair. If he doesn't change his ways you should question his suitability for you

Reply 2

gracie88

Talk to him, it seems that men do not really know they're doing wrong until told so. They aren't psychic, that said he should be able to tell when he's overstepping the line.

Reply 3

WokSz

I think you should maybe have a few words with him. Telling him you don't like it might make him realise that he shouldn't do so in front of you.

Reply 4

Anonymous #2

gracie88

Talk to him, it seems that men do not really know they're doing wrong until told so. They aren't psychic, that said he should be able to tell when he's overstepping the line.

seems like women think having fun is wrong

Reply 5

generalebriety

gracie88

Talk to him, it seems that men do not really know they're doing wrong until told so. They aren't psychic, that said he should be able to tell when he's overstepping the line.

Maybe men don't think in terms of "lines". I've always found it quite ridiculous that there is some invisible "line" somewhere in some woman's individual (and, in my experienced, messed up) view of morals which I'm not allowed to "overstep" otherwise I'm suddenly not allowed to talk to them again. I personally don't work like that. My morals are not anyone else's and if I think I'm acting morally soundly, I will continue to do so unless someone tells me that, in fact, I'm upsetting them for some certain reason.

I refuse to be bound by mental "lines".

Reply 6

Sithius

Anonymous

seems like women think having fun is wrong

Why go anon to say that? Scared? lmao, JUST HAVIN SOME FUN RITE LOLZZZZ

Reply 7

Jonquil

My bf used to do stuff like that, and i think u can either put up with it and whenever he says something then just right after come back at him about some guy, or tell him how upset it makes you. Dont worry that u shouldnt say anything cos u think u dont look so great, cos if he didnt think you looked good then he wouldnt be going out with you :smile:

and im sure he wont wanna risk losing you by upsetting you. dont just sit there and take it!!

Reply 8

Lala_luv

Being disrespectful in that way is very wrong and there is no excuse for it. Even if you do have low self esteem, simply tell him off, right in front of his friends when he does it. By the time you do it 2-3 times, he'll be so scared his mates will think hes a wally, he'll stop. But you have to be really firm about it, and even when he apologises, dont give him an inch even if you have forgiven him. Its the only way to sort boys out. =)

Reply 9

Me Me Me

Show him who's boss!!! Show him you will not stand for no bloody crap. Thats how you sort it. If he still pisses around - then give him a warning, make him listen! If he knows how much it upsets you then he will listen xx

Reply 10

Anonymous #1

I texted him about it as I don't like confrontation and he basically blamed our lack of sex - (fair enough) bout you don't make hurtful comments to make a point. I said I didn't want an argument but he annoyed me as he didn't apologise :mad:

Reply 11

ciara

I might be totally wrong here, but he sounds like a rude, insensitive guy who's getting an ego boost from you, and in doing so is lowering your self confidence further. However much you hate confrontation, I really think you should talk to him about this face to face and say how much it upsets you. If he continues to do it I really would consider getting rid, because it sounds like it's a symptom of a bigger issue in your relationship.

Reply 12

WokSz

I think maybe you should speak to him face to face?

Reply 13

pink_lucie

stick up for yourself!!!

Reply 14

Dragon24

If he is a decent guy he will talk to you and listen. Guys like this just show off to impress their mates, but is it worth risking a relationship for a laugh at others expense?