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    Well, basically, I started uni about a month ago and I have a MAJOR crush on one of my flatmates. The problem is, he has a girlfriend and they have been going out for over 2 years. Usually, I would just back off in this kind of situation, but the problem is that I think he is flirting A LOT with me, even the other girls on my flat have said that they think he likes me. Whenever we go out and he has a few drinks then he is all over me. He always puts his arms around me and kisses me on the cheek a lot. Then he holds my hands and pulls me close to him and just stares into my eyes and smiles for like a minute. Also, everywhere I go, he follows and I always catch him watching me when he's talking to other people. Maybe I'm just seeing what I want to see, but I'm pretty sure this is serious flirting. What do all you guys out there think? I'm also really confused coz he only does this after a few drinks. During the day we just joke around and act like really good mates. But he doesn't do this with any of the other girls in the flat. I don't know what to do. Should I speak to him or should I just leave it and push him away etc when he does this? But I don't want to lose him as a mate coz we get on so well but I'd love to take it further if he wants to! What do u guys think?
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    Push him away. If he has a girlfriend he's a no go zone.
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    it sounds like he really is flirting with you, but i wouldnt take it furthur if he's still with his girlfriend - especially if she's in the same city (is she?) - if he isnt with her anymore definately...but dont go all the way just do some stuff - and then see what its like the next morning - if its not akward and you're still acting like the day before awesome! - but that's just what i did....what you do is completley up to you, just make sure you wont regret it the next day...
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    yeh she's at the same uni and she's lives like a 5 minute walk away. plus, she's really nice so I don't think I could ever screw her over. I just don't know if I should flirt back or not in the hope that if he realises he like me he might break up with her at some point?
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    personally i would flirt back for fun (not seriously) but not take it further ever especially if she's nice...and if he does ever break up with her, wait a decent amount of time before hopping in with him
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    yeh she's at the same uni and she's lives like a 5 minute walk away. plus, she's really nice so I don't think I could ever screw her over. I just don't know if I should flirt back or not in the hope that if he realises he like me he might break up with her at some point?
    well that is screwing her over in disguise
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    Taken AND a flatmate is a very bad idea.
    It's all very nice thinking how convenient it would be to have a live-in boyfriend, but when it all goes horribly wrong you're left with an ex you have to live with. BAD BAD BAD idea.
    Plus, if he's taken, why bother. Save yourself the heartache.
    If you're that bothered make a drunken move towards the end of your tenancy agreement.
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    I wouldn't bother, A because he has a girlfriend and B because he's your flatmate, if something happens and you break up, it's going to be pretty awkward and if he has a roving eye when he has a girlfriend, do you really want to be his next girlfriend?
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    no way, you'd be breaking the flatmate rule! thats a really bad idea!
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    why would you want to be with a guy that sounds like he might cheat and who flirts with other girls?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Well, basically, I started uni about a month ago and I have a MAJOR crush on one of my flatmates. The problem is, he has a girlfriend and they have been going out for over 2 years. Usually, I would just back off in this kind of situation, but the problem is that I think he is flirting A LOT with me, even the other girls on my flat have said that they think he likes me. Whenever we go out and he has a few drinks then he is all over me. He always puts his arms around me and kisses me on the cheek a lot. Then he holds my hands and pulls me close to him and just stares into my eyes and smiles for like a minute. Also, everywhere I go, he follows and I always catch him watching me when he's talking to other people. Maybe I'm just seeing what I want to see, but I'm pretty sure this is serious flirting. What do all you guys out there think? I'm also really confused coz he only does this after a few drinks. During the day we just joke around and act like really good mates. But he doesn't do this with any of the other girls in the flat. I don't know what to do. Should I speak to him or should I just leave it and push him away etc when he does this? But I don't want to lose him as a mate coz we get on so well but I'd love to take it further if he wants to! What do u guys think?
    You're not called Jenny any chance?
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    You're not called Jenny any chance?
    Busted!
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    I would say back away (at least for now) while he's with his girlfriend, wait until he's single!!!

    As for the flatmate thing, I know two of my female friends who have each been going out with their male housemates for over a year now and they all seem happy So I can't condemn that side of it lol
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    Stay away from him it will only end in tears this, he can't love his girlfriend much if he's flirting around.
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    (Original post by Shreerac1)
    Push him away. If he has a girlfriend he's a no go zone.
    I agree, back off and tell him to back off - just think, if something happens and it all goes pear shaped then you will be forced to live under the same roof as him - not much fun then.
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    I'm not called Jenny by the way. How did u come to that conclusion? Thanks everyone for your advice. I'll just back off then and hope he stops doing it and that I find someone else who isn't taken!
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    I'm not called Jenny by the way. How did u come to that conclusion? Thanks everyone for your advice. I'll just back off then and hope he stops doing it and that I find someone else who isn't taken!
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    I'm not called Jenny by the way. How did u come to that conclusion? Thanks everyone for your advice. I'll just back off then and hope he stops doing it and that I find someone else who isn't taken!
    Ahaha because there is a little minx called Jenny who's attempted to do the same thing as you and messed up a lovely couple's 2 year relationship.

    Yes back off. It's not worth getting yourself a bad rep for.
 
 
 
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