How do you make a relationship official?

I've been seeing a guy for a while now, going on dates, spending a lot of time together, and I definitely want to make it exclusive. I don't know how to go about doing it though! I don't want to just come out with, "Will you go out with me?" coz it sounds desperate! How can I do it subtly? And how do people generally do it?

Reply 1

Shreerac1

Just ask him if you're going out officially because you'd like a date to have as your aniversery.

Reply 2

Zoecb

- Jokingly slip in 'Ooh, am I your girlfriend then?' at an appropriate moment.
- A friend might conveniently ask, 'So, are you two going out now then?' to which you can casually go to him, 'Yeah, that suits me... wanna be my boyfriend?'

Keep it light as if you're confirming something that you kind of both already knew but hadn't vocalised.

Reply 3

Spacecam

Shreerac1

Just ask him if you're going out officially because you'd like a date to have as your aniversery.

Yep - he'll love that!

Reply 4

JimmyJ

Let him jizz in your eye.

Reply 5

TomX

Don't you need to get a document to sign from your local council office?

Reply 6

high priestess fnord

wait till after sex then ask him out before the euphoria wears off.

Reply 7

MissHero

Tattoo your name on his face when he's asleep.

Reply 8

high priestess fnord

MissHero

Tattoo your name on his face when he's asleep.

Reply 9

JimmyJ

Lay a terd in his bed.

Reply 10

PKLO

JimmyJ

Let him jizz in your eye.

LOLL!

Reply 11

username47781

Best way i think is straight to the point, ask him.

Reply 12

Fleece

I believe I last got asked out by the immortal words, "So, can I call you my bitch now?"

You could try something like that. :p:

Reply 13

minimo

Become Facebook official :biggrin:

Reply 14

Laursy

ask him where he thinks its going to go, or what he wants to happen with you two, i asked the guy i was seeing he said he wanted a relationship and i said no i dunt!!!

now we are mates you have to get it straight because if you lead yourselves on someone could get hurt!!! its best to find these things out

Reply 15

Tarts_n_Vicars

My bf formally asked me to be his gf but in a jokey way because he's older than me and it sounded v. cheesey.

Just ask "are we bf and gf now" or something along those lines. He might be thinking the exact same thing.

Reply 16

best75

Just ask him where you stand.

Reply 17

khil

I just up and asked - so is this a relationship then? (by "relationship" we both knew it was either a serious relationship right from the start or we stop our kissing etc altogether, which at the time has lasted for one day) Given how we couldn't stop holding hands and all, it didn't even cross my mind that he might not want a relationship lol. It's been 10 months now so I was obviously right :p:

Anyhow - just up and ask him, I would. If he wants a serious relationship, he'd be happy you asked cus it shows you want it too and he wouldn't be freaked out. If he freaks out then he obviously doesn't want it and if you then still stayed with him, then you're just gonna end up getting very hurt and letting him have his cake and eat it. Any real relationship starts with trust and if you can't trust him to stay when commitment issues arise then he's not worth staying for, nor would it ever work anyway.